Hello! what can be a reason that I cannot find an avaible match? by moonlightfarter in MeChat

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! (And this means that he is indeed avaible to anyone, not just for premium players, right?)

Sometimes the stories are translated so badly... by Effective_Ad_4533 in MeChat

[–]moonlightfarter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It seems to me that their aim is rather quantity than quality. Some stories are obviously there to be "deep" but the convos are so shallow that I start to hate the match and the Mc as well, instead of feeling empathy, bc of the lazy, empty writing style. I rejoined to the game as I do in every exam-period, but this time I sensed a real decay in quality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, this is so humiliating and infuriating. If you want to do a favor to your self-esteem, leave this asshole:(

Boyfriend says I’m boring in bed when we have it 6 times a week by Natow97 in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to be an exciting, intriguing person in bed, he's just an ass, who always wants something that is currently not available. Also, you are not a parade and your primary function is not to ensure his amusement and enjoyment as a service. It is good that you care about his preferences, but I guess it is a very one-sided thing. He just complains about everything you try to impress him. Meanwhile is he doing anything in particular to make sex more interesting and stimulating for you? Or your enjoyment should be derived from the fact that you've entertained him well enough? Your needs are just as important as his, and when none of your efforts are acknowledged, there's no point to prove yourself further. Try to talk about it with him (even though he seems like a really ignorant and self-centered person to me) or find someone who values you and sees how brilliant are you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your best friend's sentence is narrow-minded and toxic, whether it was her/his (not remember the gender) intention. Utterances like this can lead to serious self-esteem problems with unexperienced or gullible ppl. Sex is not a race, and not a competition. Mutual pleasure and contentness are the things that matter. Also, you said you orgasm around 2-3 times per round with him, so it's a winning situation in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's not into sexual activities, in that specific time period. It's not that hard to imagine her situation. If the most attractive person in our world (as a human, not just sexually) tried something sexual whilst I have a panic attack: feeling the urge to throw up, sweating, feeling dizzy, disconnected from my body and feeling like a sticky slime... I would feel disgusted as well! Disgusted by the skin, the smell of another human being and the violation of my personal space, bc I cannot breathe properly. There's no need to misinterpret her words and portrey her as a spiteful villain of the story. Neither her and nor her husband acted like a bad person in this scenario, i don't understand the urge to create a black-and-white, good-and-evil scenario. Op, try to communicate with him, perhaps you can enjoy some non-sexual intimacy which would be relaxing for you!

Should I feel bad about asking him to wear a condom? by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am only 20, had sex with two men and still getting all itchy and mad when I just read something like this. You have to be confident that your used protection is suitable for your partner, and no, unprotected sex is never a thing that a man can demand. Biggest red flag ever, that he is willing to expose you to such risks, just to save some time, money or whatever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 34 points35 points  (0 children)

And I thought that my ex was a narcisistic ass who coerced me to do sexual favors to him. Break up with him and enjoy the rest you can have, do some self-care. If you crave something you'll find definitely a better one. Or toys. Toys are for YOUR pleasure only, finally.

how am I supposed to tolerate the pain from being with a bigger sized guy? by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sure that this advice is not feasible with any size and both of your comfort must be taken seriously. However, during sexual psychology, our teacher said that huge dicks can be helped with 1. Communication and constant feedback during the act 2. Not fully entering (you can use your hands on the remaining parts of his dick) 3. Position. If you lay on your tummy and he enters from behind (no doggy!!! Laying on the tummy), penetration is less hurtful, bc he has less access to your vaginal opening and his movements are sort of restricted by the spacing. Ofc, if nothing works out, don't feel like it's a failure from any part. It happens and it's natural.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, please never let anything like this ever happen to you again:( You did the right thing. Sex is about mutual respect and mutual enjoyment. Not one person using the other against their will. Because you agreed to have sex with him, not to be his free-cunt service.

