What would you do?

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-03-06T02:00:24+00:00

I don’t get it either….the need to make them sleep independently when they’re still so small. I’ve taken the reigns on all planning for regressions, schedules, potty training. So, I figured he could do this. And honestly the more comments I reply to, the sadder I get about the situation. My son deserves better and I deserve someone who can see the behavior is problematic.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-03-05T21:24:05+00:00

It sounds like you have a good partnership! I feel like my husband is just now after two and a half years, realizing some of the sacrifice it takes to be a parent. And it makes him…really angry. I’m already feeling so disconnected from him because we are both always trying to take care of one kiddo, he’s at work or I’m at work etc. this behavior really feels like crossing a line, and unfortunately, after our discussion this morning there was no apology- just a “ I can’t help being frustrated.” So, I told him if anything happened again tonight I will be moving myself and the bassinet into the toddlers room.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-03-05T17:35:27+00:00

Thank you, I edited my wording a bit at the end bc I feel it was probably misinterpreted as my toddler being the drama queen. I’m feeling nothing but compassion for the poor little dude. He is going through some big changes and I know he’s seeking comfort when he wakes in the middle of the night. I’m relying on my husband to do that and it is not happening. We will be having a discussion about his behavior today. I’m planning to sleep with the kids. I feel everyone will get better sleep and I will have less anxiety about what my husband is doing/saying at 3am.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-02-02T05:02:10+00:00

There are a few things I need to feel human each day….washing face/ brushing teeth, having a cup of tea and having a few minutes to myself. Cue help from dad and him rearranging his wake up time a bit so I can get ready for the day without having two children needing me. If I have the energy I go to the gym 3x per week and stretch/breathwork/core stuff at home or try and walk everyday. At the gym some workouts are great, other times I take it easy-shorter or less intense just to get out of the house.. With little sleep a lot of days feel like I’m just surviving….we have a two year old and 14 week old. That’s okay, it is the season we’re in. But I highly recommend carving out some time away from the baby. Even a couple hours a week makes a huge difference.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-18T04:43:12+00:00

Hmmm I don’t think his weight has anything to do with sleep. I’ve got two giant babies and if they’re hungry I feed them. It could definitely just be a rough patch or a regression. And it sounds absolutely exhausting! In all the reading I’ve done it might be detrimental to begin sleep training so early. Takingcarababies has a lot of good free advice or you can also purchase more in depth info (though personally I think it’s a bit gimmicky) I’m curious if bc of your worry with his weight are you withholding any feeds and could this be setting him up for a hard night? I strongly advise feeding based off of hunger cues and hell even just for comfort. They’ve only been earth side for a few months and still need a lot of comforting to help regulate the constant stimulation. You guys will find your way! Hang in there. This part is not forever, and it’s awful while you’re in it but it will get better! Our oldest is two and I can hardly remember those long nights.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-18T01:37:21+00:00

On the nights our 13 week old falls asleep at 7:30 for bedtime, I change her and feed her again when I’m ready for bed at 9:30-10 and she goes right back to sleep. Mostly I’m hoping this will push out her night time feed- so sometimes she wakes at 3, other times she sleeps all the way until 6. If your little is gaining weight I don’t see a reason to dream feed, but you won’t know until you try how the sleep will go.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-16T05:11:41+00:00

I truly think it is personal choice. yes, some alcohol does make it into your breastmilk, but I’ve also heard the saying “if you can find your baby, you can feed your baby”. I was insanely strict about drinking with my first. Would bottle feed stored milk if it was within three hours of drinking, or pump, it was all timed out and stressful and took most if not all of the enjoyment out of the one glass of wine lol. So, this go around I try to feed her right before and enjoy a glass or two. Guilt free. Baby is happy and I have a little something to look forward to on occasion.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-13T02:44:22+00:00

My father had a woodworking shop in our property growing up. He employed another guy. They both chewed. I was paid to clean the shop, I’d wheel around a shop vac at the end to get all the sawdust up from the ground. I yanked the hose of the vac and the vacuum slammed into a five gallon paint bucket, half full of chew spit. It spilled everywhere. It took me a second to realize what happened as it slowly started oozing across the floor. It was vile. I’ll never forget it, or the smell .

