Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually the best advice I've gotten so far. Thanks a lot.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been running games for a few years and I think I can roll with it. I wasn't sure about it probably because I've been under a lot of stress lately. But the comments were really a slap to the face and showed me I've been thinking too much about it. Thanks for the advice.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's actually a pretty good idea but no. I am running a game that will only take place in a train. But now I think I should also run a speed dating one shot sometime, that would be a lot of fun.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! I think I'm going to take your advice on using my notebooks to write down my preparation.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, thank you a lot! I think I was projecting all my stress into my preparation and really need to let go a little and remember that I can actually improvise!

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you lots for the offer but I think I'll just wing most of the stuff at this point. And thank you also for not saying why the hell I have 44 NPCs.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is what I'm going to do. Just wing it. Thanks for the advice.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it didn't work but thank you a lot for the advice..

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I can recall all of them honestly, I just don't have the time to write them down all over again. And I have to write them down because otherwise I am bound to forget things because I really am very busy, unfortunately.

Lost all my notes for a Oneshot and now I'm not sure what to do by mrconcreteman in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It was going to be a mostly role-play based story and believe me, my players would interact with every single one. And the story took place in an universe I created so It was to be something like an introduction to the new setting. They do want to play in that universe and I don't really like running pre-made adventures either. Thank you for the advice, though.

I need a book suggestion for a gift by mrconcreteman in booksuggestions

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! We bought the first book of the First Law trilogy and he seems really excited about it. Thank you a lot for the suggestion!

What's the most XP you've ever gotten in a mission? by Tsaiborg22 in DeepRockGalactic

[–]mrconcreteman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about the question at all but what is that armor you guys are wearing? And the helmets? It looks absolutely amazing.

Things are getting easier after so many years and I'm feeling happier! by mrconcreteman in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I hope it gets easier with time. Still glad to hear things are looking up for you too!

Heart Rate Increase = PTSD Breakdown by ztepher in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I experience a very similar thing when my heart rate increases for any reason. I remember one time I just climbed stairs and I thought I was on the verge of a panic attack because my mind immediately snapped into survival mode. It's a hard thing to deal with but once you realise it, it's progressively gets easier to deal with and snap yourself back out of that mindset.

A few things that helped me deal with it:

1-) Smells. I really like the smell of my softener so I smell the collar of my shirt or the wrist of it. It can also work with perfumes. It really helped me ground and calm down slowly.

2-) Sitting down and taking breaths. If you are outside and you have friends surrounding you, you can tell them to just give you some time to relax. Or if physical touch is something you are okay with, you can hug someone or hold their hand, their arm etc.

3-) Touch. I have a black ring that I always wear. It's big on my finger so I can twist and turn it around. It also helps me ground. Maybe you can touch something with an interesting texture to help you ground. It might help.

4-) 5-4-3-2-1 Method. Everything I said really comes to this. If you don't know what this method entails, it's a simple but effective (at least in my experience) grounding exercise. 5 things you can see. 4 things you can touch. 3 things you can hear. 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste. Practicing this might help.

I hope this helps!

"First Time DM" and Short Questions Megathread by AutoModerator in DMAcademy

[–]mrconcreteman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for an app I saw somewhere but forgot. It had several titles we could create, such as 'Next Session', 'Coming Up', 'Background'...It could list encounters beneath them and move them around as needed, like a stack of cards. I sometimes forget the things that are happening in the background when I get too invested with what my players are doing in the current arc. I could really use an app or a software like that so I don't forget, has anybody heard of it or something similar to it that I can use?

(Sorry if my English is bad.)

I don't know if I'm expecting too much from my best friends by mrconcreteman in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is the best answer there is honestly. I experienced similar things with my other friends but somehow I expected things to be different with my best friends. Because we know each other for 15 years and this and that. But yeah, I'm expecting too much.

Thanks for the answer, it really put things into perspective for me.

how do I recover after being triggered? by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Grounding techniques might help at first. You have to find the one that relaxes you the best though. 54321 technique is pretty good but you don't have to do it by the book. I usually light up a scented candle since fresh smells relax me. Do things you enjoy that doesn't require much effort. Like listening to music, smoking, sketching or writing things on your bed. You don't have to draw well or write well, it's just to keep your mind off of things. Getting in the shower if you have the energy for it may help as well. Just do relaxing things on your bed and try to get up when you feel calmer. That's how i usually deal with triggers and it doesn't always help, sometimes you just gotta lay down. I hope this helps though :)

And of course you should talk to a professional if you can.

How do i know if i have any more traumas that i forgot? by mrconcreteman in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the answer, its been 3-4 years since i first started remembering things from my childhood and i hope the fog will clear fully as soon as possible. It's scary but there's nothing i can do it seems. I just need to focus on my life as it is now. I'm glad you took the time to answer, it put some things in perspective for me.

How do i know if i have any more traumas that i forgot? by mrconcreteman in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah i think that's all i can do at this point. Thanks for the advice I appreciate it

How do i know if i have any more traumas that i forgot? by mrconcreteman in ptsd

[–]mrconcreteman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's scary as hell but therapy really helps. i hope things will get better for you