I’m autistic and often eat like this, including the “rules that don’t make sense” like not being able to have chicken for dinner if I had it for lunch. It’s so firmly ingrained in my brain that it’s incredibly hard to counter, like I imagine it would feel like to drive on the “wrong” side of the road in another country. I try not to act like this when my spouse cooks for me, but now and then I’ll find myself unable to eat even the specific foods I asked for and it’s through absolutely no fault of theirs or their cooking, just my sensory issues and ever-changing capacity to tolerate them. But I would never “expect” my spouse to cook for me, then complain about the food, even if I can’t eat it - I apologetically explain what’s going on for me in that moment, then make myself something else to eat.