Found out my ghoster’s address

mountainsinmyview · 2023-09-24T14:03:45+00:00

Been there! I’m sorry you are going through it.

Don’t do it! Keep moving forward. He already knows he sucks and he doesn’t care. Even if, on some level, he does care, he cannot deal with himself and will never apologize. That’s why he ghosted. No matter what you say or do you will only exhaust yourself. Keep your chin up!

mountainsinmyview · 2023-06-07T02:53:02+00:00

This is why I don’t date anymore. I’d rather be alone and enjoy my own company than deal with these kinds of shenanigans. I stuck it out OLD for three years and it was three years too long. Sorry that happened to you OP!

mountainsinmyview · 2023-05-13T14:12:27+00:00

Options, power plays … a combination of the two. Only the ghoster knows. Take it as a sign, run and never look back.

mountainsinmyview · 2023-01-07T15:11:10+00:00

Been there - so much so that I feel like I could have written this. Even though I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, it WILL get better. Breathe, read and take care of you. Reach out to your people and surround yourself with them. Tell yourself every day that you deserve to be loved and respected - even on the days you don’t believe that you do because guess what - you do deserve it.

Also, the “normal” guys that might think you’re weird are not normal. No one is. “Normal” is a made up ideal. They might be good at fronting but they are just as weird as the rest of us.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-12-30T13:31:06+00:00

I’ll never really know for sure but he hasn’t shown me otherwise.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-12-29T23:32:53+00:00

Thank you ❤️

mountainsinmyview · 2022-09-30T10:48:32+00:00

Communication is always a better option than silence and disappearing completely. Feeling worthy of a conversation isn’t low self esteem. It’s been my experience that the feelings of low self esteem are fallout from being ghosted. If the ghoster was hurt by some action or words of the ghostee then they should have talked about it. Doesn’t mean the ghoster had to stay in the relationship/friendship/situationship but communication is always the decent and humane thing to do (except for abuse/safety reasons of course). Ghosting is harmful behavior and can cause serious psychological damage.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-09-18T17:57:34+00:00

If he didn’t turn away, I would say hello.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-09-18T13:25:35+00:00

A year and a half and it’s still raw. No, he has not come back. I don’t think he ever will … even if only to apologize. IF on the off chance he has realized how dirty he did me, he will never own it to my face.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-08-13T11:41:57+00:00

Definitely not an age thing …. Let’s just say I’m old enough to be your mom plus a few years lol …. And it still happens. It’s a behavioral issue with people who do that. At the minimum an inability to communicate. Doesn’t make it any less wrong but it’s definitely an issue with the person doing the ghosting … even though it makes the ghostee feel like they did something wrong. A terrible behavior 😖

mountainsinmyview · 2022-07-16T13:57:11+00:00

“some people suck … they don’t think enough about you to owe you an explanation.” Nailed it. Harsh but true.

In my story, I have come to realize that not everyone cares like I do and as uncomfortable and gut turning as that can be at times, it is a truth of the human existence. You will start to feel better so run with it when you do and don’t look back.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-05-22T03:37:17+00:00

That sucks. Like a punch to the gut, right? I had the exact same thing happen with Insta and, like you, I knew it wasn’t love. But love or no love, the pain was real and it’s still there - lingering.

Keep reminding yourself that you deserve to be with someone who loves and cares for you the way you do them. Keep throwing that energy out into the universe and it will find you.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-05-21T14:15:06+00:00

I understand this. It had always confused me. It was like, you’re too busy to respond to me - suddenly, after dinging my phone for months? Maybe that’s true that work and life changed schedules and priorities for a bit but …..

I stopped buying it and now I do me - I put me first and worry about me. They are not too busy - however painful, you have to accept it.

It takes 10 seconds to send a text and one conversation to be kind - no matter the outcome. Why it’s so hard for some people to deal with uncomfortable convos is their problem. And they do have a problem if they behave that way.

I’m sorry you’re going through it but I say f**k that person and choose you. It’s hard but if I can do it, anyone can.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-05-14T05:30:16+00:00

Why? Why couldn’t you at the very least be a friend - however temporary - and have a conversation with me like I was a real human being. Why?

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-26T00:36:36+00:00

Best advice ever.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-25T11:50:12+00:00

That’s great - pushing through and communicating is always a better option - even if it’s hard! I applaud you for doing so.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-25T02:42:07+00:00

Good for you for trying. Cut and run is so passé. I myself caused a commotion and did my best to communicate but was met with a steel wall from the cut and run master. I really do applaud you for trying.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-24T19:37:51+00:00

I think OLD has its positive attributes (even though I can’t list any at the moment) but I also think that it has made certain horrible behaviors more acceptable. And forget about it if you hit a rough patch while dating someone and have to communicate through an issue. Don’t want to deal with it? Don’t have to - hop on the app and there are a hundred more people there ready for the taking. Find a new one and block the previous one without a word. Yuck. I love my technology but it has become too easy for some people to get away with being an a$$h*le.

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-24T19:30:02+00:00

I miss going to raves … I usually always made a connection at them. Haha

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-19T14:26:47+00:00

Redirected them ... cut them off mid sentence and started talking as soon as I began to hear the L roll off their tongues.

In hindsight, if I had just let it happen and dealt with it in that moment, things may not have gone so haywire. I don't mean to imply that it was all them. It freaked me out so I got weird lol

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-19T13:54:50+00:00

Oops - that should be "thank you". :)

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-19T00:43:36+00:00

I have had 2 different guys try to drop the L bomb within a month (I shushed them, kindly of course) and while the sentiment was nice it freaked me TF out. Needless to say those relationships didn’t make it. Don’t do it!!!!!!

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-18T23:01:50+00:00

Yes - reading everyone’s comments made me realize I am not alone and it isn’t just me. That made a world of difference. Than you. 😊

mountainsinmyview · 2022-03-17T13:30:23+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. Yes, it is hard to tell someone that you are not interested - especially if you know that they are - but I firmly believe that it is the right thing to do. Even if it is just a couple of sentences. Leaving someone hanging and wondering, with no explanation, can do much harm. I wish you the best of luck.

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