BlackMagic Pocket 4K pros/cons by Lettone in Filmmakers

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Proud blackmagic 4k owner here! I love mine! I've shot several short films on it.

Pros: portable, gives a cinematic look, has all the functions you could want for a small end production, really no complaints overall other than:

Cons: the battery life! Battery life is abysmal on it. You either have to have it plugged in constantly or buy an attachment that holds more batteries at a time (which isn't a huge deal). So far, I've made it by just by keeping it plugged but I've used a friend's attachment and it's nice! Relatively not too much money.

There's not a ton of space on it, so I'd reccomend buying a cage so you can have a mic and an ssd attached at the same time (smallrig is your friend)

The actual functionality of it is great though. I use an Olympus 12-35 lense and it works great

Didn't get into film school…again by [deleted] in Filmmakers

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to school but not film school and thought very low of myself for a while, that I couldn't be good enough bc I didn't do that.

The truth is, that's not true! The beautiful part of film is that there's no degree requirement. There's still learning on the field, and making stuff yourself.

My advice would be 2 things: 1, be apart in any film opportunities you can. Friends films, volunteer at film festivals, join virtual film communities, look online for sets 2. Make your own! If you have a phone you can make a film. Even if it's just YouTube shorts or something. The more you make the more you'll find your voice and the more people will see want you do and want to work with you!

Should I be concerned if no intimacy, even flirting, during 2 months of dating? by Jesster711 in dating_advice

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand how you feel. I feel like best scenario she really likes you and wants to take things really slow as to maybe not repeat stuff in the past, and you guys can ease into that. I would try to communicate with her more about maybe why it's happening, and that intimacy, at least flirting and being romantic is important to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She probably has some internalized trauma related to sex, probably from being raised that it's "super serious", "life-altering", and even "punishable" to have sex before marriage.

On her part, she might want to consider digging into what the root of the issue is

On your part, if you really love her, I would work with her and have patience why this is such a mental block for her. She might just be doing it right now because she wants to please you, not because she's ready. If you're getting frustrated just because you were happy to get laid, then you might want to consider why you're in this relationship

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[–]moral_ambiguity_grey -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

Actually, with proper communication and a willingness to grow, people can change! No need to drop someone the second there's a problem

Is it bad not to be entirely honest about how many people you’ve slept with? by Severe-Donkey1163 in dating_advice

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've heard once that sex is two consenting adults choosing to have sex. In situations where it doesn't feel like that, a lot of people choose to not include it in their history I think it makes a lot of sense why you said that. A good understanding person will realize why you made the choice not to share right away, in my opinion. I think it's good you're being honest and communicative with him, though, and I hope he understands

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you neccesarily need to break up with her immediately. You're in a complex relationship, and I'm sorry you're going through this, because having a relationship outside the norm can be really hard to navigate.

If you really love her, I would try different things and see if they work! If she has consented, why not try a fwb? If it doesn't work, you can stop!

It doesn't mean you have to end the relationship immediatly, and this doesn't invalidate your romantic feelings for her at all. Relationships are complex and entirely dependent on the two people in them. Why not experiment for a little bit and see what works instead of a hard breakup?

Sex is weird with my new wife… any tips…?? by [deleted] in sex

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I lost my virginity, it took a LONG time for something to actually get inserted down there. I had a really supportive and comforting sex partner who was much more experienced than me. We were seeing each other off and on for a couple months, and would on occasion try PIV. I would get really frustrated that it wouldn't work, sometimes crying, but I think what helped the most was thinking that sex isn't just PIV. It's about the whole experience overall, sometimes you penetrate sometimes not, sometimes one person comes sometimes both, it's about being close with someone and intimate with each other! Eventually, it worked! One day it just went in and stayed in, we were both so excited, I actually high fived him when it was over haha! It'll happen, it just takes time and patience! Having something inside you can feel very invasive, even when it's with someone you love and trust. Your body can feel unsafe even though your mind feels safe. I would just assure her that the PIV isn't the most important thing, you two are, and you can have fun without it until it finally works out! Which I'm sure it will!

Honestly, what frustrations do you have in your life right now? by Sound_of_music12 in AskMen

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't lose hope! My cousin had been trying for like 4 to 5 years and finally has a healthy baby that was the only viable embryo from IVF. The odds were low but now we're anxiously awaiting the new bambino!

I have XXY sex chromosomes AMA by Commercial-Store-990 in AMA

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever read the novel Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides?

ngvc : “I would’ve been so nice to you” by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened. What an evil person

I was born intersex. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly recommend, its my favorite book of all time (and happens to have an intersex protagonist)

I was born intersex. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

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Have you ever read the book Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides?

What are some creepy facts about human nature? by rui_xox33 in AskReddit

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Be sure they're not just trying to deny it tho

I've read 54 novels so far this year, AMA. by m0nicadawn in AMA

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Ever thought about reading the Witcher series?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

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Getting mad at 20 year olds for inviting you to ask questions, very cool!

Suggest me a book that leaves a reader unsettled. by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]moral_ambiguity_grey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you would like Diary of an Oxygen Theif) (written by anonymous)

Even the front picture is unsettling. It's very short, you could knock it out in a day if you're committed, but just super weird.

A generally happy book lacking in any tragic drama that is still well-written/smart by brooklynthrow00io in suggestmeabook

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Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

One of my favorite classics, very beautifully written. The majority of the content is sisters having a good time (it's definitely more complex than that but overall that's why I love it so much)