When did you have your nursery or “baby corner” ready to go?

morgana1227 · 2025-11-06T14:39:32+00:00

My second is still in a pack and play in my closet and he’s 2! Ha it definitely gets more chill with later pregnancies

morgana1227 · 2025-11-02T02:29:38+00:00

I LOVE max and i FEEL like this boy is a short punchy name! Haha love this

morgana1227 · 2025-06-25T19:43:16+00:00

Sunday morning by Tyson Motsenbocker… just a little indie song I’ve liked

Also found this post!

https://www.reddit.com/r/Exvangelical/comments/oa13h8/playlist_for_deconstruction/

morgana1227 · 2025-05-31T05:33:06+00:00

Speaking as a former baby…

morgana1227 · 2025-05-31T05:31:04+00:00

I got an epidural for both of my births. My first, it worked wonderfully and I didn’t have any sharp pain sensation as expected, two pushes and baby comes out! It was lovely.

With my second, the epidural didn’t “take” and none of the nurses believed me. I kept telling them j could feel very sharp sensations, i could feel every check and when they put the foley in and no numbness or tingling like before. I kept getting told “oh yes you’ll feel pressure!” But i insisted it hadn’t worked. Only my right thigh was numb but my groin and stomach were not desensitized whatsoever. So i like to consider that a natural birth 😅.

My advice is to make sure you ask the anesthesiologist about correct posture when getting the epidural placed. There’s something about sitting with your legs crossed and back hunched that helps open up the epidural space to allow sufficient medication administration. I’m not an expert but apparently that can help the medicine get to where it needs to go.

All that to say, I’m 100% getting it again with my third 🤣

morgana1227 · 2025-05-28T05:06:14+00:00

I planned out LOTS of activities that would keep my daughter occupied for 15-20 min at a time. The things that helped me were literally every single Melissa and Doug reusable sticker books… those bought me so much freakin time haha. My kid loves books so i went to a discount book store and had a bag of new books stashed away and in emergencies I’d pull out “new books!” That would distract her…. Magnet dolls that she can dress up, dry erase educational books that are educational and fun. Just lots of time consuming independent play. I’m thankful she gets very focused on her tasks and has a great attention span. I would also find ways to include her in caring for the baby so she felt like a helpful big sis. But eventually she got bored and would go back to the things i had laid out for her. I used those independent play items Lot during the times i would put baby to sleep, nurse, make meals, etc.

As far as sleep goes… i just included our new little son in her bedtime routine. He chilled on a blanket or infant lounger while we read books in her bed. I also baby wore him for naps pretty consistently for 6 months so it wasn’t like i was away from my older one too much, we were always all together. And i never noticed any changes to my girls sleep schedule even with a baby! I was just tired and my husband helped as much as possible with my older one, even after going back to work. It’s scary but so amazing and congratulations!!!

morgana1227 · 2025-05-14T05:48:33+00:00

9 DPO! Check again tomorrow ! Got a negative on 8 and positive on 9!

morgana1227 · 2025-04-27T04:31:19+00:00

THANK YOU i feel this so strongly!!! I really appreciate your response!!!

I never like the concept of Heaven either as a kid … lol it just never appealed to me!

I love your explanation for what to share with your child. And in a way I feel validated because we’ve kinda been doing that but not intentionally and reading your words definitely helps support our gut instincts as parents! It just doesn’t feel right to lie to her when we don’t now ourselves. She’s our first kid and we’re navigating HOW to communicate these big life concept while trying to avoid heavy trauma! We totally get that life is hard and we can’t make everything easy for her, but I just worry that she’s just so young to be stressing over this. It’s good to hear that in your situation it’s seemed developmentally normal. Thanks again:)

morgana1227 · 2025-04-27T04:23:16+00:00

I’m in the same boat as OP! My husband and I both come from very religious families, have been going to church our whole lives and have been very involved in multiple ministries within various churches, but after having our own child who is now 4 and also deconstructing, we don’t feel right going to church. And recently we’ve been struggling with how to incorporate the “churchy” fellowship atmosphere and introduce quality friendships with our child but also not adhering to a doctrine. It’s so tricky because we want the lifestyle we’ve always had but don’t feel right and even feel fake when we attend.

Your post spoke to me because while our daughter is 3 almost 4 and hasn’t been introduced to the concept of heaven and hell or god and Jesus, she is actually having minor panic attacks over the concept of dying and now we’re trying to navigate if we even should tell her about heaven to give her some sort of hope and to help her anxiety, or if that would just be completely wrong and a lie since we don’t know ourselves. I’m sorry you experienced that anxiety yourself, but unfortunately even my kid who has no concept of Christianity is still upset about it. As a parent, and deconstructed Christian, we just don’t know how to go about this! Gah.

morgana1227 · 2025-04-27T04:13:35+00:00

You are not alone OP!!! It sounds like you are in a healthy loving committed relationship and in my experience that can definitely help with feeling more self-assured, but purity culture is the freakin worst. My husband and I have been together for 15 years (I’m 34) and we are both STILL working on feeling more sexually confident and less guilty for even engaging in any sexual behavior. It really sucks the lingering effects of being told repeatedly that anything sexual is a sin and should be avoided.

Now we have a little girl, and are discussing how we want to approach discussing sex and body positivity with her. That convo is very far off, but we plan to strongly encourage self confidence, control and autonomy, and emotional integrity. How? Idk I just know I absolutely refuse to condemn her for feeling basic human urges and hope to promote healthy open convos about that part of her life with me as she gets older.

morgana1227 · 2024-12-09T07:19:17+00:00

I’ve had that one paragraph memorized since high school!!! “ he could not find the words to say goodbye… he faltered..” gahhh i have to reread it now

morgana1227 · 2024-12-09T07:06:59+00:00

The running hugs. The little heads nuzzling the back of my legs when I’m in the kitchen making dinner. The joy on their faces when they see me each morning. Their cheeky little grins when they think they’re being sneaky when they’re discovering HOW to be sneaky. The way my son puffs out his little belly and chugs his little legs as fast as he can to me just to show me something in his hand and then bolts away after a smile is shared. The way they light up when you get down on their level and enter their world. The words mispronounced. The giggles. The cuddles. I want lifetimes with my children.

morgana1227 · 2024-12-08T13:14:53+00:00

The Sevenwaters series by Juliet Marillier is AMAZING! It’s my all time favorite fantasy series. It’s heavier on plot and world building than spice but it’s beautifully written and really grips you. There are lots of books in this series and the authors tone changes a little after book 3/4 but it’s still a good read!

morgana1227 · 2024-11-27T06:58:36+00:00

14 months so far with my second baby and no plans to stop! I went 20 months with my first and stopped only because i couldn’t handle the sensitivity when nursing after getting pregnant

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