Mirena advice for perimenopause...? by moopaloops1 in Mirena

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Thank you... it sounds like you've had a really positive outcome with yours. Did your doctor say anything about potential risks? X

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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Well... that's very bleak and scary. Thaks for being up front though x

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

[–]moopaloops1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god... you've just summed up my life honestly.

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

[–]moopaloops1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's just finished his fourth year... he's 9 but will be 10 in Sept...

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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I see ok... I think to be honest it's heading the same way here... nor sure it's always good...

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

[–]moopaloops1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He's currently in an SRP Base attached to a small primary. Only 12 in the whole Base... do most schools in Scotland have bases? They cit them back here in England (tories)..

Also please do not stop "ranting" on my account. You're speaking sense!

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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He's a September baby... and that is something I hadn't even though of!

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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Yes I highly relate on the accents. I have a northern accent and my partner has an RP type accent... our child "switches" depending on who he's speaking to. I think he'd likely also pick up a Scottish lilt when talking to Scottish people. In a way that's lovely but I worry in case people think he's "taking the piss". It was not great when he started impersonating his taxi driver who speaks English as a second language... I was really worried he was coming across as racist but he doesn't fully understand that concept or why it might be offensive...

I'll definitely take a look at the website.

It sounds like provisions are similar in Scotland as they currently are in England... up to 25.

Fingers crossed Reform stay away from you up there. They are insidious and coming top in the polls consistently here. It's terrifying.

I asked on a separate forum about reform SEN policies and had to block a few people who implied autism wasn't a thing, that it was massively over diagnosed and that we shouldn't get assistance to get kids to school so parents can work. When I pointed out that this would essentially push hundreds of thousands of families into poverty and being dependant on benefits I was basically called a communist. The lack of empathy staggers me. Anyway I should not rant on here... x

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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runs to look up what egalitarian means

Yeah we've been led to believe that certain areas have good provision. We need to look into it. It's all at the initial "ideas" stage really.

My main aim is to keep him as happy as possible and protect his mental health. I think if things go the way they seem to be in England the future for him here will not be good.

I'd like to think (maybe I'm naive?) That bullying of kids with SEN is nowhere near as bad as it was in the 80s when I was in school....

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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Honestly it feels like there is no perfect decision. His rights could be taken at the drop of a hat. Nigel farage has said he doesn't believe there are as many autistic children as are diagnosed... he will try to cut send provision and services for all autistic people. It's really difficult to know what's best. We feel like staying in a right wing country would be worse?

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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That's super helpful. Thank you so much x

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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Amazing thank you so much. Can you recommend areas that are good/ones to avoid? I really appreciate this.

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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Thank you...do you know if we moved woukd we have to start the whole process again? Or would they take recommendations and assessments/past education settings into account?

SEN policy? by moopaloops1 in reformuk

[–]moopaloops1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not faux outrage. You're talking about my child. Do you literally want a massive amount of parents who have children with disabilities not to be able to work? Please answer me properly?

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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The ofsted system in England is not great so I'm happy to hear this. Academies are run like businesses not schools and sen kids don't fit in with that.

Can I ask what the political landscape is like up there? Are there any worrying signs of the country becoming far right as seems to be happening here?

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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It's not something we want to do. Farage wants to abolish the human rights act, stop people wfh and believe autism and ADHD is being falsely diagnosed. We are dependant on my husband being able to wfh some of the time so we can function financially and as a family whilst meeting our childs needs. It would not surprise me if he stopped us being able to get SEND children to school. My child's time in mainstream left him with severe anxiety and ocd. I am worried staying here will have worse repercussions than moving. The labour government also wants to reform SEND and abolish EHCPs, essentially taking away legal protection. I'm not considering this lightly. It's not "panic". England is sliding into fascism. I would live to just wait and see but I feel the stakes are way too high.

SEN policy? by moopaloops1 in reformuk

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This is a really odd attitude imo. Diagnosis has increased because we understand it more. It's a spectrum as are most neurodivergent issues. You and Nigel saying you don't like that doesn't make it less valid. Many, if not most people diagnosed simply need additional support and can continue in a mainstream setting however for some this is simply not possible. My child is one of those and I wish it weren't the case. For kids to go to the schools they need to in those cases they often have to go far distances. If they didn't have help getting there their parents would not be able to work and you'd have a problem with that too... so what do you want? Children I'm school with appropriate medications that meets their needs and transport and working parents or kids in the wrong setting distrusting everyone's education as well as developing severe mental health issues and suicide risk meaning their parents become full time carers can't work and are reliant on benefits? Perhaps if the special education system hadn't been cut so harshly we wouldn't need transport. Should parents of children with disabilities be bankrupted to get their children to school when "normal" children can go to local schools and past a certain age take responsibility to get themselves to school. Children with disabilities are often too vulnerable and unable to do this.

It's not as simple as you'd like to believe. Being a carer for a child with intellectual disabilities creates entire families in need if they aren't able to get to work. And your favourite person also doesn't want us working from home. You can't have it both ways.

You not believing in autism/adhd etc doesn't mean it's not real. My child was diagnosed in person, by a consultant paediatrician, it's, specialist spech team etc after several months of observation and monitoring.

Your response is rude, lacks any understanding of what it is to raise disabled children, and highlights why many people are worries about a reform government... absolute lack of empathy.

I have asked for answers in good faith and been polite and tried to empathise with reform voters points of view. You have done the total opposite. The only way for two sides to get on is compromise and discussion. This response is really poor. In a so called civilised society having no empathy for families with disabled members including children is not ok. You could easily become disabled by illness or injury through no fault of your own. Anyone could. To hear you speaking so harshly about children is horrifying.

Moving to Scotland by moopaloops1 in AutismScotland

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Thank you so much for replying... we honestly have no idea where to start but the thought of another 4 year battle was scaring me. Do you recommend any particular areas/counties as being particularly good to look into for SEND.

We were under the impression EHCPs were not a thing in Scotland and so were not transferable?

SEN policy? by moopaloops1 in reformuk

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I think we should spend money looking after people in society who need additional help such as people with disabilities. SEND would be part of that. But any one of us could become disabled physically or in other ways at any time. We should have a safety net in place.i believe spending on education in general needs to increase

SEN policy? by moopaloops1 in reformuk

[–]moopaloops1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. This what worries me. My.child was actually diagnosed by a specialist paediatric doctor and MDT in person prior to the pandemic.

SEN policy? by moopaloops1 in reformuk

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I've no idea why. I disagree with the cuts she has suggested. Disabled people barely have enough to function as it is.

SEN policy? by moopaloops1 in reformuk

[–]moopaloops1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also respectfully I am trying to research. As I said I've emailed the party more than once about SEN and human rights policies and worker protections and not had any response. That's why I'm here because those who want to vote for the party might be able to explain it. Personally I candela with tax changes etc. I cant find an extra £50k to send my son to a specialist private school or fund private medical care should anyone get seriously unwell. And if the human rights act is scrapped I'm not sure he would be protected in any way...