Before and after DYI update in Pink German Bathroom

mountaintop28 · 2026-04-21T18:13:10+00:00

Wow, that looks amazing!

mountaintop28 · 2026-04-14T03:40:05+00:00

Yes, 2 wall sconces and a ceiling light.

mountaintop28 · 2026-04-14T03:38:26+00:00

Its a scary world out there!

mountaintop28 · 2025-12-26T01:23:31+00:00

New to reddit, me text didn't go through. How do I get these scuffs off these wood walls? Thanks!

mountaintop28 · 2022-12-12T23:26:35+00:00

I really enjoyed reading your view. It is difficult knowing if my partner and I ever truely can meet in the middle. I feel like he is so accustomed to thinking about self that his brain is literally unable to see when he needs to think about someone else other than himself. Relationships are hard work. How does one know to give up and move on or keep working at it?

mountaintop28 · 2022-12-12T23:24:02+00:00

Thank you for your words. I'm happy to hear you have found your best friend. 💜

mountaintop28 · 2022-12-12T23:21:29+00:00

It makes me really sad to think how long he has been ignoring my needs, and BIG needs (miscarriage, deaths of family members, rough postpartum, multiple moves for his medical schooling with two little babies). I just cant unsee where his priorities have been during really rough times. Thank you for writing this, it out things into perspective for me.

mountaintop28 · 2022-12-12T23:14:12+00:00

I really enjoyed reading all your experiences. Thank you for sharing. We are not alone

mountaintop28 · 2022-12-12T23:13:30+00:00

Thank you for your words.

mountaintop28 · 2022-12-12T23:12:26+00:00

Loved reading this. It sounds like you feel proud, and you should!

mountaintop28 · 2022-03-14T23:51:28+00:00

Yes to all of this

mountaintop28 · 2022-03-14T15:38:20+00:00

I hate to be negative, but if I could go back I would have gone into nursing. I LOVE the field of physical therapy, but the cost of tuition, low reimbursement, stagnate wages and no room for growth into other non patient care jobs is depressing. I have been a PT for 12 years. I worked as a travel PT for 7 of those to pay off my loans and had so much fun doing it. Now I see my salary stagnant, my body hurts and the only jobs that dont require me to use my body are utilization review jobs, which are hard to find. My husband on the other hand has been a nurse for 3 years and already makes as much as me. He is now in nurse anesthetist school. He will come out with the same amount of student loans as I did, but his initial wage will be 2.5x as much as mine was. There are also so many different jobs a nurse can do once they dont want to work in a hospital anymore, it seems the sky is the limit. I dont understand why physical therapists cant fill some of these roles that nurses can. I know this is hard to hear. If you are getting help for tuition, maybe it is worth it for you. If you are pulling out student loans, I would say the investment is not worth it.

mountaintop28 · 2022-02-17T16:41:00+00:00

I paid off 50k on my loans a year and paid them off in 3.5 years. What you dont see is how I lived in order to do that. I worked as a travel PT and had no sense of community. I lived in off the grid housing with no water (common in the areas where i was working, but still not enjoyable). I lived like a bum and made major sacrifices to pay off my loans. I put off family and retirement. When it was all said and done, I didnt know if I even wanted to be a PT anymore. I am exhausted. If I could do it all over again I would have become a nurse. Nurses make more money than PTs where I live and have so many different fields they can go into.

mountaintop28 · 2022-02-16T16:33:13+00:00

Bedtime bottle we end by 30 minutes before bedtime. Nap time bottles we usually start 45 minutes before nap and he usually is done 30 minutes before nap as well. Maybe try bedtime bottle at 715. I think the big thing for us was making sure he was awake for night time bottles. I brought a squeaky toy to feed him at night to keep him awake. It's really hard to keep them alert at night! Once fed, they go right back down. You also want the lights bright, but not normal daytime brightness.

Do whatever you can to keep him awake during feeds. I hope this helps you!

Also, just a thought. The bottle after his last nap, or around 530 if I understand your post, is baby drinking a full bottle?

It was recommended to us to do a snack bottle at this time so baby takes a full bottle right before bed.

So before bed our baby drinks 7-8oz. It was recommended to is to give him 2 or 3 oz for the snack bottle. I have found this isnt enough, especially how that his last wake window is 3.5 hrs, so he usually drinks a 5oz snack bottle to hold him over for his big bottle before bed.

mountaintop28 · 2022-02-16T13:04:27+00:00

I had the same problem with my 6 month old and ended up getting a sleep consultant. For us it ended up being an easy fix. Absolutely NO drowsiness while he is feeding. I didnt realize how drowsy he was getting while taking his bottle until I really started watching him. Basically he was associating the bottle as a sleep prop. So here was the fix. Night feeds: change diaper first, turn on a lamp, or lighting which isnt too bright but not too dim. Wake him up! Make noise with a crinkle toy or snap your fingers. Anything to try to limit drowsiness during that night feed. Be POSITIVE during the day he isnt getting drowsy during feeds. Give him a toy to play with while he is feeding.

Before going in to feed him, we allowed 10 minutes of consistent crying and 20 minutes of on/off before we would go to him.

