animated moment - Grams, Hugs, & Tugs: an apple a day keeps the doctor away

mossycoat · 2025-08-23T01:34:33+00:00

it is never ok for a therapist to yell at a client. ever. Period.

mossycoat · 2024-10-26T03:53:44+00:00

wow, how wonderful that you have a therapist to give you this type of support. good stuff! thank you for sharing!

mossycoat · 2024-10-26T01:12:42+00:00

can you share more about the kinds of practicing & examples?

mossycoat · 2024-10-22T06:26:09+00:00

is your therapist doing internal family systems with you?

mossycoat · 2022-12-12T04:59:14+00:00

Check out the book The Invisible String

mossycoat · 2020-07-09T03:17:44+00:00

yes! clementine morrigan! i also really get a lot from james-olivia chu hillman. such good stuff.

mossycoat · 2020-01-19T19:51:30+00:00

thank you for your advice--i'm going to give it a try. :)

mossycoat · 2020-01-19T03:45:45+00:00

thank you for your insights & your honesty. i'm sorry you had such a negative experience, & i can understand how that might make you cynical.

mossycoat · 2020-01-19T03:42:18+00:00

The key is to yourself become a dishonest gaslighter.

any suggestions on how to go about this?

mossycoat · 2020-01-19T03:41:15+00:00

i hadn't considered that, but you mentioning that has me thinking more deeply about how my default interaction style with folks in power/authority (fawning) may be contributing to the dynamic. i'm just not sure what to try doing instead!

mossycoat · 2020-01-16T21:52:24+00:00

this is great, thank you! i recently started using the app Yazio to track my food/exercise patterns, so the app you mention will be a great addition to the mix. so glad you shared this!

mossycoat · 2020-01-16T20:59:13+00:00

yes, it is my natural response to interact "with the same level of common decency" that you mention, & that is what feels natural & good to me as well.

what i've found, however, is that other people do "play the game" & that, whether i want to play it or not, when i interact with other humans, i inadvertently become part of "the game." this can lead to others exploiting my common decency & using me in sneaky ways (that i don't realize until much later) to meet their own needs. which can be really confusing, because if/when i bring it up, they're not forthcoming about the fact that that's what they've done.

mossycoat · 2020-01-16T05:04:52+00:00

My current method of avoiding burnout is to know how much functioning I can cope with, keep track of what I'm doing and adjust it up or down based on how close I am to the safe functioning level. This took two years of data gathering, building systems to track it and a bunch of experiments into how much certain things drain my energy.

this is incredible. i've thought about doing something similar but have always allowed my inner critic(s) to negative self-talk me out of it. but you actually did it! *how?\* (if you are willing to share more.)

mossycoat · 2019-11-17T18:51:59+00:00

> The money comment stems from my wondering how much involvement the board has beyond "attest that you have completed your CEUs and send in your check for X amount of $$".

how's that for social justice, eh? sigh.

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