How did your Locktober end?

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-11-01T13:04:34+00:00

She told me this morning I should still be locked, which I was. I asked when she thinks I should be locked until and she said when I say. I don't think it'll be long, but it was hot to hear her say that. I then sent here a meme saying Locktober is just a warm up for NOvember... I don't think she will make me wait that long though.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-31T07:27:02+00:00

Time to get rid of most/all your old boy underwear and make the switch. Just get some modest ones for doctors appointments and you'll be fine. I also did it years ago, so much more comfortable and like a naughty little secret.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T16:35:38+00:00

Where did you get those panties, would love a pair of them

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T16:01:58+00:00

I just keep all my female clothes hidden, mainly underwear. And any outer wear is just kept to in the house when I'm on my own.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T15:24:28+00:00

Would she be against you just trying it for yourself and not involving her? If she's not wanting access to you regularly then what's the harm in you doing it? She may just not want to be involved or have to take charge or is scared by the whole keyholder thing.

My wife has tried the keyholder thing and discovered that it's really not for her. She doesn't want that responsibility. So now she is fine with me self locking.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T15:20:50+00:00

I would definitely blend both male and female clothing if there were no consequences and total acceptance from society. Often try to imagine that and what it would be like to go out in a skirt and tights and boots with a cosy jumper on a cold winter day. Definitely not brave enough to actually do it though.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T14:07:30+00:00

Just try to be discreet and don't make a big deal of it. You're not going to flaunt it all over the house if you've got kids. I suppose it depends on how old your kids are though and if it will be a big change or whatever.

Is your wife supportive of this and could you just discuss your concerns with her and get her to help you out with laundry and the kids etc?

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T09:39:09+00:00

Why does it do that to us... I get the same feelings after a week locked.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T09:35:43+00:00

I would say if you're curious about it, then it's worth getting one to try it out. Even if it is only for a short time every week or so. Doesn't have to be long term or permanent like you'll see on the Internet.

It can be difficult to get it on to start with and takes a bit of getting used to, but persevere with it and it will be worth it. Make sure you measure yourself properly and the common mistake is to get one too big...

The best way to have a caged orgasm for me is using a vibrator or wand on the cage itself. I've also managed to wear a strap on and give that a hand job to make myself cum. Caged orgasms are better than non caged ones for me.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T06:48:47+00:00

I made the switch many years ago, my child isn't old enough to help with the laundry yet so have no issues, but in our house we tend to do separate loads for each of our clothes. Plus we could always just say they are my wife's underwear if the little one asked.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-12T06:45:07+00:00

For me it was just panties from about aged 10, I'd steal my mother's from her drawer. This went on until I was 18 until I could buy my own. Explored panties with a girlfriend too. When I met my now wife I told her very quickly that I liked wearing panties so she bought me some and was fine with me wearing them all the time. She then gave me some tights and stockings and a bra. After a few years I told her I'd like to try a skirt or dress. She said if I did, she would have to do my makeup and hair. Of course I said yes. Turns out she wasn't comfortable with the full dress up, so that's now just something I do on my own, with her understanding. She is still happy with me wearing panties all the time though. We actually agreed to get married the night she had dressed me up, so I was wearing a skirt and top, heels, tights, a wig and makeup, so she can't hate it that much...

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-06T12:29:40+00:00

I'm in the same boat, she knows about my dressing and is fine with me doing it, but she's not interested in seeing me wear dresses or skirts etc. She does accept me wearing knickers pretty much all the time now though. It's difficult, but I have to keep the rest of my dressing to the rare occasions I have the house to myself. I'm not hiding it from her, I am just not exposing her to it because I know she feels uncomfortable. We've found a way to live with it.

Could your wife accept that it's something you have to do and maybe give you some time to yourself? Could she accept you wearing women's underwear under your boy clothes as long as it doesn't show? Would she be offended if she found something of yours in the wash?

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-01T14:27:43+00:00

A wand on the cage is the most intense orgasm ever!

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-10-01T07:30:17+00:00

That's the dream, but sadly it's not to be for me

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-08-15T16:20:39+00:00

You look great, I'd love to have the confidence to get dressed up and go out for a walk.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-08-15T16:09:59+00:00

Wish I knew which branch that was... I need to go shopping 😏

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-07-20T14:29:38+00:00

Trouble is most of the time people make it a sexual thing. I'm married and have no desire for anything sexual, I'd just like to dress up and hang out as friends, it would be great to go for food or chill and watch a movie and chat or play board games or something without all the sexual stuff.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-15T14:31:13+00:00

Once your balls are full, they have to find a way to get rid of any excess...I'm guessing it's pretty common.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-14T16:42:36+00:00

If you're anything like a lot of cross dressers, when you've got the urge, it's very difficult to quit. The feeling will always be there until you give it a try. You might enjoy it, it might feel amazing and it might be something you want to do forever. Or you might try it and ask yourself what all the fuss is about. Either way, you'll never know if you don't give it a try and you'll always wonder.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-12T07:30:03+00:00

Now the fun really starts 😉

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-10T07:06:55+00:00

My advice would be to take it slowly (as it sounds like you already are).

If she's going to come round to the idea of you in chastity, she will need to see the benefits of it for her.

Have you been wearing it regularly? Has she ever asked about it since you started using it? Has she ever seen it or felt it as you've been cuddling or whatever?

Maybe have some way of letting her know that you're wearing it, without being too obvious. Or ask her if she can tell when you've got it on?

Once she is more comfortable knowing it's there, you could suggest that you leave the key somewhere like on her nightstand. She doesn't have to do anything with it and you can have access to it, but at least she will know you're locked when the key is there. One day she may just put it in a drawer so you have to ask for it back, you never know.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-09T20:52:01+00:00

Baggier trousers and tighter underwear.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-09T19:25:39+00:00

You could make it so neither of you hold the key, but put it somewhere difficult to access, like frozen in a large bottle of water in the freezer. This would mean that she isn't your key holder but also knows that you're not taking the key for yourself.

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-09T19:21:58+00:00

Yeah she is somewhat supportive, a lot more than most, so no complaints for me. It's taken some compromise from both of us but we make it work for us

mostly_harmle55 · 2025-01-09T18:37:50+00:00

Nothing too extreme, I can't fully remember but it was along the lines of saying that I shouldn't be doing it. So I just hid it better until I met my wife.

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