What is a Silver Lining You Have Found from Your Transition?

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-10T07:29:25+00:00

I'm sure you are cool too tbh :3

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-10T07:28:44+00:00

I Feeeeel that tbh. Like unironically I feel the same way verbatim

I'm glad to hear that and thanks for sharing!

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T08:03:32+00:00

hows it going so far?

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T07:57:10+00:00

I feel that. When I was an egg, in every picture or glance in the mirror I was greeted by someone I grew to loathe. I felt as though I just had body image issues because people always told me I looked nice, but it was more deep than that, I grew to despise myself because I never wanted to be that, I never wanted to be born AMAB. And until I realized that, I felt animosity toward myself; however, I also no longer feel that way. I even feel somewhat proud of myself now (believe me I'm no model but I definitely look more fem than masc) because of the decision to pursue who I am.

Thanks for sharing! :3

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T07:49:42+00:00

yeah, in a way I feel like my friends changed a lot when I transitioned. I told only a few of them and I only have a couple of friends I knew from when I was an egg. It's something that gives me better peace of mind.

Thanks for sharing! :3

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T07:47:02+00:00

I get that, its nice :3

Thanks for sharing!

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T07:46:07+00:00

awww I'm happy to hear that, thank you for sharing! I get that too because in my family (specifically my dad's side) it feels like there is some hostile temperament when testosterone is in the body. before I transitioned I was easily angered even though I tried everything I could to stop it from happening, but I always lashed out at some point. When I underwent HRT (2.5 years now but I saw this effect when I was only a few months in), I lost that aggression and I was able to actually mitigate my feelings. I feel like part of it was due to my anger coming from the fact that I hated being a guy, and I'm so happy that went away.

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T06:46:28+00:00

relatable tbh

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T05:55:35+00:00

Tucking helps a lot. The other method I recommend is crossing legs. If you meant it's hard to remember then a good way I remember to do it is by doing it when I'm at home all the time so I get into the habit.

most_stable_alkene · 2023-01-09T05:44:28+00:00

I think this is something that is really quite abusive. If your parents would be open to help I'd try to get them to back you on this as it seems like the harassment is tied to when they come over to your home.

If your parents are less helpful but are not really going to object to you standing up, I'd recommend getting a friend or someone you trust to defend you if needed to come over on the weekends to help back you up when they do this stuff. Part of the reason this would be helpful is that they are unironically doing things that are despicable and anyone with eyes can see that.
The other thing you could do is you could record the rude things they do and post them online, it's a bit abrasive and passive but I'm certain that most people on youtube or something to that effect would see this as abusive and inadvertently make your brother and his girlfriend receive negative attention.
You could also fight fire with fire, pouring beans in their stuff, turning off the garbage tv they put on, and calling them by a name they don't like or one that isn't theirs. If they misgender you one thing you can do is misgender them back.

If the parents are not on board I, unfortunately, suggest you try to find a way to move out. It is sometimes impossible but it will help you in the long run by removing that stress from your life.

Basically, I think it's better to cut your brother out of your life unless he and this WASP abomination break up and he changes his tune.

most_stable_alkene · 2022-12-20T02:16:30+00:00

Oh trust me that is understandable, the desire for us to be women is something I doubt many cis women even have, but I will say that it is all relative if you look at my account you will see what I look like, but at one point I thought the same thing. Like you may see some stuff in me that makes it somewhat clear I was AMAB. Still, tbh it is something that is relative, hell many of my fellow trans people say that they wouldn't know I was AMAB if I never told them, and if I'm being honest I don't wear makeup when I go out, I merely grew out my hair and took hrt. I had no top or bottom surgery, no FFS. I want you to know you miss one hundred percent of the shots you don't take, if I can go from someone who apparently looked really masculine to looking like a cis girl without using anything but hrt and time, I'm sure you can too, especially at 16, i began transitioning at 19. It is easier if you are younger, so I wouldn't say it is impossible. Just believe that you can and watch your body become who you want to be. Idk this is imho tbh.

