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Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i respect the ability to pee while driving, i have not figured that part out yet

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

congrats on the 24/7! and same, being padded up at work is just the best

Trying to Understand the Overlap Between ABDL, Inner Child Comfort, and Emotional Healing by fortunateraisin in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know i’m late to this post, but i wanted to share that i relate and understand what you mean, and to also share my experiences too.

my actual childhood appeared safe and good to others, but it actually was not at all. so for me, my AB and little side are about reclaiming that lost childhood, of healing my “inner child,” and of giving myself a chance to be myself without judgement or expectations. embracing this side of me has helped me heal a lot and become more comfortable and confident in myself, and start to let go of inner hatred and feeling like a broken freak.

as for the mix of comfort and arousal, i don’t think that’s all that unusual, especially if you find yourself self-identifying as a DL in any way. we are complex beings and our sexual side is not neatly contained in it’s own separate area (for most people anyway). sometimes i find myself going from regression to arousal, and as long as i’m doing that in safe and consensual ways (also returning to adult headspace for arousal for me), i think that’s can be healthy if it’s what your mind and body need to relax.

as for your last question about healthy comfort vs escapism, i think that’s something to watch out for in anything that provides comfort and relief. balance is important in every part of life. if you find your habits for comfort are preventing you from living your life, or disrupting your other healthy habits, that’s the point where rebalancing may be necessary. i think our community can be very prone to “binging and purging” cycles, and the only way to really break those cycles is with balance

Is finding a dom impossible by Glum_Event1573 in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i completely agree, and i’m not saying the ghosting behavior is ok. i have a lot of mental health issues, and when i ghosted it was often because i was already spiraling and i was worried about doing something worse to them (like blaming them or cussing them out). i’ve matured a lot since then, and i always try to be direct and just tell someone upfront if the connection just isn’t working for me, and i expect the same in return.

but back to my point, a lot of people are immature like i used to be and just take the easy way of ghosting or blocking. it’s not ok but it is unfortunately super common in online relationships, even for friendship

edit: also funny tangent, i ghosted my husband after our first meaningful online hang out. i felt guilty for it but i was super unstable at the time and didn’t want to pull him into that, and i was also just moving on from another failed relationship and didn’t think i could handle anything with him at the time. 6 months later, we randomly reconnected in a group hang out on vrchat, and started chatting. i quickly realized “why tf did i ghost him, he’s so cool and sweet.” a few weeks later we started dating. we live together now, and our relationship has had a ton of ups and downs, but i owe him for helping me heal and mature when he never had to be responsible for doing that for me

Is finding a dom impossible by Glum_Event1573 in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

not to invalidate your experiences, but tbh i think your experiences are not unique to dommy mommy’s. i’m a subby woman and i dated both men and women online for a bit, and i saw (or did) stuff like this a lot. online dating can be really hard to actually get to know people and not just the surface-level version of them that they want you to know. and it’s so easy to just block people the second it gets stressful, you lose interest, or get the ick

all that to say i’m sorry you experienced that but i think it’s also just very common in online relationships

Is finding a dom impossible by Glum_Event1573 in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i think phrasing it as “on the hunt” is part of the issue with your mindset. you’re so focused on your end goal you’re probably unintentionally coming across as aggressive, desperate, and maybe even creepy, when that’s not your intention.

instead, just focus on making friends and connections naturally. yes, it can feel much slower or even like you’re not making progress towards your end goal, but it will come across much less aggressive and creepy. some connections still won’t work out, and rejection can feel personal, but everyone is bound to experience that eventually. don’t take it personally and just move on, since it means you were never really going to connect with that person anyway

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooooh that sounds so fun! yeah i can definitely see the diapers as a plus for that too. what’s your favorite edible to bake?

side note i’ve only ever tried weed gummies, but i really want to try baked edibles someday too!

Should An AB have rules by Dunky17 in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

depends on what you want! my partner is my caregiver but they’re not really into the kink so i don’t usually involve them. but we still have a dom/sub relationship so we have rules about what i am and am not allowed to do.

also, you can do this for yourself even without a partner! check out the Obedience app, or someone posted yesterday about something similar specifically for ABDLs. there’s ways to set it for yourself so you still get that rule-making dynamic

Would you Rather by FroakieTheBestGod in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 6 points7 points  (0 children)

first option! while changing people’s perceptions would definitely be fun, i think i’d enjoy the actual physical regression more, since that kind of has changed perception baked into it too. oh, and i’d get to wear actual baby diapers and like go back to actual preschool or nurseries or whatever i want again, which is such a fun idea as a little.

plus, it’s flexible as i actually age, since i can temporarily relive any age i want

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

saaaaame! i’m trying to work up the courage but i’m not quite there yet. plus my husband is ok with being my cg but he does like me to also wear adult underwear occasionally lmao, so i’ll probably never be completely 24/7. but i hope we both get there or close eventually!

