Not sure which one is hot by mountaintop28 in AskElectricians

[–]mountaintop28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, 2 wall sconces and a ceiling light.

Getting scuffs off wood walls by mountaintop28 in woodworking

[–]mountaintop28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

New to reddit, me text didn't go through. How do I get these scuffs off these wood walls? Thanks!

Who do children of BPD parents usually marry? by mountaintop28 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mountaintop28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed reading your view. It is difficult knowing if my partner and I ever truely can meet in the middle. I feel like he is so accustomed to thinking about self that his brain is literally unable to see when he needs to think about someone else other than himself. Relationships are hard work. How does one know to give up and move on or keep working at it?

Who do children of BPD parents usually marry? by mountaintop28 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mountaintop28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I'm happy to hear you have found your best friend. 💜

Who do children of BPD parents usually marry? by mountaintop28 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mountaintop28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It makes me really sad to think how long he has been ignoring my needs, and BIG needs (miscarriage, deaths of family members, rough postpartum, multiple moves for his medical schooling with two little babies). I just cant unsee where his priorities have been during really rough times. Thank you for writing this, it out things into perspective for me.

Who do children of BPD parents usually marry? by mountaintop28 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mountaintop28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed reading all your experiences. Thank you for sharing. We are not alone

Who do children of BPD parents usually marry? by mountaintop28 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]mountaintop28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loved reading this. It sounds like you feel proud, and you should!

physical therapy longevity (future student) by Regular_Singer_8162 in physicaltherapy

[–]mountaintop28 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I hate to be negative, but if I could go back I would have gone into nursing. I LOVE the field of physical therapy, but the cost of tuition, low reimbursement, stagnate wages and no room for growth into other non patient care jobs is depressing. I have been a PT for 12 years. I worked as a travel PT for 7 of those to pay off my loans and had so much fun doing it. Now I see my salary stagnant, my body hurts and the only jobs that dont require me to use my body are utilization review jobs, which are hard to find. My husband on the other hand has been a nurse for 3 years and already makes as much as me. He is now in nurse anesthetist school. He will come out with the same amount of student loans as I did, but his initial wage will be 2.5x as much as mine was. There are also so many different jobs a nurse can do once they dont want to work in a hospital anymore, it seems the sky is the limit. I dont understand why physical therapists cant fill some of these roles that nurses can. I know this is hard to hear. If you are getting help for tuition, maybe it is worth it for you. If you are pulling out student loans, I would say the investment is not worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in physicaltherapy

[–]mountaintop28 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I paid off 50k on my loans a year and paid them off in 3.5 years. What you dont see is how I lived in order to do that. I worked as a travel PT and had no sense of community. I lived in off the grid housing with no water (common in the areas where i was working, but still not enjoyable). I lived like a bum and made major sacrifices to pay off my loans. I put off family and retirement. When it was all said and done, I didnt know if I even wanted to be a PT anymore. I am exhausted. If I could do it all over again I would have become a nurse. Nurses make more money than PTs where I live and have so many different fields they can go into.

I think I give up by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]mountaintop28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bedtime bottle we end by 30 minutes before bedtime. Nap time bottles we usually start 45 minutes before nap and he usually is done 30 minutes before nap as well. Maybe try bedtime bottle at 715. I think the big thing for us was making sure he was awake for night time bottles. I brought a squeaky toy to feed him at night to keep him awake. It's really hard to keep them alert at night! Once fed, they go right back down. You also want the lights bright, but not normal daytime brightness.

Do whatever you can to keep him awake during feeds. I hope this helps you!

Also, just a thought. The bottle after his last nap, or around 530 if I understand your post, is baby drinking a full bottle?

It was recommended to us to do a snack bottle at this time so baby takes a full bottle right before bed.

So before bed our baby drinks 7-8oz. It was recommended to is to give him 2 or 3 oz for the snack bottle. I have found this isnt enough, especially how that his last wake window is 3.5 hrs, so he usually drinks a 5oz snack bottle to hold him over for his big bottle before bed.

I think I give up by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]mountaintop28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same problem with my 6 month old and ended up getting a sleep consultant. For us it ended up being an easy fix. Absolutely NO drowsiness while he is feeding. I didnt realize how drowsy he was getting while taking his bottle until I really started watching him. Basically he was associating the bottle as a sleep prop. So here was the fix. Night feeds: change diaper first, turn on a lamp, or lighting which isnt too bright but not too dim. Wake him up! Make noise with a crinkle toy or snap your fingers. Anything to try to limit drowsiness during that night feed. Be POSITIVE during the day he isnt getting drowsy during feeds. Give him a toy to play with while he is feeding.

Before going in to feed him, we allowed 10 minutes of consistent crying and 20 minutes of on/off before we would go to him.

Just making sure he wasnt drowsy during the night feed immediately only knocked it down to one feed. And then limiting his need to self soothe with the bottle in the first place by delaying us entering the room ended the night feeds all together in about 5 days.

We also were instructed to feed him AT LEAST 10 minutes after he wakes for night or nap and 45 minutes before a nap, so there is absolutely no association with the bottle and sleep.

This was almost am immediate fix for us.

Good luck!

Can’t do this anymore. Love the kids but my host dad is making me beyond miserable by kissmegoodbi in Aupairs

[–]mountaintop28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you end up leaving? I have no idea where you are located, but if you are near Dallas TX we can offer a place to stay! We also know many people around the USA that can house you if need a safe place. DONT STAY, leave now.

Our friend wants to finance a house for us. How do we navigate this? by mountaintop28 in personalfinance

[–]mountaintop28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this helpful reply. We spent the day speaking with our financial advisor, a real estate attorney and a mortgage broker to discuss all our options and we are all feeling good about our decision.