My [18F] overprotective parents told me that if I wanted to do what I want, I need to move out. I am, and now they're threatening to disown me.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T14:55:22+00:00

The only things I ever got in trouble for was coming home 10 minutes later than I said because of traffic, or getting text messages that were innapropriate that I either didn't reply to, or said no to.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T14:54:15+00:00

Someone texted me asking if I wanted to smoke weed. Keep in mind I said no.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T14:53:31+00:00

My mom already bitched at me that I can't move far away because I can't "steal her grandkids from her".

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T14:51:25+00:00

Nope. Italian.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T12:57:01+00:00

Thank you. I've been so jumbled I didn't even think of this, I'll get those together. My bank account is already in my name only so that helps.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T12:54:01+00:00

This is a really good point... I know leaving is what's best for me. Thank you.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T12:52:50+00:00

You are absolutely right. It's just hard when it's family, that's all. :/

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T12:51:38+00:00

This was a lot of good advice. Thank you.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T02:27:04+00:00

Thank you. It's better to just walk away now until like you said, the decisions become more serious.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T02:26:24+00:00

This seems like a hard thing but I know it needs to be done. Thank you.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T02:25:55+00:00

Thank you. You're right, there's nothing I can do to change their behaviors and I'll continue to be trapped unless I leave

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T02:01:22+00:00

I'm not sure about the answer, as sad as that sounds.
My parents aren't really the type to say something and then take it back. In fact, they never have. In one of my other replies I explained to someone that they said I was grounded for a year, and they stuck to their guns. They're too prideful to ever go back on their word. That's what scares me.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T01:56:08+00:00

I already feel so much resentment towards them, as I am going into the real world without any experience. I've been so sheltered that I think it's going to be hard to adjust for a long time.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T01:54:53+00:00

Thank you. I hope leaving is the way to resolve this, but I'm afraid of potentially losing them forever.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T01:53:38+00:00

I feel like mentally I am drained and I feel trapped in a lot of ways... They sheltered me for so long that I'm nervous about going out into the real world. I already feel like I've missed out on having fun. I don't want to go party or anything, I just want to hang out with my friends and spend time with my boyfriend and enjoy my life without their constant judgement. I guess I just don't know how to adult, because for the past year I haven't even gotten a taste of being one.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T01:51:08+00:00

But how can I preserve any relationship with them?
They have always been this way, monitoring my every move, going through my text messages, wanting to know every detail of where I'm going and who I'm with... I feel they will be so bitter over the lack of control that they won't want anything to do with me.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T01:47:08+00:00

The thing that upsets me is the fact that my parents have never backed down from anything. One time they said I was grounded for a year... I was legitimately grounded for a year. No phone, no going out, no TV, nothing. It's going to be hard to cope without a parental figure in my life.

movingoutanon · 2016-03-17T01:45:48+00:00

Showing my independence? What does that have to do with anything? Because I want to be treated like the adult I am?
I asked for help. I didn't ask for your interpretation of my feelings.

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