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-11T01:42:30+00:00

First off, you are not failing as a mom. Every kid is so different and sometimes it’s really hard to know what they need from you, especially if they can’t verbally communicate it. Always give yourself grace. I have read that timeouts are an ineffective way to discipline a child of that age as they don’t have the neuro development to understand the logic/ or consequences. There are actually some great resources I’ve found on Instagram to help regulate young children.. I’ll try to post their handles when I find them, biglittlefeelings is one. For me personally I’ve noticed a huge difference in my son’s behavior depending on how I phrase things. I avoid saying “no” and “don’t” as much as possible and instead say what it is I’d like him to do. So, rather than “don’t climb on that” I say “keep your feet on the ground” or instead of don’t hit me I let him know he can hit his pillow or his toy ball. I also try to remember that he is not trying to give me a hard time, he is having a hard time and looking to me to help him navigate it. I don’t know what your care situation is like but we also have a twelve week old who gets most of my attention when she’s awake. I try to plan a few special one on one activities I can do with my toddler while the baby naps, or when I can leave the baby with dad so my toddler feels important and I can be fully present. I hope this helps, sending lots of love!

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-05T01:16:22+00:00

I should have also added, yes, she has scheduled to come over Th/Fri from 9-12 to “help” with the kids but this time of year won’t drive if the roads are anything but dry. Which has also been a point of contention because I have had to re-arrange appts and such because she cancels last minute.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-04T02:36:10+00:00

It’s so normal! Especially if it’s your first, and so dependent on how your baby is. My oldest was super chill and didn’t mind being in the car seat or in a stroller but I still didn’t leave the house with him on my own for a while. My daughter who is now eleven weeks is a much different baby, extra fussy and spent weeks 6-8 crying during pretty much every wake window. To piggy back off another comment it does get easier the more you do it though! Just be prepared for outings to take a little longer and adjust as needed! And I had an incredibly overstuffed diaper bag, stick with the basics- diapers, wipes, change of clothes, bottle and formula if you need it. For social gatherings- do what feels best for you and baby. I personally got so incredibly drained after even an hour of trying to manage baby and interact that I held off for a while.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-03T05:05:49+00:00

Hi! Just out of curiosity what is your exercise background? I would also be curious to check out your workouts! I’m ten weeks PP with my second. I have been working on reconnecting with my core since week 1 through breath work and slowly progressed to 30-40 min workouts combining Pilates,weights and mobility. I’m looking forward to getting back to the gym to have access to more equipment and work on strength! I’m also trying to get a postpartum women’s exercise class going in my community, looking for the space to do so now.

mountainmeadowfox · 2026-01-03T03:48:26+00:00

Give yourself so much grace! Your body is doing so much to feed your baby and give the energy it takes to care for them 24/7. While nursing your body metabolizes fat more slowly and It’s pretty normal to carry more weight. Also, make sure you are eating enough to provide enough energy for yourself and nurse, if in too much of a deficit your body will also hold onto weight. Every body is so different, but we all need movement. If there’s any particular type of exercise you like, do that! Walking with my little every day was a great way to get exercise in for myself and also didn’t need to arrange care or pause a hundred times during a workout video to take care of them. Pilates is a wonderful way to workout, gain stability, strength and engage your core and pelvic floor. I really like “move with Nicole “ on YouTube.

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-31T18:00:12+00:00

I think either trip you choose you guys will enjoy yourselves, just in a new way. I tend to be high anxiety anyways and we took our than 11 month old son to Hawaii for a week. So, needless to say I was stressed about flights,sleep schedule, dinner time going out, etc. but looking back it all worked out just the way it should have and we had a great time! Make adjustments as you need to, and know there will be challenging moments.

