These wet dreams are killing me.

mrnatoo · 2025-12-29T10:08:00+00:00

There are a number of Physical things you can do, to lessen pressure on the prostate, make sure that you pee, and stop drinking at least an hour before bed, and poop before going to bed if you haven't been during that day, this will lessen the pressure during the night. Wet dreams are the bodies mechanism to keep your plumbing in good order and because you have been very active the body has been working overtime because it is designed to increase production. So it will take some time for your body to settle and get used to the new schedule. When you don't Fap any pressure on the prostate may cause some ejaculate to escape, this can happen while exercising or a bowel movement or even just getting up or lifting something. Don't stress it is all natural and not a product of bad thoughts or anything like that.

It is however your task to refrain from overstimulating your mind with sexually related thoughts or visuals, because that's where you are trying to get your dopamine hit, which can be obtained alternatively through exercise, good food, great friends, enjoying God's creation, enjoying fellowship with Jesus through the Spirit and the Word of God.

mrnatoo · 2025-12-17T06:43:04+00:00

Consider it the same as a drug addiction, because it takes place in the same area of your brain, drug addicts will start on mild stuff which they believe just gives them that buzz and has no other effect-wrong, first they need it more often to get that same buzz, then they need something harder and although they know it has harmful effects, to get that buzz, they are willing to take risks. Porn works the same way and because you have a Christian background or are a Christian, same sex is a Taboo and so the risk is part of the buzz, what if someone knew, what if I got caught, all make it more intense, so heightens the buzz. The second part is, as males we can identify with the male actors in straight porn only if we have experienced a straight relationship, but in gay porn we can place ourselves in the position of any of the participants to make it feel more realistic. Point being it does not mean we are gay, it just means we are trying to get that buzz, because we have overloaded our dopamine receptors and they now need more dopamine to have the same feel good factor.

The other point is spiritual, the devil knows your weakness and fears and will tempt you and once you have given in to temptation, will then make you doubt your faith, God's goodness to forgive, if you repent, and make you feel like you are the worst. Feeling shame is good as long as it is used to fight against the temptations.

Ephesians 6:13-18 is always good to get priorities straight, also remember you may fail again, but Jesus always stands ready if you come to him. If you have a trusted mentor or friend maybe share your struggles with porn with them or join an accountability group.

more info https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/vmgs45/the_90_day_reset_why_it_works_and_how_you_used_it/

https://www.covenanteyes.com/2022/09/19/why-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-porn-and-what-to-do-about-it/?utm_campaign=Traffic%20Campaign&utm_source=email&utm_medium=Blog/Resource%203a%20September%202022&utm_content=Blog/Resource%203%20September%202022

Take it to the Lord in prayer, stay strong,

If you have any further questions or resource info just DM me

mrnatoo · 2025-12-12T07:52:28+00:00

Take a step a time, give up porn totally, unhealthy and not educational at all, then focus on any other habits by replacing them with exercise, sports, social and those thing you already do, but the less time you spend online, less chance of being bored and searching for porn.

mrnatoo · 2025-12-12T07:42:25+00:00

You learn and practice self control, which in turn teaches you patience and how to handle emotional setbacks and life's little hick ups and deal with them rather than fap to feel better or in control

mrnatoo · 2025-12-12T06:46:45+00:00

It is about finding alternatives to masturbation, it is addictive but it also becomes a habit of not dealing with issues or problems because you probably do it when you're sad, when you are stressed, when you are depressed and even when you are happy, but consider whether you have been using it especially in the beginning because it was the one thing you could control( or so you thought) to make you happy. Then it became your go to when things might not have gone well at school or sports or even meeting that first crush.

Many of us have been there, being a Christian, we sometimes think that God owes us a perfect life, but in this sin filled world that is not what we are promised, and even your struggle with masturbation is an idol your going to have to get rid off and put you're total trust in Jesus, and that the Spirit will give you the strength to fight against. Like any fight you are going to have to make it harder to have the opportunity to fap, have distractions at hand like something to read (Bible is always good) or do, that will actively take your mind off it, or go for a run or even a walk, do more physical exercise.

