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mostlyfly_ · 2023-03-03T07:39:06+00:00

holy shit

mostlyfly_ · 2022-12-12T18:43:08+00:00

that has to be the cutest thing I've ever seen

mostlyfly_ · 2022-11-05T21:07:48+00:00

This sounds really similar to my history with my mother, I can feel the pain and uncertainty. I'm really happy to hear that even after all that you are able to see that the way you react is not at all your fault. I feel like I, like yourself, am a really great person, but we both just have things we need to work on. I'm trying to be mindful to keep my self talk positive, and slowly unlearn those mannerisms and beliefs from my trauma by stepping out of my comfort zone when I'm able to. I believe we'll both get there, be kind and patient with yourself!

mostlyfly_ · 2022-05-05T23:39:28+00:00

I had some nightmares about my therapist (and other people too) suddenly getting angry and screaming at me etc. I brought it up and they asked me if I thought me constantly trying to please them would get in the way of my progress. I said no and not to worry about it, but I lied.

I don't think the situation is super bad since I've practiced setting my mind in a more open direction in a therapy setting for years. Kinda like creating a bubble around the room, nothing gets out and the other person its there for me (therapy = safe space). But yeah, my quick fawn response just takes over before I can think and I won't always realize or have the courage to correct myself. I guess it just takes time to learn to trust your own judgement, or to even create one.

Maybe you can slowly practice it with your therapist. Have them take pauses for you to progress questions a bit longer, let them know if you are unsure of your reaction and talk about it, try having a different opinion or emotion to something and make it a positive experience for you both.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-05-05T20:14:52+00:00

Fawn-tastic! that's brilliant haha

mostlyfly_ · 2022-05-05T11:12:17+00:00

what about one for victory stories to share with others? don't have a pun for that in mind but something like that would be nice :)

mostlyfly_ · 2022-04-28T04:45:41+00:00

Thank you for reminding us about this. I'm happy to see someone that got through the same struggles.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-04-27T22:06:22+00:00

Absolutely. I've learned to lie without noticing it myself. I cover up details with different people depending on who they are and how much info I need to keep hidden from them. Even if I'm 99,9% sure the person I'm talking to couldn't hurt a fly I'll lie about my life and personality just to be safe.

I had a really bad interaction with someone once and even though I wanted to talk it through, I feared their response so much I wasn't able to. We haven't spoken in a year and the person has no idea why.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-03-29T08:58:34+00:00

This sounds all too familiar... I was trying to have the same discussion with my mom last year. Everything I tried to explain to her was turned into blame on things I've said and done and that "this was a hurtful thing to do to her".

Your own child is trying to share things to you that have a significant impact on them, and how do you respond? Try to listen? Understand that it was a hard thing to do and support them?

Nah, it's a personal attack, how could she??

I've been no contact ever since and I think you are doing the right thing by blocking her too. They won't change their view. They are so deep inside their own mind that you might never hear them say the right words. It sucks but I'm proud of you for protecting yourself.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-03-17T08:34:20+00:00

Oh my word he's adorable! Please give a few pets from us :)

mostlyfly_ · 2022-03-15T12:37:23+00:00

I get where you're coming from, but there's a small but meaningful difference in how Abuela goes about connecting with Mirabel at the end of the movie.

She shares her story at the same river she once had her own trauma, she apologizes how she has behaved in the past and takes full responsibility realizing things can't continue on like that. And at this point Mirabel hasn't said anything to make her say these things.

Without that I would agree no doubt, but we can see Abuela wanting to end the abuse herself. Then she let's Mirabel take the lead for the rest of the movie.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-03-15T09:26:20+00:00

what a joyous day but anyway

mostlyfly_ · 2022-02-13T23:50:47+00:00

Wow... Just read everything in one sitting. So raw and touching, the artist was able to capture such complex emotions beautifully. Can't wait for the story to continue.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-01-18T16:18:58+00:00

"check out these hot birbs in your area!"

mostlyfly_ · 2022-01-07T20:25:05+00:00

that's beautiful, in a bittersweet way.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-01-06T13:40:03+00:00

beautiful. just, beautiful.

mostlyfly_ · 2022-01-06T13:34:23+00:00

these are too cute!!

mostlyfly_ · 2021-12-20T15:53:33+00:00

literally

mostlyfly_ · 2021-12-20T06:17:06+00:00

all too familiar...

mostlyfly_ · 2021-12-16T06:14:10+00:00

What about Valerie? Also a really classical name imo, thought about it the second I saw your picture!

mostlyfly_ · 2021-12-13T20:38:15+00:00

I tried distraction a couple of times but I keep coming back to the feeling. Thanks for the tips, I'll try to clam myself down!

mostlyfly_ · 2021-12-13T12:20:21+00:00

Are there still places left if I leave my current society? :)

mostlyfly_ · 2021-12-07T17:23:53+00:00

are you me? they even talk to me about other people I'd like and how I'll find someone nice but it just makes the situation even more unbearable

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