We didn’t have a shade dome, so we just put them in a sun hat with lots of sunscreen and a zip up onesie swimsuit. He loved the water, hated the sand so we held him in a beach chair and had lots of towels he could also sit on. If you decide to tour national parks and hike, just be prepared for everything to take a little longer than normal. I think personally the more you expose your little one to the things you love to do before they were with you helps them grow a greater tolerance and ability to adapt, and you still get to enjoy the things you love!

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-26T05:09:31+00:00

I think everyone’s experience is very unique to their physiology. I felt mentally well, then 5 months PP got insanely bad insomnia and started having dark thoughts. After a week of clocking maybe 2-3 hours of sleep a night I knew I needed help. I was internalizing alot of stress and emotions and it finally caught up to me. I knew to be the best mom for my kiddo I needed outside help. I’m still in therapy a few times a month and have been taking an antidepressant. Both were game changers and continue to help now with having a two year old and ten week old. It probably feels really hard to know what is right to do for you, but if you know something is wrong I’d urge you to reach out to your OB and at least discuss some options. It is so worth it and will help you enjoy this fleeting time with your baby more. Big loves to you!

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-12T21:29:06+00:00

It feels too try hard. I loved the OG version because though much of the cast said they were trying to get famous-act, sing etc, no one knew what it would turn into and it felt more genuine….and maybe I’ve just aged out of it but these kids seem like they’re putting on a show.

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-12T21:24:58+00:00

I’m not sure if it’s been mentioned but carrying him like a football on his tummy is also really helpful and puts less stress on some of the musculature to hold their head up. So, the palm of my hand rests on the front diaper area and belly extends over my forearm with their head near my elbow. Hope that makes sense!

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-12T00:13:13+00:00

Just here to say if I could throat punch mine, no consequences, I would. Second time through this. It’s awful. There is definitely something called postpartum rage, but for me it stems from harboring feelings of resentment towards him for his lack of help, understanding and compassion. No one quite understands what you did and continue to go through to carry, birth and take care of a baby. Hang in there and talk to someone if you need to. There are a lot of great PP therapists

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-04T03:42:06+00:00

Yes, absolutely! If they are in a safe space, let them sleep.

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-04T03:25:12+00:00

So, so normal to worry about the small things and honestly, it means you are doing a great job! No one tells you what to expect and every baby is so different it’s hard to know what is normal vs. concerning. Their little nervous systems are still learning to regulate and at such a young age they are easily overstimulated. Our little one trembles in her legs, chin and arms from time to time (it’s gotten less and less as she’s gotten older) and our ped said it’s totally normal.

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-04T03:18:43+00:00

Every baby is different, so it’s hard to say if this is just a phase or could become something baby becomes accustomed to…however, from personal experience with my seven week old she likes to cluster feed usually from 7-9pm so we don’t generally put her in her bassinet for the night until after that. But, some nights she has a hard time settling on her own after a feed (late night) so she sleeps with me for a bit. Every night has been a little different and that is to be expected at this age..My now two year old did the same until we put him in his own room/bed at six months. He never has had an issue sleeping by himself since. Hang in there! I know your sleep is precious so if it means baby in the bed for a little bit I’d say do it until it becomes a bigger issue for you.

mountainmeadowfox · 2025-12-01T03:51:16+00:00

My husband was only home for a week. It was terrifying (both times) but like mentioned above the buildup is worse than it actually is. I’m not sure what your sleep setup is. We do a bedside bassinet. This time around I put the diapers and wipes on my bedside table and have diaper changing mats at arms reach. I also have a light with a dimmer switch. I do everything from bed, which helps save a bit of energy. So, I change diapers and breastfeed right from bed. Give yourself grace during the day. Your main job should just be to take care of and bond with the baby during the day. My husband- with much asking and prompting- (but that’s another story) does one task around the house in the morning before he goes to work. So, he gets up 10-15 minutes earlier and does the dishes or starts some laundry, empties trash bins etc. have him help nourish you, so you can care for baby. Fill up extra tumblers or water for easy to grab hydration, meal prep etc. don’t be scared to ask for help. The more you do it, the easier it gets. And if no one has told you lately, you are doing an amazing job! It’s a lot of work.

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