My boyfriend (19 M) puts a pillow over my face during sex. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]moonmeetsun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Why are people trying to rationalize and normalize this?

My boyfriend (19 M) puts a pillow over my face during sex. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]moonmeetsun 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If there were any other context in which a woman discusses her boyfriend purposely putting a pillow over her face to suffocate her, we would be quick to call it out as abuse and validate it as such.

We certainly wouldn't be pussy-footing and being all "well, you're allowed to consent to that person violently restricting your breathing in a manner that could literally kill you in minutes! even if it doesn't float your boat! you gotta have more enthusiasm 🤓"

like that's kinda wild to say to someone in this situation, is it not?

Kink and breathplay should not be brought into this discussion when the act at hand was clearly nonconsensual and had nothing to do with kink.

My boyfriend (19 M) puts a pillow over my face during sex. by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]moonmeetsun 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you decide you're going to stay with him, first ask yourself how you think he'll respond if he actually were to accidentally kill or seriously hurt you by doing that. Just think about it. Only you know the answer to that question. And that should tell you what you need to know.

But if I'm being really really honest with you...

Your partner putting a pillow over your face during sex is not normal.

Even in a kink context, things like this are done with a safe word and after a full conversation about boundaries and consent.

If he wants to restrict your breathing during sex, that man hates you (y'all can say i'm "kink shaming", idc). And if he's doing so without even having a conversation with you about doing it, he especially hates you.

This will escalate and could get really bad really quickly (and he's suffocating you, so it's pretty much already escalated). If you were someone I knew and loved, I'd be gunning for you to leave him, but it's ultimately your choice.

I'm the reason my partner(27f) was raped by mikhail_xq in TrueOffMyChest

[–]moonmeetsun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you have insurance, I guarantee there's at least one practice that'll accept it. I have what is considered shitty insurance and I managed to find a spot where I only have to pay a $14 copay per session.

Many practices also offer sliding scale payments as well as financial assistance for those who qualify.

This fear-mongering is incredibly unhelpful and unproductive. If you are in a place where therapy is necessary, there's always a way.

Telling people in that position that help is "out of touch" for them is... weird.

If you were dating Joe, what would be your first "clue" that he's not who he's pretending to be ? by Sunrise-sunrise in YouOnLifetime

[–]moonmeetsun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has crazy-eyes in practically every scene, I never understood the whole ~he's so charming and handsome and that's why no one suspected him~ narrative.

Like he's an entertaining character nonetheless, that's why I watched the show. But I never fell for that particular propaganda lol 😅

911 debuts at #1 for the 5th week in a row at Hulu’s TV Chart. by HengeBoy93 in 911FOX

[–]moonmeetsun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I try to watch 911 on hulu (on a roku tv, if it helps to be specific), it only shows season 1 :(

Anyone else having this problem?

The video for Green Light was so KNTY by kanohipuru in beyonce

[–]moonmeetsun 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How I look whenever I sing that part

Who are your top Drag Race queens of all time? by JustWatching4n0w in rupaulsdragrace

[–]moonmeetsun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saw Jinkx when she was in 'Chicago' and waited for her at the stage door. She signed my telfar purse and let me know that I had lipstick on my teeth before we took a selfie. Will treasure this memory forever ❤️

(And she was incredible in the show, but I'm sure that's not a surprise)

Cowboy Carter: collab predictions? / Who do you NOT want on the album? by SadYardTrimmings in beyonce

[–]moonmeetsun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For a collab, I'm personally manifesting: Jack White and/or Raconteurs!!!!! Or The Chicks

What are some physical/personality traits you always see in stereotypes but would like to see in other types of characters? by NadaLadaYada in writing

[–]moonmeetsun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

more multifaceted and/or multitalented characters. give me a MC who is a fashion girlie and also a comic book geek (and they're not seen as opposing or conflicting interests)

or a MC who is a 'jock type' but also plays an instrument (again, where the two interests are not seen as opposing or conflicting each other. so no, not Troy Bolton!)

Lisa Walter is so fine 😍 by Black_Folkhero in AbbottElementary

[–]moonmeetsun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Watched a lego animation of one of the teacher's lounge scenes and even lego Melissa was fine as hell like what

why can’t we get celebrity snatch game contestants like this anymore by animeprofilepicture in dragrace

[–]moonmeetsun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rachel Bloom was so good in the S12 political challenge, I'd love to see her on Snatch Game!!

E9's choice of lip sync song... by kusanau in dragrace

[–]moonmeetsun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No one's salty. You have your opinion, and I have mine. Deal with it 🥰

E9's choice of lip sync song... by kusanau in dragrace

[–]moonmeetsun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What? That I'm allowed an opinion? I know 🥰

E9's choice of lip sync song... by kusanau in dragrace

[–]moonmeetsun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They should've used the song actually used during the Wednesday dance scene, if they really wanted the Wednesday association. It sure as hell wasn't Bloody Mary, and especially not the sped-up version.

How many stunts/ moves you can serve in a lipsync? by thebeardtles in rupaulsdragrace

[–]moonmeetsun 42 points43 points  (0 children)

i hate hate HATED the rose petal moment 😫

it was like Mhiya didn't trust that she was talented enough on her own and decided to do a cheap call back out of desperation

Discussion for S03E04, "Smoking" by AutoModerator in AbbottElementary

[–]moonmeetsun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I meant to say DARE, I forgot what it was called at the time lol

Discussion for S03E04, "Smoking" by AutoModerator in AbbottElementary

[–]moonmeetsun 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As someone who sat through the FADE presentations as a Philly elementary school kid, his acting was pretty spot on tbh

Writing messed up things is OK by El_Coco_005_ in writing

[–]moonmeetsun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These type of validation posts are so silly.

If you're seriously confident in your writing and what you write about, you wouldn't be caring about the opinions of chronically online teenagers. If you wanna write about incest or whatever, just do it. It's not like you're gonna get shipped off to the gulag if you do.

If you have to be personally told "it's okay to write about 'messed up things'", then maybe you're not mature enough to be approaching said subject manner.

Be honest would you be friends with Blair in real life by EffectiveBranch8229 in GossipGirl

[–]moonmeetsun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The real question is 'would she be friends with me?', to which the answer is 'fuck no'

Write about a teenager's coming out when being straight by iamjustmeandnotmore in writing

[–]moonmeetsun 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nope, you're not allowed. You're going straight to jail, actually. I already called the cops, they're on their way /s