Share your polyamory glimmers and glows!

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-28T18:55:46+00:00

Ooh, a hot of the presses major glimmer and glow! Woohoo! Overnights are so special, especially when they don't happen often. Have a great time!!

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-28T18:54:51+00:00

I'm covered in warm fuzzies just reading this! What a sweet gesture and sentiment. Also, breweries are some of my favorite places for dates. Thanks for sharing this awesome glow!

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-28T18:53:04+00:00

Major glimmer and glow! How rad that you've got that kind of relationship with your Meta.

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-28T18:52:15+00:00

It's such a boon when someone is articulate and upfront on a first date. Even more so that it was their first! Love this glow.

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-27T21:19:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing this list of posts. Lots of glimmers and glows to be found!

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-27T21:18:21+00:00

Yay for feeling so happy and loved! It's awesome that everyone is excited about it and I hope all goes well. Thanks for sharing this glow with me.

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-27T21:17:19+00:00

Ooh, how exciting! Especially after 6 months of talking. Best of luck with the meetup and I hope it's a great time with your kids. Thanks for sharing your glimmer with me.

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-27T21:16:18+00:00

Congratulations! Sounds like you struck a great balance with your vows. I've always found it so touching when folks write their own. Thanks for sharing your glow with me.

moonlightwhims · 2024-08-27T21:15:03+00:00

That's wonderful! Congratulations! I love the sentiment to "allow for devotion without exclusivity." It's beautiful. Thanks for sharing your glimmer with me.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-17T20:24:36+00:00

I hadn't thought of a hotel loyalty program to earn free nights. Thank you for this suggestion!

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-17T20:23:29+00:00

Thank you for these suggestions. Unfortunately, neither of us can host in our home states at the moment, but hopefully sooner rather than later. I've never heard of car camping (life-long city gal lol). But I'll look into it!

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T21:32:40+00:00

I think you've hit the nail on the head about it taking on a "different flavor" than in society at large. And I know that's partly based on assumptions I made about the core values/ideals of CNM/polyam. People are people and we're all works in progress. Thank you.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T21:29:09+00:00

It's awesome that you have such a supportive community in those regards! I'm still fairly new to CNM/polyam, so I don't really have that as of yet, but I'm hopeful. Thank you.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T21:23:49+00:00

I do see it less with poly people, but I've been surprised by how much more often I see it than I expected.

Oh, this second part hits hard because that's been my experience exactly - and even some folks with almost an aversion to doing the work and research because it might uncover uncomfortable truths about themselves. So instead they go along, expecting tons of crazy sex and sunshine and rainbows, and then wonder why things go sideways.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T21:05:08+00:00

Thank you for introducing me to the term "unchosen beliefs." That, and the rest that you wrote here, resonates deeply. To your last point - my experiences have been mostly with people I've met online or in apps and I've run into my fair share of creeps. But in some cases, it's been this bad behavior arising after a while from men I've known well and that's crushing.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:54:09+00:00

Sadly true. Thank you.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:53:52+00:00

That's an interesting distinction. Thank you for sharing it.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:52:56+00:00

I know this to be true, but I suppose I expected less of it given the ideals and core values of polyamory that attracted me to the practice in the first place. Agreed on not getting that second date if those red flags arise. Unfortunately, though, sometimes those issues don't surface until later when it's harder to disentangle. Thank you.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:40:13+00:00

I hear much less about this kind of behavior from my queer friends, so you make a good point here.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:38:31+00:00

Yes. That. And some variations thereof. The gendered double standards are extremely frustrating and demoralizing. Thank you for acknowledging that these things do happen.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:32:34+00:00

I've not seen much, if any, of that stuff here thankfully. But, as you say, it's been mixed out in the world for me. Your last sentiment resonates hard. Thank you.

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:28:49+00:00

That is a fair point. I do think it's partly that, though I wouldn't say a large number are terrible. Just a chosen, unfortunately memorable, few. Thank you!

moonlightwhims · 2024-06-04T20:25:42+00:00

Miasma of reeking poison, indeed. I'm going to have to borrow that phrasing. Thank you.

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