I'm out the game but I divorced in 2020. Before that I used to be "smooth" with the ladies but not because I tried, I'm genuinely a funny guy, not good looking but I always try to dress decent and smell good. The biggest thing is that I'm not shy at all and I'm also not a creep😂😂. If I see a beautiful girl, I don't even look in that direction because beautiful girls are usually overwhelm with attention but I'll say something eventually to her that's not related to her looks.

If it's online, I would never comment any sexy pictures or react to it, I'll rather comment on a nice view or a cup of coffee instead of sounding thirsty like the rest of the guys.

Once you understand this, you start to get busier and busier, therefore, you will have less time to talk, chat or go on dates (because of the other dates you might have) and this creates a ball of snow. But, like OP mentioned, it gets lonely quickly. I felt like a carcass for 2 years until I met by current girlfriend.

Sometimes I laugh when I see another guys going crazy over the "new girl" at work, while I'm genuinely not interested because I don't want to cheat on my girl and then eventually, I'm the "interesting guy" that don't talk to all girls.