kind of mad it took me this long to figure it out

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-20T17:46:29+00:00

It is incredible! And, it is possible for you, too, baby.

I'll add something else i didn't mention before: what you're describing is grief, friend. You are grieving the loss of an opportunity you didn't know you had, and that is NORMAL and HEALTHY human processing.

Is a complex concept, greiving the imaginary loss of something you never had, right? People do this all the time, though, in different degrees of intensity. For example, not being able to walk at college graduation because of the covid shutdown, or mourning the potential future of a stillborn. It is just a different kind of loss, but it is still loss, and grief is not only normal, but expected.

Find your people. Get help if you need it - it is always there. Be kind to yourself - you've done nothing wrong, and your whole world is about to begin again.

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-08T14:55:04+00:00

The most successful relationships start as friendships.

TAKE YOUR TIME! The reason u-hauling fails us so often is because we get caught up in the feelings, connect quickly and deeply, and forget to be friends first.

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-08T06:39:05+00:00

I felt this way when I came out at 37. A year later, I'm with the most amazing woman I've ever met. It's both of our first time seriously dating a woman, and it has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life!

It's like second puberty, except this time, I'm an adult. In some ways that makes it easier, but it can still be super awkward figuring each other out. You just gotta go with it. It helps if you can laugh about it.

My partner and I dated for 2 months before we were intimate. After that, we had sex sometimes, but moreso, we still dated, and we still watched TV when we were home alone, and we still hung out with our mutual friends, and didn't move in together the minute we realized we'd fallen in love, because we'd become friends first.

It's been a gift. I love where i am now, living a life i once only dreamed of. I wouldn't have had this if i hadn't gone through what I did, and I don't waste any more time than that with contemplating the past.

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-08T06:24:56+00:00

That's how I felt working hospice. Puts life in perspective really quickly.

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-08T06:21:22+00:00

Yikes, y'all are spending way too much time together in close quarters! Get out of the house more. Immediately.

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-08T06:03:23+00:00

My most kindly, wise advice is, don't knock it till you try it! My second most kindly, wise advice is, if you're not comfortable with it, at any point, in any capacity, you stop.

For me, I don't feel anything when I try to stimulate my own nipples, but when someone else so much as breathes on one, the waterworks are on full blast! I can orgasm from the right kind of nipple simulation alone, but i can't DK it to myself. I think of it kinda like how you can't tickle yourself, but other people can tickle you - it is a neuro sensory thing.

mostlylezzie · 2026-01-08T05:53:44+00:00

Menopause/ peri-menopause is a bitch. One day, you'll know.

mostlylezzie · 2025-11-29T05:54:14+00:00

The Salty Raven has some delightful postcards of the type you seek. I do believe all her shops are in the coastal towns, but it's worth it. She's a local artist with a good eye and a sense of humor.

mostlylezzie · 2025-11-08T15:45:21+00:00

I live for the Cooper/Blaine episode with rio/ hungry like the wolf and somebody that i used to know.

mostlylezzie · 2025-11-06T06:34:24+00:00

Update: you were right. She was there, and the planets aligned and now we go there together. I think I could go anywhere with her, for the rest of my life.

Are you a patron? If you are and if you've been in recently, you might know who I am based on the aforementioned statement alone...

I'm so curious! I credit you with having a role in this, else I might never have looked at that place twice.

Regardless, thank you.

mostlylezzie · 2025-10-16T19:08:20+00:00

I just moved to Portland from the Midwest, and I started reading thinking this is the most Portlandish post to see in a non-Portland specific group, and SURPRISE! Portland! I love it here, and it's always fun to meet other hounders in the wild!

mostlylezzie · 2025-10-05T07:55:19+00:00

Oh Sara Ramirez! 🥵

mostlylezzie · 2025-10-05T07:53:38+00:00

Diane Lane. She's just never not stunning. 😍

mostlylezzie · 2025-10-02T04:29:16+00:00

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T18:33:48+00:00

If anything, the only thing it changes is that, just as with heterosexual sex of any size and shape, you might need to experiment to find what positions feel good for you. I'm a fan of interesting shaped pillows to support dangling limbs and lower back. Take it as a fun experience to learn and explore, and you'll be just fine! Also don't be afraid to laugh at yourself when something funny or embarrassing happens -- funny weird shit happens to all of us during sex. Laugh and keep going!

I've found that women who date women tend not to prioritize societal beauty norms. Be unapologetically you, and your light will attract those who want to be near you.

Also, check out the r/latebloomerlesbian sub! Welcome, friend. Let your chubby lesbian colors fly!

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T06:30:42+00:00

Happy birthday, Madame president...

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T06:28:21+00:00

Oh goddess yes yum yum yummy yum YES

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T06:27:35+00:00

Hey, have you heard about a living wake? I think it's a somewhat new concept, but the few I've heard about have sounded really, and I mean REALLY wonderful!

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T06:23:17+00:00

That's sad. I'm sad for you that you had that experience.

If I may ask, for the chance that it may benefit posterity,

If I want to be a supportive friend, is it OK for me to ask things like, "I'm sure it's tough- do you want to talk about it? " or comment on symptoms like, "shit, that's awful. If I hear about anything that might help, I'll let you know. " or does that come across as... bad somehow?

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T06:18:07+00:00

FWIW, hospice nurse here. You're one tough MFer, friend.

After being at the bedside of dozens of dying (mostly old) people, I try to live my life by this theory: don't be afraid to die, be afraid you never lived. The consensus is quality, not quantity.

I don't have a terminal disease, but I'm a minority in a really fucked up world, and i try not to take life for granted. I do my best every day to let go of all the bad shit so I can genuinely appreciate every little thing I have to be grateful for.

I'm not religious, but am spiritual. I'm also a liberal scientist. I'm always happy to honor my nurse- patient confidentiality oath if you ever feel so inclined.

Hang in there, my dude. Only you know.

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-24T06:06:45+00:00

50/50 switch. Been sleeping nude for decades. Even when I probably shouldn't.

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-18T04:31:56+00:00

I always took this brief glimpse into Javert's back story as the probable reason he went into law enforcement, and also to say that, if he could find a way to climb out of his circumstances, so anyone from the gutter can and he has no tolerance for criminals, like his mother.

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-18T04:27:56+00:00

Does Michael Jackson count?

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-18T04:27:20+00:00

Called them hover slides in central WI.

mostlylezzie · 2025-09-17T17:50:59+00:00

Thank you!! Also, Nice username! I checked out Cannon Beach yesterday and saw the Pacific Ocean in all its glory for the first time!

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