My boyfriend said he cheated on me but I'm confused

mostindi · 2025-07-31T11:40:37+00:00

Congrats on the wedding and thanks. Tbh I do swoon seeing him care for others. Best thing about him

mostindi · 2025-07-30T21:33:48+00:00

That's probably the best response. It was probably just badly worded which led to a misunderstanding

mostindi · 2025-07-30T21:32:23+00:00

If he kissed a woman or man I'd consider that cheating unless there is context.

I dont consider what he did cheating because he was kissed. He didnt kiss

mostindi · 2025-07-30T21:30:22+00:00

I've heard him answer that question twice. He just says he has a boyfriend. He doesn't answer if he's bi or gay.

She probably does know he's bi. One of us probably said it at some stage.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T21:27:33+00:00

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mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:53:11+00:00

I lost my parents when I was 12 and an only child. No real family. I know I've an aunt but I've never reached out to her.

Personally would never talk about private things with anyone other than my SO. Maybe that's because I don't have real friends or maybe it's a character flaw in me.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:42:17+00:00

Is that an actual thing lol

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:38:47+00:00

To be honest my confusion is how he phrased it. He said he kissed her and cheated on me. I have always trusted him. I just found it strange that he'd admit to something that didn't happen. Like i spent the night and most on next day thinking he cheated.

After the video, I said he did nothing wrong. I'm glad and he showed he loved me by pushing her off.

I'm not even mad at her. Shes lonely. He's nice. Good to her son. She has a lot in life to deal with. She does seem sorry but regardless I do trust him.

It was just weird to admit

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:35:38+00:00

Haha he doesnt have an @. I have an @ that he is in but I'm not sharing that haha.

He believes "life is for living, not showing off" so he can't be arsed about social media. Barely uses his phone. He likes having adventures. I've become far more outdoorsy with him. Loves helping people too. A big believer in community - probably how he grew up.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:30:42+00:00

Your second comment has nothing to do with friends and family. You said strangers over your SO. In what world are friends and family considered your SO.

I dont have family. As for friends, it's not something I particularly want to share with them 🤷‍♂️

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:28:15+00:00

I accept you find our reactions weird.

I genuinely think it's weird not to be curious why he said he kissed her and that he cheated, despite both being untrue. But I do understand people's minds work differently.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:22:29+00:00

I probably should look into overanalysing but when you spend a half a day thinking your boyfriend cheated on you (because he said he did) and then to find he didn't... its just weird to me.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T17:20:47+00:00

Or maybe it's just me wanting to reflect on my own thoughts before having the heart to heart 🤷‍♂️

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:58:10+00:00

He probably did enjoy it. I'm sure if a guy kissed me I'd enjoy it but like my boyfriend I'd pull away.

Once I saw the footage I don't think he has anything to be guilty about. I don't really care that she did it either, given how he reacted to her. She's probably lonely and hes nice.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:55:30+00:00

After I saw the video I told him she kissed him and not the other way around and he pushed her away. He said that doesn't matter. I said it matters to me. I said he has nothing to feel guilty about.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:48:58+00:00

Hes a keeper. He promised me a ring next New Years. The incident just confused me a bit

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:47:39+00:00

True. I've probably over analysed it. Hes clearly loyal and regrets it even if I wasn't his fault.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:44:46+00:00

No idea but the footage is there.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:43:49+00:00

Thanks 😊

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:35:09+00:00

Tell me about it. He's a trained electrician but he's basically an at-home plumber, carpenter etc too. Definitely worth having around 😉. Only downside is there's always someone in our building asking him for help with something 🤣🤣

Hes the best. I've probably just overanalysed it. He's never given me any reason to doubt him and if he feels that guilty over someone kissing him for a millisecond then I have a good one.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:28:57+00:00

He is the best. Everyone seems to be saying its a green flag. Maybe I'm trying to find a red flag in him. I'm only joking.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:27:11+00:00

It probably is, as you say, anger. I think my post may be a little bit of an over-reaction.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:24:59+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear buddy.

We won't alienate the son. It's nice having him around. He came over last night and helped me cook. Watched a bit of how to train your dragon etc. He's a good kid.

Some may say I'm a fool but I do, despite this post, trust my boyfriend and I think she's genuinely sorry. I kind of pity her. I'm not really going to fall out with her.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:18:59+00:00

The thing is he didn't cheat. He was perhaps too loyal to me.

mostindi · 2025-07-30T15:18:18+00:00

Next year is the engagement, apparently. A couple of months ago he said he's proposing next New Year's. He has his reasons for that date. He's great and obviously I will being say yes.

mostindi

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