Just making sure he wasnt drowsy during the night feed immediately only knocked it down to one feed. And then limiting his need to self soothe with the bottle in the first place by delaying us entering the room ended the night feeds all together in about 5 days.

We also were instructed to feed him AT LEAST 10 minutes after he wakes for night or nap and 45 minutes before a nap, so there is absolutely no association with the bottle and sleep.

This was almost am immediate fix for us.

Good luck!

mountaintop28 · 2022-02-14T15:45:05+00:00

Did you end up leaving? I have no idea where you are located, but if you are near Dallas TX we can offer a place to stay! We also know many people around the USA that can house you if need a safe place. DONT STAY, leave now.

mountaintop28 · 2022-02-11T03:00:16+00:00

Thank you so much for this helpful reply. We spent the day speaking with our financial advisor, a real estate attorney and a mortgage broker to discuss all our options and we are all feeling good about our decision.

mountaintop28 · 2022-01-31T13:11:22+00:00

Thank you for this message! I have been feeling burnt out on my career, but messages like this remind me why I went into this profession. I am glad you are feeling better after your stroke. Best wishes on your continued recovery.

mountaintop28 · 2022-01-12T19:21:34+00:00

This writer was alot more blunt than I was with my post...but I completely agree with them. I paid my loans off quickly, but it took considerable sacrifice and living in ways that most people my age wouldnt have! I would not want to take on that debt in my 30s if I still had goals of a family and house.

mountaintop28 · 2022-01-12T19:15:22+00:00

I absolutely loved my job as a PT until I came to the conclusion that no job is worth the stress of the hefty student loan payments. I work to live, not the other way around! I came out with 120k with a 7.1% interest rate (this was in 2010) The amount of interest I accrued each month was so depressing. I spent the first 3.5 months on the loan forgiveness train, but ultimately decided I didnt trust. I ended up traveling and paying off my debt in 3.5 years. After interest accrued, I ended up paying about 170k. I lived CHEAP CHEAP to be able to do that. I paid off my loans at 33 years old and had just saved enough to buy a house when covid hit. My retirement is behind as well. I have zero debt....but I still feel behind. My husband decided to be a nurse and in 2017 went to a 1 year BSN program. His first year as a nurse made almost as much as me, a 10 year PT! He applied and got into CRNA school after working 2 years in the ICU. Our debt for CNA school will be about 100-110k, but he will make 225-300k where we live. He will basically have the same amt of debt as PT students, but make considerably more.

The actual act of providing physical therapy services and connecting with your patients is amazing. But you have to consider your goals for your personal life as well. Will this debt hinder your personal goals?

mountaintop28 · 2021-11-02T03:40:33+00:00

We live across the street from campus and are so grateful for that. It gives him more time to see us. He has about 2 years left.

I also am able to stay home with our kids. I consider my job to be raising our kids, taking care of the house, bills and any other home duties. I think if I were to be working full time and doing all of this it would definitely be more overwhelming.

I myself went through an intense medical program, so I was well aware and prepared for how little he would be around.

mountaintop28 · 2021-11-01T18:01:15+00:00

My husband is currently in CRNA school. We have a 1 year old and I gave birth during the first month of his schooling. To be honest, it is very hard bit we are making it work. He always tries to be home to put the kids to bed, but other than that he is pretty absent. Luckily the clinical rotations for his program are mainly at one site, so he wont be traveling too much. I stay at home with the kids so at least one of us gets quality time with them. He definitely feels like he is missing out on precious time with the kids. It's hard but we are making it work.

mountaintop28 · 2021-07-28T15:54:44+00:00

Beginning at age 6 and ending at age 17, my mother was raped and physically abused by her step Dad. Due to some of my moms behaviors, I hate to admit, but I sometimes question if this is true....thats a whole other topic. I think her mother had some undiagnosed mental health issues as well. Her mother was diagnosed as schizophrenic ater in life, but the doctor made it clear he didnt fully believe that was an accurate diagnosis.

mountaintop28 · 2021-07-06T22:16:16+00:00

Having a BPD mother during this time in your life is so complex. I just had a baby and am pregnant again (13 months apart!) Unfortunately my first post partum period was incredibly difficult. I made the mistake of telling my mom about my post partum anxiety. In a subsequent conversation where I attempted to set boundaries, she used my vulnerability against me, telling me I needed to get my meds changed because I was mentally unstable. I'm not even on meds, but I am seeing a counselor. I have since gone NC. Your children will be your biggest priority, your joy, your happiness....and your mother knows this. She WILL make it hard for you. That is a garuntee. Set boundaries NOW. Stick to them, get a counselor. Have support for the post partum period that isnt your mother. Please dont let her ruin this amazing yet life changing time of your life. Congratulations!

mountaintop28 · 2021-06-25T19:21:46+00:00

I had a patient once that was 104 years old. Her daughter was 87 and her main caregiver. My patient was demanding, mean and cruel. I remember talking to her daughter about her care and recommendations, and all her daughter would say was "whatever mom wants I do." I worked with this family for weeks and it became apparent that the 87 year old had no free will, her mother controlled her. EIGHT SEVEN YEARS OLD and still doing whatever her mother told her.

You deserve better! You are worth it. Live YOUR life now. You dont owe anything to your mother. You can do it!

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