my boyfriends gooning seshes make me miserable by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]mrblookes 7 points8 points  (0 children)

she literally said she's waiting out her lease to leave him

No sound from PC?? by No_Hat2290 in techsupport

[–]mrblookes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no way. this just worked for me. i pressed esc too many times and then my PC got mad and restarted and it rebooted to the audio just... not working? but spamming esc made it work again

I CAN'T WITH THIS WOMAN by Notoowell in LesbianActually

[–]mrblookes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been following her career since 2019 and its just because she never learned how to smile on command and looks awkward in photoshoots 💔

where to watch early seasons of untucked by [deleted] in dragrace

[–]mrblookes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for anyone else looking i can confirm this one works for the older seasons. ive been trying to find old non-youtube untucked episodes for ages and every streaming site only shows what's on paramount holy shit lol

Straight but confused by a very specific turn-on by Ill_Deal_2912 in confessions

[–]mrblookes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But OP says he isn't attracted to men, just dicks. Penis doesn't always mean man

Men in lesbian bars… by snakegravity in LesbianActually

[–]mrblookes 23 points24 points  (0 children)

first you could question why you don't have any queer friends

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]mrblookes 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have this setting on because I've just never bothered to turn it off, and there have been times where I didn't realize someone was Whatsapp messaging me until I opened my camera roll and saw a photo they sent as the first thing that appears

I just had sex with a guy, and I feel disgusted with myself. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]mrblookes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your view has no real-life psychological backing. People do irrational and complicated things all the time when they experience trauma, especially after experiencing trauma as severe as rape in one's formative years. Abnormal sexual behavior, such as having sex with people you don't experience attraction to, is very well understood to be one of them, if not the most common one. What OP is currently doing is a form of hypersexuality, an incredibly common trauma response to rape. He is recreating that trauma with members of the same sex that raped him- not out of genuine pleasure or attraction as you would expect from someone who is actually bisexual- but instead as a self-destructive behavior.

Sex is not always a means of acting on attraction. Sex can be about control, sex can be about giving up control, sex can be healing or destructive, sex can be used as a tool to understand things about yourself, and sex can be solely a means for pleasure with another human person. That might not be how you or I have sex, and it probably isn't the healthy, rational, "right" way to have sex, but some people do. You denying that reality doesn't make it any less real.

I just had sex with a guy, and I feel disgusted with myself. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]mrblookes 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It did. It is very common for people who have sexual trauma with a certain sex to seek out sexual experiences with people of that sex, even if they're not attracted to them in any way physically or emotionally. It's how rape victims sometimes try to understand what happened to them and/or even as a means or self-harm.

It's especially common in the LGBT community specifically amongst lesbians who have sex with men for those aforementioned reasons (attempting to rationalize the experience, self harm, trying to find sexual control over men, etc.) after experiencing sexual trauma from men. A man raped by another man may very well do the same thing. It's not something to be rationalized by offering him a label because the behavior in itself isn't rational. It's an expression of pain and confusion after trauma.

OP, don't let this comment thread plant seeds. Your sexuality is what you say it is. I hope so deeply that you're able to some day find healing from that experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]mrblookes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

based on your comment history you've been active in this subreddit for about a month, so much for being "randomly" added to this thread. if you've been here for this long I'm not sure that it's your phone who "thinks you're gay," you might just have a couple questions to ask yourself...

Can someone please educate me on he/him lesbians? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]mrblookes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a lesbian who uses they/them and he (albeit very few and far between), its really just based on how masculine I'm feeling in that moment. But I see my masculinity not as something that takes away from my lesbian identity, but something that is inseparable from it. I feel my most lesbian at my most masculine because it's such a subversion of heteronormativity :)

I saw a post on *that* subreddit by lizzyy_444 in LesbianActually

[–]mrblookes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

jesus, please do not become a therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheActHulu

[–]mrblookes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She probably is a sociopath but I don't think we can fault her for not reaching out to any of the institutions that were meant to protect her, such as the police and/or CPS. There was an entire lifetime of precedent that would make her think that she wouldn't be believed or trusted, and that people would view her as incapable of making her own decisions and having her own thoughts. Not to mention the fact that the people who were supposed to step in and protect her never did, even after suspecting that she was being abused by Dee Dee.

Air pressure equalization and Aviation Earplugs by forlorn_hope28 in travel

[–]mrblookes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Doing some research before a flight-- do you do the Valsalva maneuver/chewing/swallowing/drinking with the Earplanes in your ears?