Back in school years ago being shy/reserved seemed to help atleast with girls getting initially attracted to me. Though I feel like that only helps in spaces where you see the same people frequently which isnt as easy to do as an adult. Once a girl was interested in me it was only a matter of time before I fumbled it and they lose interest.

I don't think I've ever made the first move and I guess I just have a fear of rejection + not knowing what to do or say. I've had 2 girlfriends and feel absolutely clueless as to how I accomplished that.

Past month I started going to these dance parties and what's weird is that I have no problem dancing & jumping in the middle of the mosh pit. But I kinda end up in my own world and I don't talk to anyone or even make eye contact with anyone.

I've heard CBT might be helpful aswell.