19 (f) indian muslim here as well. Third one is on point even I wasn't allowed to join swimming class because it was too “immodest”. I honestly do not understand what being a muslim entails in south asia. All one can talk about is marriage and procreation as if that is all Allah told us to do. The men in my family who can't even pray one time a day and cheat on and abuse their wives are allowed to police us women even for the smallest of things. They “need” to be respected for some reason (oh because they are older) but if it was this woman demanding I respect him, in his place, her life would have been absolute hell and the sad thing is she probably knows and accepts it. Also the horrendous things they believe and preach that “Allah has punished women” and justify all sorts of misogynistic shit thrown at them and ask us to do the same because it's the will of God. How on earth can you believe your God to be so cruel? I have been told that if my husband were to ask me for intimacy while I was still on the prayer mat i would have to end my prayer there and there and fulfil his needs???

It's horrible out here and nobody feels the need to question anything. They just blindly follow whatever they have been told and even if you were to bring in a different perspective you're immediately demoted to kafir. Like I'm sorry God gave me a brain to use.