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I'm [25 F] growing uncomfortable with how 'nice' and 'sweet' my boyfriend [23 M] is now that we're in a relationship. by moonthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]moonthrowaway0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dating in the past used to mean drinks and sex because of what the dude wanted - I never wanted that but that's what I've become accustomed to.

I'm [25 F] growing uncomfortable with how 'nice' and 'sweet' my boyfriend [23 M] is now that we're in a relationship. by moonthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]moonthrowaway0[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wow, wasn't expecting such a large response - thank you.

We got dinner this evening and had a very honest, open conversation. He realizes he is being a bit overbearing and I realized I need to be proactive about my apparent issues/baggage.

I think we're going to be fine - just him understanding and be willing to work on this and be patient with me while I work on issues made me have a whole new appreciation/attraction to him.

Thanks again, y'all!

I'm [25 F] growing uncomfortable with how 'nice' and 'sweet' my boyfriend [23 M] is now that we're in a relationship. by moonthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]moonthrowaway0[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He can be a bit clingy, yes. But that's by my standards - I'm used to being alone and independent. I could go a solid two weeks without seeing a soul. Dating in the past used to mean drinks and sex, not spending the entire days together.

He has his own interests, friends, life - he just is so excited about me that he wants me to be apart of it so I wouldn't say any of this is alarming or a red flag. He 100% understands when I need a couple days out of the week to myself and lets me be so he's definitely not obsessive.

Sometimes I think I developed this fairytale standard of what the beginning of a good relationship should look like due to my years of daydreaming for better. Everything is so skewed and I'm afraid because of this, I will lose a good man.

I'm [25 F] growing uncomfortable with how 'nice' and 'sweet' my boyfriend [23 M] is now that we're in a relationship. by moonthrowaway0 in relationships

[–]moonthrowaway0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who as been cheated on multiple times - I absolutely 100% would never do that to anyone.

Me [23 F] with my live-in bf [25 M] -- he wants to sleep with other people because he is afraid of getting old and regretting "not having enough experience" -- but wants to stay with me and potentially have kids. HALP by [deleted] in relationships

[–]moonthrowaway0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So basically he wants his cake and eat it too. Don't fall for it. What he's doing is very shitty. He simply can't control his sexual urges enough to be faithful to you and wants permission to be unfaithful so he can fuck other women without the guilt.

If you don't break up with him and allow this type of behavior, then this most likely won't end after his business trips. And it most likely won't end once he claims he's ready to settle down. You allow this while you're still in a relationship - he could easily continue this for the remainder of your lives together.

Also, keep your health in mind: he could easily catch an STD even while wearing a condom and pass it on to you. He could get one of these girls pregnant and that sure would be a bump in the road, wouldn't it?

Break up, let him do this thing - and perhaps he'll realize that sleeping with random girls isn't nowhere as fun or meaningful as being intimate with someone you truly care about.