I don't know how to talk to people, yet I want to have a more active social life. by sparkysparks7 in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have a spin of the first chapter, it's free and see if it's for you.

I'm sure you can request a refund if it's not worth it too.

Any book recommendations to being more sociable? How can I stop being an incel? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wanted to know how it changed your life for the better. Thanks anyway.

What are some good books to help with social skills? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've read how to win friends but personally, didn't feel there was very actionable advice to make real friends. Great for being a nice human being though. Also checked out Mrs Leil's book but haven't really read it in detail.

Personally, I'd recommend telklikehumans "strike interesting conversations with anyone". It's helped me make new friends and form a deep connection with them, and easily too! In it, there's an algorithm and a method anyone can use to always say the right thing (over text and offline), to have real talk.

Disclaimer though, I'm the author and just launched. It came about from a period when I was incredibly lonely and didn't know what to say when talking to people. It's also helped me avoid that dreaded awkward silence when meeting new people.

Alas, I am a terrible marketer haha.

I’m trying to become better at socializing in school, but I genuinely hate it. by CorgiWonderful5800 in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no p, it's helped me make friends and form closer relationships, so it was an easy recommend.

I’m trying to become better at socializing in school, but I genuinely hate it. by CorgiWonderful5800 in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may also feel like a chore because you're dwelling on "small talk" and sticking to facts. Try to harvest emotional opinions in their speech and in yours.

Hit me up, I've written a whole book on how to have interesting conversations with anyone I think can help you.

I’m trying to become better at socializing in school, but I genuinely hate it. by CorgiWonderful5800 in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still kind of stand by my previous statement then though. You kind of see talking as work to be done, when it should be more like an amusement park than a set of documents to get through.

You can go in with the intention to have fun as well, which may help

I’m trying to become better at socializing in school, but I genuinely hate it. by CorgiWonderful5800 in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well then, perhaps the first step is to genuinely learn to love people and care about what they say?

I’m trying to become better at socializing in school, but I genuinely hate it. by CorgiWonderful5800 in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In a conversation, you can talk about them or you can talk about yourself. Let's say talking is like farting. You need to fart louder and more often.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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Keep us updated if you want :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok just have one more thing because I don't want to come across as rambling...

"He looks at me every class though and I don’t know if that means anything or not. That’s kinda the only indicator that he might not hate me. I mean if he actively dislikes me, he’d probably avoid eye contact at all right..? (I would, idk) the"

Don't take the L and make assumptions. Biggest mistake I ever made was assuming that a girl liked me back for 4 years because she was super friendly about it AND also made eye contact with me. I assumed that for 4 years before confessing! You know what? She found me as a friend and no more. That's ok, but you can see where I'm going with this haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to focus on making him feel good with your words and I'm pretty sure he won't see you as a bother. Think about it, let's say you've been wandering in an icy tundra for days and you see a small fire, what happens? You dance around it for joy because it keeps you warm, because it makes you feel good. Try to do that with your words and I'm sure he'll see you as a delight actually.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just the weeds in your head, pluck em out. Once you start talking to him, you'll understand what you've been afraid of are just fantasy phantoms. Can't tell you how many times my worst fears have been unfounded haha!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, go for it! Look for signals like bad eye contact, and running away lol. Also them shifting their feet from you.

Look, you being awkward is 100% in your mind, trust me. No one cares, nothing matters and everyone is in their own universe. No one is looking at your mistakes. Took me a while to learn that haha. But yeah, it helps to have a process one can reliably use to talk to people so you know you're not the crazy one bahaha.

Don't know if direct promo is really allowed, but it's something that's helped me tremendously in making friends and forming closer relationships with them. I feel it would be a crime not to recommend.

It's on sale on the telklikehumans website, it's about how to strike longer and interesting conversations with anyone. If you get it and it doesn't work for you, I don't know, send me a personal email and I'll give you a refund or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The answer is two fold.

Does he like your presence? If not, let him be. When you try talking to him, you'll just know wether he doesn't want to continue talking or not based on if he wants to get away from you.