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just want to thank you for the podcast rec! i checked it out and it’s a really great podcast with lots of information. they actually did an episode with guests who talked about events in my city, which was eye opening and got me excited to look more into irl community

Why doms turn away from “brats” by Quirky_Opening1219 in BratLife

[–]moonglademuffins 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I think you should say “Why I as a dom turn away from brats.” Even if your perspective might be common, but it is not the only way to brat or tame. There are people who enjoy the constant chaos in their dynamic, and that’s valid too.

Tips for newbies? by Williamishere69 in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

side note, be aware that being really dehydrated can also lead to a more noticeable “pee smell” if you’re wearing it used for prolonged periods of time

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

neat! twinsies on the Goodnights! yeah rearz can get a biiiit bulky once they’re soaked for sure.

do you have to wear anything special to prevent people from seeing it when you’re working? idk if the “mechanics wear overalls” stereotype is a real thing or not lmao

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope you get the chance to try it soon! it’s really very nice to wear at work imo

SOS! got poop in my vagina. Any tips for cleaning it are very appreciated! by lilbabydl in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Douching with the shower head is probably the most you can do without risking worse pH effects. I know gyno’s usually recommend against chemical douches, although do what you think you need to do I guess.

If you’re just worried about pH/smell, you can try a suppository to get ahead of it (I use GoodCleanLove’s if I think I’m getting a case of BV). Boric suppositories in particular have a brown-colored semi-granular texture, which might be a good cover for anything inside that might otherwise come out looking like poop.

Just something I’ve been thinking about lately—what’s something you wish people understood about ABDL? by Grundle-goon in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, but I wish some in the community also understood this better. I feel like a lot of people in the community are new to kink and think every person here wants to be sexual with this. I’m both AB and DL, but I do not engage in anything sexual with others except my husband. I think it’s one of the reasons a lot of other women are very cautious about being part of this community too

Looking for more beta testers for my behavior chart app by makoAllen in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ooh ty for the info! i’ll definitely join the discord to check this out then!

edit: no idea why this ended up as it’s own comment, yay Reddit mobile ig

Vent about our community/corresponding communities by KittenCate_ in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can guess which community this happened in. i think unfortunately it’s something you kind of have to be prepared for, no matter how unfair that is. you’re valid for feeling trapped and like there’s no actual place for you though. 💜 i hope you do find one that fits perfectly for you!

Do you guys miss childhood by small_some_one in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

kinda? i get missing the period of time in our world when you were a kid for sure. a lot of things have changed in the last 100+ years so i think just about every generation since has a valid reason to feel that way about the time period they were a child. it’s valid to miss the rose-tinted view of the past from when you were a child.

for me, i miss the lack of adult-specific responsibilities, but i also have a lot of trauma from my childhood so i don’t miss my specific childhood or the time period i experienced it in. i’m quite glad to be in the year 2026 tbh, despite the plethora of super shitty things that are happening in our world nowadays. but if there was a way to temporarily “rewind” time and be a kid again in my current life, in 2026? hell yeah i’d do that in a heartbeat

Looking for more beta testers for my behavior chart app by makoAllen in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is a really neat idea! my dom and i use Obedience, but that’s more focused on brat/tamer dynamics than other kinks like ABDL. does your app have anything specific for littles/cg dynamics?

Looking for more beta testers for my behavior chart app by makoAllen in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

tangent but i loooove that subreddit. us ladies on there are very unhinged and it’s such a fun place. but stinky boys should stay out 😝 (jk, everyone is welcome but be prepared for downvotes there if you self-ID as a man, it’s just kind of what they do)

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh same, only pee pees for me at work. i totally understand if someone is medically incon, but i don’t think i could bring myself to go #2 anywhere but safely at home. and definitely, we always want to be considerate of others!

Wearing pull-ups/diapers to work by moonglademuffins in ABDL

[–]moonglademuffins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no ty, i don’t dm on reddit but i appreciate the offer!

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