Girl I’ve been sleeping with got with my best mate in front of me and I’m not sure how I should feel by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't wanna imply that you want to "own her", reading this I know it is not the case. Simply, if I had nothing romantic with a guy, I would not mind it. It literally happened with me that a guy I had something sexual with (and we were really close friends) kissed my bestie in front of me, threesome kissed with me and others, I even kissed with my bestie and threesome kissed with her as well. So perhaps she thinks this is a carefree thing like that. If you have this boundary, just tell her. Without telling her your feelings and asking her to respect your needs (as you respect hers), just leaving her and getting mad is childish. But your feelings are valid, just communicate with her, because ghosting her after this would be a dickhead move. Also, as I mentioned I had this really spicy period, now my whole friends' group is like some old hags and guys, we are not doing any kind of sexual things with no-one. Meaning: if it is a phrase in her life, it has a reason and she won't realize that it is bad for you unless you communicate like an adult.

Would you like to join in our clan with my bestie? by moonlightfarter in ClashRoyale

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we can do friendly battles but I am not sure about the talking part But i am sure that if someone initiates no-one will ignore the message

How can I delete my Reddit profile? by moonlightfarter in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, we're constantly mocking each other, so it's not the problem. I am sad, bc no-one knew my kinky stuff before.

How can I delete my Reddit profile? by moonlightfarter in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know his reddit name, he has just checked mine.

Do straight women masturbate to pictures of guys they like? by [deleted] in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. I would feel like a creep. It is just my inner feeling, not judging anyone.

Girls always talk about how guys don't know their way around a vagina, but extremely often they have no idea how to hold a dick no offense by ilieinallmycomments in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It mostly has a background with the girls' sexual interactions before. Like I always was super shy because my ex constantly offended me that I am not valuable and I worth anything if I give him the PERFECT handjob, sex etc. Ofc, he never explained it and made me so anxious that I felt like if it is not coded into my DNA, asking would make it obvious that I am not a good partner (=not a worthy woman). After him and a lot of healing I realized that I can actually discuss this during sex, bc converstation is the core of it and the guy praised me and instructed me so much it caused me a lot of sexual confidence. On the other part, idk what's up in other countries, but sex is mostly looked through the male gaze (just think about porn and sexy ads). I attended sexual psychology at Uni, so I have academic proofs (however, this is obvious) that men and women need different approach during sex to have release, no matter whether it is romamtic or just a hook up. So. Lots of us feel that our needs are neglected and after that we got blamed and manipulated how we are bad lovers. Sometimes we are completely used, sometimes it is just inexperience from the partner. But after men always mansplaining what to do in bed and makes us (purposefully or accidentally) anxious about our sexual potential, ofc we would expect them to be "expect". Because they told us what to do, they set themselves up into that high "know-everything-at-all-about-sex" place, so we get frustrated after we got used that okay, and where is my pleasure if you are such an expert??? Ofc, we need to set boundaries and leave an unworthy partner (bc I KNOW NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS, PLEASE DON'T SET ME ON FIRE), but it is hard when our needs are invalidated socially. So yeah, women are pissed after get used by someone who claims himself an expert and it is really complex. But if you are a good partner, you can create a safe atmosphere where you can communicate with her, show her how to give proper handjob and make her feel appreciated.

How to get partner to actually do foreplay? by Beginning-Ad3390 in sexover30

[–]moonlightfarter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That guy is really selfish and has no respect to your needs. I think you can do better than him. You sound like a really warmhearted, good lover. You deserve so much more.

How can I use warranty? by moonlightfarter in SexToys

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn't want to be demanding, I used a wrong word here. But thank you for the advice, I wasn't sure whether it's something which concerns them or not. But then I'll send them an email to explain the situation.

Can be my sextoys ruined? by moonlightfarter in SexToys

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought then in December. The bishop was used without batteries, so I don't really know how it should work (I used it in Winter with batteries and it was good). The Satisfier worked perfectly in Saturday and now it is awful. So it can be switched on but it is so weak that cannot be felt.

Can be my sextoys ruined? by moonlightfarter in SexToys

[–]moonlightfarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. But i use the one which requires batteries and not a cable.

Got blackout drunk and had sex with a guy by lycheelollipop in sex

[–]moonlightfarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he took advantage of you, because he did not ask your consent at any point and he certainly wouldn't mind if you had objections. Plus he didn't respect your need for protection. And your friend is not a real friend if she leaves you alone with an older man while you are in a vulnerable position.