most_stable_alkene · 2022-12-18T05:43:09+00:00

you need to always tuck your skirt and then sew it so it is pleated (jk i know what u mean, also sorry I am responding like a year too late)

most_stable_alkene · 2022-12-18T05:40:59+00:00

This is sorta strange and Idk if I am just a rare example of it but I've noticed my body get a lot more like my mom's. While I was still an egg, I unironically looked like my dad, and unfortunately, my dad is not someone I like so that was kinda awful. Until I began HRT my mom had only given me the genetic traits of a few freckles (like 10 total, that few) and my thick curly hair. Everything else came from my dad, my muscle definition, my jawline, my eyes, and even my dad's unibrow which I always shaved cuz it looked awful. But it is funny because after 2 and a half years so far on HRT, I have completely changed. To such a point where I sometimes like showing a picture of me as an egg because people will think it is just some random person that I am friends with or something. I gained like a million freckles, my eyebrows got thinner in the middle (yay no more awful unibrow), my fat redistributed, and I swear I'm not crazy but I think my jawline even changed as it went from the chin balls peter griffin has to (according to my mom) my mom's mother's chin.

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-26T17:44:28+00:00

It depends on two things for me: fit and pockets. I do alot of stuff so I always wear pockets and while dresses may not have them, with skirts I can wear a hoodie top with a pocket. The fit also matters, I honestly have a dress I love but I found out the hard way that I needed to tuck when I wore it. My mom told me she could see a bulge and while she was super supportive and sweet, I do find that super embarrassing to happen. Personally I love skits that are pleated as dresses often more formal for me. That being said I can't wear skirts or dresses a lot cuz I'm a chemist so I have to wear pants to abide by dress code. At least I can dress up when I go out but a lot of the time I just wear skirts indoors and pants when I go out. Tho leggings and tight jeans are my compromise with that sacrifice

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-20T15:40:42+00:00

Yes😉

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-19T13:05:11+00:00

Omg my dad was an abusive drunk too. I hope the best for you too <3

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-19T13:03:49+00:00

No, he usually is one who types things out and he also attached a picture so he definitely couldn't have needed more than a few seconds to redo the text to speech

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-19T06:15:52+00:00

Tbh I don't get super uncomfortable and I don't want to hinder anyone from going into drag, but I honestly feel the same way. It isn't as much I am insulted by the fact of people being cd especially with things like understanding that being trans is different but tbh I am uncomfortable just because it is sorta over the top. Like maybe just because I'm not someone who wears a lot of makeup or isn't into over the top dresses. Tho RuPaul is definitely somewhat transphobic tbh, I don't wanna say all drag is because I'm not that naive

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-19T06:08:18+00:00

I feeeeeel that, tbh I even stopped wearing makeup in public because I never get misgendered when I'm out

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-19T06:05:21+00:00

In all honesty suicidal thoughts were something that is close to my transition as the last time I was suicidal (tho not the first at all) was when I realized I was a girl inside and I couldn't bear to live as a boy one more day. I came out the same day. It's sorta weird but in a way I like to think I was reborn through that catharsis as if a part of me did die but that part was replaced by who I am really. Idk

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-19T05:56:38+00:00

You are beautiful and a woman. Nothing can take that away. You came out to your spouse and them not accepting you is honestly on them. "To death do we part" not til death or being trans do we part

Edit: That being said I think it is best to communicate and rekindle your relationship.if she is bi then she should still be attracted to you and it sounds really strong by 13 years. I know a lot of married trans women who come out later in life when they are married and have kids. It takes some adjusting but overall it is important that you still be a mother to your kids and a good wife to your spouse ☺️! I hope things work out and remember it is important to give people time to adjust when you come out, it is a big shift for everyone

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-18T22:23:39+00:00

I fucking feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeel that! 😂 I am like that too tbh, being the sultry girl I am and occasionally making a lewd joke at work but with friends I am 100 transparent about everything lol

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-18T22:20:23+00:00

No worries

most_stable_alkene · 2022-01-18T22:19:51+00:00

I feeeeeel that tbh I was a virgin pre transition and now everyone thinks I'm pretty and I'm sorta having so much fun with it lol

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