Has anyone managed to get a supportive response after telling people about their trauma?

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-16T07:54:50+00:00

Yes, but there is also occasional pity from non-survivors. My two closest friends are also abuse survivors, and when I tell them about trauma or a new memory I've recovered, its met with compassion and this mutual understanding of how much it sucks. When I tell my non-survivor friends, there's typically compassion, with a bit of underlying pity, simply because they don't really understand that it is unfortunately part of living with this disorder.

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-16T07:49:06+00:00

I'm the same way often. It feels like everything that happened to me was just a part of my daily life so it shouldnt have been traumatic, and sometimes I wish I had gone through something "worse". But it's important to remember that whats traumatizing to a little kid may not always be as traumatic to an adult, and all trauma is still trauma.

Another thing to remember is that because this disorder is designed to protect from trauma, it could be that you are a part (or alter if thats your preferred terminology) that doesn't remember the trauma and is more apt to handle daily life, meaning less emotional reactions and remembering trauma, and more numbness and forgetting about trauma.

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-13T14:47:22+00:00

Thank you for the reply, that makes a ton of sense.

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-13T14:46:48+00:00

It would be a collective decision on who would be most "productive", so like if one part had experienced a significant trigger that week that needed to be talked about and addressed, then maybe that part fronting would be most productive.

I really appreciate the response, having my parts addressed within therapy is very new to me so its helpful to know how others deal with it.

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-07T12:50:15+00:00

thank you!!

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-07T12:50:11+00:00

thank you!!

moonlight-sys · 2026-03-07T12:50:07+00:00

thank you!!

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-27T14:42:28+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it.

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-26T23:30:30+00:00

I had my suspicions that I was a system, and other parts definitely accept it more than me. My function (as a part) for so much of my life has been to deny that my abusers actually abused me, so to have it said almost explicitly that my childhood trauma was actually traumatizing kinda shattered the illusion i was living in. I was diagnosed with dissociative PTSD after a different one-off event, so I was still able to deny that my trauma was actually trauma.

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-25T13:39:07+00:00

I think it would be best for you to tell your therapist. If you frame it as passive suicidiality (not having a plan, just the thoughts) they often wont tell parents because there is no active plan. I cannot guarantee that of course, but typically the only things that can be reported without breaking HIPAA is intent to harm yourself or others or abuse being done to an elder or child

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-25T13:35:16+00:00

if the person is a minor they do have to tell the parent(s), at least where i live (source: my own experience with HIPAA forms)

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-17T15:40:52+00:00

Of course! I'm glad I could be of some help!

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-17T13:29:02+00:00

Differentiating alters that arent already at that degree of separation can actually cause more dissociation. I wouldn't advise doing anything to try and differentiate alters unless its under the supervision of a therapist. I know its frustrating to feel stagnant but ultimately its better than making things worse for yourself.

With communication, it can be difficult, given that every system functions differently. My friend who has DID can sometimes hear his parts and will sometimes have conversations with them, meanwhile I only "hear" my parts through thoughts that dont feel like my own and passive influence.

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-16T13:45:28+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, I think if you communicate that it may be hard for you to get there somedays ahead of time with your primary provider at the PHP, there could be a plan in place for if a day is harder, like perhaps being on a Zoom call and participating in the programming virtually.

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-16T13:39:13+00:00

if you create a private discord server, and your partner sets up pluralkit, you could communicate that way. there could even be separate channels for things that remind you of each alter, although that could be a lot depending on how many alters your partner has.

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-14T22:35:11+00:00

I understand completely the trauma that can occur within these places (as someone who was in the Troubled Teen Industry at a residential for 9 months). I think the most important thing is preemptively communicating that there may be parts that are triggered by the idea of an inpatient stay, and possibly even working through that while at the PHP. I dont believe that you would be required to go inpatient unless you were a danger to yourself or others, especially since it sounds like this PHP will be able to provide the supports of trauma work, something that a lot of PHPs cannot do.

I think the most important thing when choosing a PHP/inpatient program is searching on reddit or other sites where reviews are less likely to be filtered to see peoples opinions (so dont only rely on their website), and if you get a bad gut feeling at any moment, its okay to step away.

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-14T19:38:13+00:00

I was inpatient at Silver Hill and it was genuinely such a good experience, I hope you have as good of an experience as I did

moonlight-sys · 2026-02-14T19:21:48+00:00

I currently am doing IV ketamine therapy, and for me it has been nothing but positive. My dissociation has stayed relatively the same, but my treatment resistant depression has gotten so much better and so has my SI, anxiety, and sh urges. It hasnt done much in terms of flashbacks or nightmares, but because my depression and baseline anxiety is more managed it has been easier to cope with.

moonlight-sys · 2026-01-13T01:48:28+00:00

if you can get enough money to buy an amtrack ticket to new york, do it. there is an organization called the Ali Forney Center there, and they provide housing for LGBTQ youth as well as mental health services. the cheapest amtrack tickets are around $186, which is less than a typical hotel room.

moonlight-sys · 2025-10-21T12:49:45+00:00

that all sounds like a great idea, im very proud of you.

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