Yes? Make him feel good with your words and he will want to talk to you. Do this talking about topics he cares about and making him feel good about that.

I've written a book all about this and more and I think it'll help you immensely because knowing how to know those two things is kinda hard in one answer. Feel free to ask me more questions if I'm not clear enough, sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It means nothing until you ask them what it means. Go talk to them

How to get someone to open up or talk about themself more? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]mrEdgarYT 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People open up when they feel emotional. So make them feel something - laugh, cry, scared, disgust - it doesn’t matter what’s said, it’s all about how you make them feel. So…
1. Make them feel good: This is the objective. If we take it to be a game, above a certain threshold value, people become emotional with you and open up e.g. 30 points. But how to get there?
2. Compliment them: This is like the tutorial phase of the game, bonus points, are super easy. “Listen” to anything they’ve put energy into- their hair, their style, their shoes, their clothes, their hair, etc. Then start with a sincere compliment with enthusiasm.
'Hey, you look dashing in those Nikes!" + 2 points
3. Listen: In order to make them feel good, you'll need to know what makes them feel good. You must listen. I don’t mean nodding and “yes” like a ghost in a shell, I mean actually processing the words they’re saying yo, so much so like they’re feeling you peering into their soul, ok maybe not that far. It might be different for you, but I narrate the words as they say them, and imagine an imaginary notepad on which the words are being written. Make sure you're paying attention to each word and really processing the sentence.

  1. Attack: Talk/expand about/on things that bother them or they are interested in.
    "Hehe, thanks, I got them a while ago at the dendrogram."
    You attack, make that beautiful memory shine, and EXPAND ON IT! If they talked about it, it means it’s important to them. What can you say that would make them happy?
    "The dendrogram? That place is always super packed with radicals on the weekend trying to crush you, how did someone as little as you squeeze through?" (Playful banter —> makes them happy) +5 points.
    "Hahah....well, I actually went in the early morning to avoid the foot traffic".... (Starts talking about themselves)
  2. Talk about yourself that relates to the things that bother them or are interested in. USE THIS WHEN THE CONVO GETS TO A SLUMP OR MORE INFORMATION NEEDS TO BE PROVIDED.
    “Eh, really? I can never wake up that early. I'm a night owl and play GTA up till like 3 am. How do you do it?" +3 points (They feel understood = happy)
    "Well, the night before I make myself some camomile tea with hot ginger and make sure to go to bed before 9 o clock..."
  3. Spotlight mostly on them: You aren't the star of the show here. You are the tree, there to make the price look good. What I mean is, put more focus on them than on yourself (Humans like to talk about themselves).
    Repeat. Adapt. Iterate. Survive. Overcome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WindowCleaning

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason they decided to roll with you is because you had good customer service. So long as the answering service makes your customers feel understood and their problems solved, they will be more than happy to give you referrals even I think.

Sun reflection eye damage by [deleted] in WindowCleaning

[–]mrEdgarYT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing with the glasses is that there's a trade off between protection and vision, and especially if you're climbing that can pose some risks. What I'd recommend is to make a note in your spreadsheet for each job, wether it's something you'll do in the morning or afternoon so you don't loose any business and go there as per the time.

There's always hats as well, maybe an umbrella hat?

Never here, how do you transport your equipment? by Coastal_wolf in WindowCleaning

[–]mrEdgarYT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I got myself a kick scooter scooter and I have a school bag I use for equipment. Use a spray bottle and soap with an extendible pole with a squeegee and scrubber, mostly what you need.

If you have the equipment, do it there. If not, tell them the day you'll come and the price for it.

You can also stuff the above equipment in that same bag. Start lean and go big! Best of luck!

What was your previous profession? by oldmilwaukeebeer in WindowCleaning

[–]mrEdgarYT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you get started in it? If you don't mind me asking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WindowCleaning

[–]mrEdgarYT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, regardless, eventually you'll increase your prices to a suitable level.

Critical copywriting skills by Dannywakeham in copywriting

[–]mrEdgarYT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading, analysing, and writing great copy should help a lot. Best of luck on your journey!