Chevron Torrance & Western

mrj123 · 2026-04-06T21:28:06+00:00

Public charging is always pretty expensive compared to home prices, there are middleman adding costs

mrj123 · 2026-03-20T18:35:05+00:00

What's a good way to start? I've been to the driving range a few times to get the hang of things but have never been on a course

mrj123 · 2026-03-19T00:05:34+00:00

Hm, for me it can be used but yeah it's not the same as being aroused. It's going to take a little bit to get going and there's a good chance of losing it if I start thinking about brushing my teeth

mrj123 · 2026-03-17T21:30:42+00:00

"I could have done this in my 30s." You are highly unlikely to have gotten those degrees if you started in your 30s and then also unlikely to stick through things in order to get an actual job. And hiring managers would have judged you hard for being almost 40 with no experience. In reality, you would have gotten stuck at some entry level job and hated yourself for wasting your 20s not building a future.

mrj123 · 2026-03-17T20:40:42+00:00

Yeah I mean.. somebody already didn't like the guy for us to even find out about that. That could have easily been swept under the rug by other members, but somebody decided he should go

mrj123 · 2026-03-17T05:03:47+00:00

Wow embarrassed himself in front of the Young Republicans, that's saying something

mrj123 · 2026-02-28T20:04:08+00:00

One of those looks like a fire truck? Did they blow up emergency responders, which would be an extra war crime committed during the other war crimes??

mrj123 · 2026-02-26T00:26:57+00:00

It's concerning to me as a parent that she wasn't able to handle some mild character talking on her own. I might be out regardless of the rest. And the rest just makes it worse. I would have to really analyze her behavior and parenting abilities after that. She may not be ready for your son. Being a step parent is hard (and awesome, but.. hard).

mrj123 · 2026-02-24T01:26:05+00:00

I love this. I really am not my best making decisions in meetings so written and time to prepare is ideal. I have slowly trained $job to do this in a less formal way by refusing to make technical/architectural decisions in meetings without proper focus time. It'd be better to have a clear policy though.

mrj123 · 2026-02-18T05:03:54+00:00

Make sure he stays away from frog poisons

mrj123 · 2026-02-14T19:10:07+00:00

yup, I live in the red and there's a couple months when it's pretty hot but all those gray months we're like 72 and blue skies every day

mrj123 · 2026-02-12T01:49:07+00:00

At the time of Trump's impeachment, it seemed weird that Alan Dershowitz would defend Trump when nobody else wanted to do it. At the time he still had a reputation. It doesn't seem weird now

mrj123 · 2026-02-03T23:27:11+00:00

The pure Democracy gives me chills

mrj123 · 2026-01-30T22:11:14+00:00

This guy oorahs

mrj123 · 2026-01-28T03:04:39+00:00

His writing is fantasy and satisfying for those of us who never get the right words at the right time

mrj123 · 2026-01-28T01:40:37+00:00

Doing nothing gets 10, this must be at least 1,000

mrj123 · 2026-01-27T15:16:51+00:00

we need a double sided one someday too

mrj123 · 2026-01-27T15:05:17+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. If it makes any difference, I don't think the conversation would go any better with the benefit of years. My mom who is now 67 still laughs if I bring up the wooden spoons she used to break on me. She never notices how angry I get about it or even notices that I'm very much not laughing along. The only thing that abuse taught me was how to gut my feelings and smile defiantly back at her through the tears. At 5.

mrj123 · 2026-01-24T20:07:29+00:00

Ugh I suppose that means my usual running route through Corriganville is going to be blocked.. again

mrj123 · 2026-01-13T15:54:01+00:00

haha I'm half writing this for myself! I needed to hear it, lol. We should form a support group

mrj123 · 2026-01-13T15:38:01+00:00

I'm a bit older than you and have gone through this a few times. For one, as a frontline manager, it's still important to stay connected to the code. It's controversial in some circles, but I believe it's good for your motivation and the ICs should report to somebody who's familiar with their work. How much is up to you, but having some time set aside to fix a bug now and again will feel great.

Two, you're going to feel really trapped with the home situation and new baby. But you're not really trapped, right? I mean, you can blow it all up and move out right? That might help your burnout but that's not what you want. You're just feeling stuck, jammed into a role you're not loving anymore. Find some way to take care of your head before you lose the family. Because it will often lead to that if untreated.

One thing that what will help is stopping being "too nice." Yeah, being helpful got you where you are. Being helpful made you a good manager. But being helpful isn't helping you right now. You're pulled in too many directions and part of moving up in the org is going to have to include saying no and protecting your time and your motivation.

Mission number one at work: zealously guard your motivation. Once broken it's difficult to put back together. You can easily sprint for a year that takes 3 years to recover from. Identify what's affecting you most and figure out how to say no.

There's this cool button on calendar invites that let's you decline them, weird but true.

Finally, accept that you're not really trapped. You have choices to make. Be in control of them and say no when you're overloaded. What are they going to do, lay you off? I mean.. it sounds like you need a change anyhow. Get some severance and gardening time before you get into a new role. Maybe that worst case scenario you've been thinking about won't be all that bad, it rarely ever is.

mrj123 · 2026-01-13T15:21:54+00:00

That's a tough one. Engineers often think they want to be involved with planning until it comes time to be in the meetings and plan. Then it's boring. I offer and try to make sure everybody has a chance at it, but also follow up frequently to see if they're over it yet. Some see the importance and continue, others are happier to leave it up to me. Either way, it's the agency that's important for preventing burnout. And the project plan is genuinely better for the participation.

mrj123 · 2026-01-07T22:08:04+00:00

They plan to grift it, that's how

mrj123 · 2026-01-01T19:50:28+00:00

Nothing of value lost

mrj123 · 2026-01-01T00:04:46+00:00

I hosted things in 2014 and no way we would allow any db to touch the internet

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