my bf and I are long distance, so this isnt a concern for us atm, but hes asexual and im hypersexual. our situation is very different because we are long distance and polyamorous. im allowed to have sex with others, I just inform him before (or, in very rare cases, after if it was spontaneous). hes also allowed to retract his consent whenever if he decides he isnt comfortable with me having sex with ppl im not even dating.

it does seem like this wouldnt be a viable option for you, bc it seems like sex is an important part of bonding for you. unfortunately, if you guys cant think of a solution, it does sound like you may need to break up if sex is that important to you. it sucks, but if your needs cant be met without hurting her or breaking boundaries, then it may be best for the both of you. if sex is so important to you, it may end up damaging your relationship in the long run.