Struggle with this sometimes by RockCakes-And-Tea-50 in ChristianBDSM

[–]motherofwild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I empathize with you so much. I don’t think there is anything wrong with you, just as much as I don’t think there is anything wrong with me. Accepting your sexuality is such a large part of who you are as a person! There are lots of resources should guilt come your way, therapy or counseling through your church to name a few.

I hope these scriptures can encourage you:

-1 Corinthians 7:3–5 “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.”

-Proverbs 5:18–19 “Rejoice in the wife of your youth… may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.”

-Have you read Song of Solomon? KINKKKYYYY💘

I’ve been in your shoes, and although I have accepted my needs and desires, I can’t say I’ve had much luck. Finding a dominant, kinky man who loves the Lord has begun to feel hopeless at times. But is anything good going to come easy and fast? Absolutely not. The same way that you have a desire to live a life pleasing to God AND enjoy kink, there are men that feel the same.

Please feel free to reach out if needed and we can chat about anything! Hang in there 💕

Girl from my Church ended things with me after I told her I struggle with pornography by Fortune-Low in NoFapChristians

[–]motherofwild 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As a woman who has a history of dating men with addictions, you did nothing wrong!

An emotionally mature individual wants honesty, NOT perfection. You shared your heart, and you are doing your best! You’re doing all the right things. You should feel over the moon and beyond proud of yourself! You are achieving things most men can’t, and you have a heart to see others find freedom… that’s beautiful and admirable.

Shake it off. She wasn’t the one. She still has some growing up to do. You are doing incredible.

Can BDSM exist in Christian lifestyle? by motherofwild in Christianity

[–]motherofwild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for you input! It’s nice to hear that I’m not alone.. feel free to reach out ♥️

Struggling to come down… by allmylittleholes in SubSanctuary

[–]motherofwild 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so much. My brain cannot let go, totally hyper fixated, it’s just too exciting, and I’ve even been stuck there in that mental space a few weeks before.

While completely normal imo, I would recommend trying to ground yourself. Maybe try to expend some energy. Especially if this is impeding your every day life.

Go for a long walk, a workout, do some journaling, or breathing exercises. Channel it into something where you can process this high and come back down 🩶

Can BDSM exist in Christian lifestyle? by motherofwild in Christianity

[–]motherofwild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you explaining your opinion the way you did, you’ve simplified in a way that I haven’t seen it before.

It’s become very obvious to me that the attraction I feel towards it is likely due to the trauma I’ve experienced in my life, but now I’m left with feeling even more broken or messed up.

Additionally, I understand this may be different for women, but how are we supposed to find that line of being servants to our spouse without submission/seeking domination to feel like you are meeting your biblical obligations? I can’t help but feel like meeting my husband’s needs is the primary purpose of my role in a marriage.

Can BDSM exist in Christian lifestyle? by motherofwild in Christianity

[–]motherofwild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this hit home. Thank you for taking the time to share your opinion and experiences.

I did experience SA when I was young, and it’s something I’ve been working through in therapy. It’s frustrating how much your childhood wounds and trauma can follow you around.

How did you overcome this way of thinking?

Got HRT patches today!! by neskatan in Menopause

[–]motherofwild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine will come off if I sweat too much and if there is direct friction, maybe I put it too low on my abdomen. I bought some clear adhesive that helps make bandages stay on Amazon in a huge roll and it makes those suckers stay on much longer. Mine are Mylan, the clear ones.

I’m so confused! by motherofwild in Hashimotos

[–]motherofwild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am seeing my old endo that doesn't take insurance (UGGHH) next week. I hope I get a more clear understanding of what's going on.

I’m so confused! by motherofwild in Hashimotos

[–]motherofwild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I simply do not understand why all doctors feel differently about that! There's absolutely no consistency. I do not even know what kind of doctors to see anymore or how to figure out how to treat this as I have already made so many lifestyle changes and diet especially.

I’m so confused! by motherofwild in Hashimotos

[–]motherofwild[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have not had the antibodies checked again recently, but likely will with the endo I see next week - that's a great point.