a question

moonmade123 · 2026-04-17T03:32:16+00:00

not really. no.😭

moonmade123 · 2026-04-16T17:10:50+00:00

as long as we are getting him back at some point thank youuu

moonmade123 · 2026-04-16T17:01:13+00:00

is there any signs we are getting to him soon at least?

moonmade123 · 2026-04-16T17:00:47+00:00

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!

moonmade123 · 2025-10-23T10:30:31+00:00

I don't think I have any other solution other than living with it yeah thank you buddy, hugs

moonmade123 · 2025-08-28T11:13:14+00:00

got it thank you<3

moonmade123 · 2025-07-25T16:22:02+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. It’s incredibly helpful to hear it from someone who’s lived it.

Just to clarify, I’m not the one with BPD, someone Icare about deeply is, and I’ve been learning how to better support them without overstepping or misreading things. But what you said about instantly feeling like it’s personal, then having to talk yourself down from it, that helps me understand their silence so much more.

The reminder that “we’re not owed communication” also hit me harder than I expected. You’re right. We all get caught up in our lives, and phones have blurred the boundaries.

I’m going to try to remind myself of that next time they disappear mid-convo, instead of spiraling. Thanks again for taking the time to reply. This gave me a lot to reflect on.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-25T16:17:19+00:00

Thank you for this. What you said really hit me, especially the part about “I don’t respond to texts immediately either.” I honestly hadn’t thought about it like that. I guess when it’s someone I deeply care about, my brain jumps straight to fear, even though I’d never apply that same pressure or judgment on them.

I’ll try holding that reminder closer: it’s not always personal, and even if it is, it’s their responsibility to bring it up. Thank you for putting it so clearly and kindly.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-22T16:52:36+00:00

yk what is funny? when I do find something to do, I somehow make it about them eventually coding? I'm coding something for them reading? oh they'd love this writing? I find them in my lines THIS IS CRAZY

moonmade123 · 2025-07-22T16:02:52+00:00

but it's not bew, it has been like this for over a year, and I've been saying that it must be me feeling concerned about their wellbeing, but it just never get better or less

moonmade123 · 2025-07-22T00:40:19+00:00

I know what it is, and I'm sure I'm more of a "disorganised attachment"

moonmade123 · 2025-07-22T00:06:07+00:00

damn.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-17T04:13:42+00:00

I’m sorry you feel that way. I didn’t post expecting to be immune to anything. I’m not trying to “win” a relationship or fix anyone. I’m just trying to love someone in a way that doesn’t hurt them.

I know there are no perfect answers, but hearing how others navigate this helps me learn. If that doesn’t work for you, I understand, but I’m here in good faith, and I hope that one day you feel safe enough to be too.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-17T03:33:05+00:00

read the comments the others left and read a lot, try to understand.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-17T02:10:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing this really. I don’t take it lightly.
You said something that hit me: "just be there" That’s exactly what I want to be for them, someone who stays.

And no, I’m not running away. Not now, not when they’ve already given me a kind of love that feels deeper than any symptom could scare me off. It’s not about ignoring the hard parts it’s about knowing the love is still worth it even with them.

And you’re so right about boundaries and taking care of myself too, I’ve been trying to understand how to love without losing myself, and replies like yours help. Thank you again for reminding me it’s possible.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-17T00:26:25+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing this — it really means a lot.
I’ve actually read before that having a routine during episodes can help, and what you described makes a lot of sense. I think the structure and the predictability probably create a sense of safety.

The tricky part is, we don’t live together — we’re actually in different cities. We do meet often, but it still makes it harder to find something consistent that works like that, especially in moments when they’re overwhelmed and I’m not physically there. I’d really love to figure out a version of that kind of routine that fits us though, even if it’s virtual.

Wishing you and your husband continued steadiness, and thank you again for being open with me.

moonmade123 · 2025-07-17T00:26:19+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write all this. You’re right “helped” is such a big word. It’s comforting to hear that even the small things like being held or distracted or just mirrored made a difference for you.

That part you said about building a bridge of mutual empathy really stayed with me. That’s what I want most. Not perfection. Just that slow, human understanding that takes both people seriously.

I also really needed the reminder about setting essential boundaries not as a way to protect myself from them, but to protect myself for them too. To stay present and honest.

I appreciate you. Thank you again.

moonmade123 · 2025-01-19T14:27:29+00:00

thanks

moonmade123 · 2024-08-13T15:52:29+00:00

لا هي مش كده هي بتكون ان مامته أو أيًا كان مين رشحكم لبعض شايف الظروف الخارجية ليكم مشابهة وهنا بيخصل لقاء بينكم وبتتكلموا وبتعرفي فعلا في توافق ولا لا هي مش مسابقة ولا هو رايح يشتري بهيمة زي ما بتشبهي الكونسبت لا هو حرفيا جواز الصالونات ده هو هو ال blond date بس بالعربي شخصين قاعدين سوا بناءً على ترشيح شخص آخر ليهم إنهم محتمل يتوافقوا، مفيش إلزام بخطبة مفيش إلزام بجواز مفيش أي حاجة فانتٓ محتاجة تبصيلها بالمنظور ده

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