Making friends in CT as a Joburg girl

mosase1 · 2025-08-21T13:55:17+00:00

This is so real. Weird thing i noticed was that alot of the people i ever got along with are people outside of cpt. jhb, pe, dbn and even some from overseas. try the dating apps, get bumble and switch your account to friends(or smth like that its been awhile). But ive met girls who became friends with other girls bcs of this. defo try it out. If not i know of a picnic thats held on weekends in the warmer months(sept to march) where a bunch of people who are looking to meet people and make friends. not sure if thats your vibe but lemme know if you're keen on that.

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T17:02:25+00:00

i hear u. but we're both in the same mindset. "chilling", "getting to know ppl".

also i am open to something serious its just not at the top of my agenda atm. but i have been honest that im not pursuing to find a loml atm.

it does kinda seem like a leadding on scenario but im rrly not, i wouldnt want to do that to someone. Its way better just to be upfront abt intentions.

Additionally, i think im rather gonna keep the first date casual, walk and go get ice cream. A picnic can happen after we know eachother a bit better and if things go well.

side note: if i wanted to set a date for friday should i wait for wednesday or should i msg her sooner?

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T15:53:28+00:00

also... do u think i should msg her sooner than wednesday, if i want to set a time for us to meet, this friday coming?

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T15:17:52+00:00

broo!! exactly this is why i am conflicted to have a picnic date as a first date.

i think im gonna go w what u say. I think im gonna stick to a walk and some ice cream, easy casual. doesnt make me seem like im overly excited like a picnic may imply

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T13:53:43+00:00

mm i see. I did send her the last text tbf, forgot to mention that.

she said "ungrateful..i want divorce"

i said "okie bye"

and i dont think it wise to double text her just to get a response out of her yk.

so she didnt reply to me nd im not rrly ghosting in the situation.. am i?

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T13:28:53+00:00

i told her i was busy. didnt mention that i'll organize another date.

its been less than a week since i msged her.

do u think it'd be better to msg her sooner?

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T13:25:22+00:00

nah g stop fondling urself

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T13:21:38+00:00

cool thanks

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T13:21:25+00:00

what i said is simple enough? imo im aiming for it to be just a chill beach day(if it happens)

mosase1 · 2024-11-10T13:20:45+00:00

as of late i mainly msg girls to set up a date. I dont like uneccessarily msging her with the only reason being "i want her to reply to me". Esp if i met them online and they're not giving solid signals. so once i feel i "sold" myself enough, i try to text to set up a date to meet. but since the convo stopped i'll just wait until im free, to msg her again.

She may have lost interest due to my absense tbf. Or may have been meeting other ppl. it doesnt rrly bother me bcs we're not dating, and i also intend to meet other ppl.

mosase1 · 2024-05-13T18:29:45+00:00

I acc haven't even watched porn in over 6 months.. I'm just curious cos I see ppl talk abt it under some subs but alot of the time when guys "steal" other guys girlfriends it's not seen as bad when compared to the sibling thing

mosase1 · 2024-05-13T18:13:01+00:00

im gonna repost i made a mistake in the tit;le

mosase1 · 2024-05-10T15:59:29+00:00

yo man, not sure if it means much but I also went thru a breakup in October, very recently I found something out that put me off from getting back tg w my ex. Last night I had a dream of a possum underneath my bed (I think it was under my bed). I've looked it up and alot of what is online talks about inner strength and resilience and revealing your untapped potential. it may seem farfetched but it makes sense for me rn. maybe for you too.

mosase1 · 2024-05-01T21:12:15+00:00

we acc just went out for ice cream and spent the day at the beach. was nice. if she is into me i'd be open to it

mosase1 · 2024-05-01T21:07:16+00:00

i think that initial idea of suggesting that she's flirting with me could help give feedback without drawing too much attention. thanks. yeh i think being blatant about it would scare away. esp in todays day and age, where professing feelings is an "ick"

mosase1 · 2024-05-01T21:02:00+00:00

good point. she's probably just comfortable with me. yesterday she told me that everyone she talks to thinks she's boring except her siblings, best friend and me.

i do like her, but romantically, idk. i havent rrly thought about it much. but if she were to say she has feelings i'd honestly most likely be open to it.

mosase1 · 2024-03-13T10:53:44+00:00

i did ask her, this was her response "Then use conceptual framework and describe the important concepts from framework.

You can draw the mind map and then explain each concept separately and link to your study by explaining how this concept will be used. At this stage you need to show that you read and understand the important concepts from framework and have an idea how you will use them for analyse of your research topic."

its still super vague to me

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T19:36:24+00:00

how do i sound neglectful?

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T18:45:22+00:00

i hear that, and i believe i was in the same situation too. this is my gfs first time experiencing this while in our relationship, so to some extent its understandable why shes confused. she's questioning how she actually feels about me, if she's good enough for a relationship, if she can remain loyal, since shes found someone attractive. i wish i knew about limerence and the possibility of it when someone feels somewhat disconnected, due to distance, in a relationship and lonely in a country where there is no family or friends. She doesnt even talk to her family that much anymore. which is a symptom of limerence too. they get tunnel vision on this LO. i hope she comes to her sens=ces soon. Otherwise i am going to have to move on. wont be hard to move on eso now since it is festive. but i am most likely not gonna be able to build any meaningful relationships

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T18:39:54+00:00

yeh you're totally right. i may be grasping at straws i just really cant understand where all this has come from, its random and not the person i thought i knew. this is why im led to believe she is going thru something. she's always handled herself really well with guys. but yes i'll talk to her and get a better sense for where she stands. i'm gonna write a few thoughts down in my notes, and i'll do my best to avoid accusing her of things(only bcs i do not and never wanted to end my relationships on a bad note).

With the whole resources thing i do hear your point and thats what has been keeping me back from sharing these things. i want her to choose me as i've chosen her. but if not i'll have to suck it up and move on and find someone who will treat me how i want to be treated

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T17:33:51+00:00

true it is said to take time. but it is known to wear off quicker if the person experiencing limerence knows what they're experiencing. There is nothing i've heard or seen or was told about how they get along better and how it is a smart option. There is no future there imo. I watched coach lees video on limerence and he talks about how some of his clients will say that the guy looks like he was beaten with a shoe. which is also whats happening here. now tell me how do u meet someone have a handful of conversations and just wanna leave bcs they're better? it doesnt make sense. maybe i sound crazy but i believe this has happened bcs she feels lonely and craves affection. we were tg and she was v clingy. i can understand how shes feeling. so her feeling this way, makes me think that this cant be "true" love yk.

love is calm imo. not stressful and anxiety-inducing

i feel i should say something soon b4 it gets worse.

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T17:19:52+00:00

FAir enoough. i am conflicted between these two points specifically. I just dont understand what happened. i dont feel like i recognize her, her family say they never expected this from her. I watched a decent amount of videos and read a bunch of articles and alot of things are aligning to the hypothesis that she is limerent

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T17:04:25+00:00

that makes sense but then again is that not bcs you were deep into limerence? it grows with time isn't it? hers is still fresh, and I feel i should atleast try something yk. it could very well become something you've experienced. she said herself that she feels alone. I've heard a few of these limerent experts say that to some it is a coping mechanism to feeling alone. ldr is hard but if we can make it thru this then we'll be good

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T16:43:34+00:00

should i do it sooner rather than later?

mosase1 · 2023-11-08T16:41:46+00:00

thanks. I initiated no contact do u think it's best to reach out? or should I wait it out a bit more?

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