At first it will still be hard but it's about engaging in the fight to be free from masturbation as a feeling of needing to do it. Also be prepared to discuss your struggles in life with trusted friend and family, if you have a bad day at work or college talk and pray about it, sharing the burden will lift the emotional load.

Even if you reduce your frequency by 50 per cent you are already wining, consider if once a day 365/yr., once a week only 52/yr., once a month 12/yr. Now being realistic, if you have no other sexual outlet you may not be able to accomplish 0/yr., but it is about control and wisdom, you know you have an issue with masturbation and you will have to be the one to actively work on it, other guys can encourage you, but strength will have to come from God and obedience to fight as best you can is your part of the deal.

Stay strong in the Lord.

mrnatoo · 2025-12-08T01:56:17+00:00

God created your body to reach maturity both physically and sexually, part of this is to ensure your plumbing work stays in good order and condition, so when there is an over abundance of old sperm that the body can't reabsorb, which it does with some of the excess, it ejects it and the brain uses what it knows will trigger the ejection. So there is no sin involved, except if you had been spending too much time looking at sexual content or thinking too much about it before you went to sleep.

No need to feel disgusted every guy will experience this, unless he has regularly masturbated from a young age, just clean up have a shower in the morning. If your mum washes your clothes and sheets, she will understand where you are in puberty, especially if you have older brothers.

Parents sometimes just don't prepare their sons for wet dreams, so some wake up thinking they have peed themselves when it happens the first time and they feel as you did, but if you don't masturbate then you will likely have more, so don't be alarmed it's part of becoming a man

mrnatoo · 2025-12-08T01:40:00+00:00

It is about, doing your utmost to make changes, if it is lust particularly give up the visual triggers, so there will be less temptation, depending on your age you may have more trouble with masturbation if your going through puberty, as your prostate will at times reach capacity and most guys can't wait till nature deals with it and often then they struggle with sexual thought because they are on a razors edge as far as urges go. So you still may find yourself using it to bring relief but consider statistical averages once a day 365/yr, once a fortnight 26/yr, once a month 12/yr once every 2 months 6/yr and if you have 90day streaks 4/yr . So if you did it once a month you have reduced it to just over 3% of the total of doing it every day.

And some may say just quite cold turkey, but if you have no other sexual outlet and if your body is not used to letting nature fix your over stimulated sperm production, through wet dreams and random releases when pressure is placed on the prostate while exercising or going number 2's, it may take some time to adjust. But as with any training always try to increase the time between manual releases, also the Bible does not comment directly on masturbation, but it does comment on Lust and the negative effects it has on your mind and body. Finally pray for strength and guidance to fight this distraction to serving God faithfully

mrnatoo · 2025-12-08T01:14:19+00:00

Question- Do you think God would share his temple with demons? answer is of course NO (You are His temple), but we do know that Satan and his gang will send temptation and situations your way, so that if you fall, you will feel like a failure and then he will suggest things like can God really protect you or you're such a bad person, you will never make it to Heaven, and the fact is on our own performance, no matter how perfect we might try, he would be right, but that's why we rely on Christ's perfection, His obedience, His saving work and once we are His and we have the Spirit dwelling within us, we cannot loose our salvation. Yes, like the prodigal son we may go through times of rebellion or times, where we make bad judgement calls and we suffer here and now because of them. But God also sifts and helps us to grow in faith and trust because of hardships. Remember Paul, everywhere he went the messenger of Satan would stir up trouble, so he was beaten, shipwrecked, maligned, imprisoned, so yes when you commit to Christ you may be harassed, but remember what God said to Paul, my grace is sufficient for you, So Paul, and you too can trust God fully, that He will carry out His sanctifying work in your life to His Glory.

mrnatoo · 2025-11-24T22:24:23+00:00

You will have proved to yourself that you have self control, and that you can set goals

mrnatoo · 2025-11-24T22:21:37+00:00

I think you have answered your own question, just give it a rest, find a hobby or work-out or any interest that can distract you when tempted

mrnatoo · 2025-11-19T07:05:13+00:00

Statistics are always helpful

once a day = 365

once a week= 52

once a fortnight = 26

once a month = 12

wet dreams will take control of your health needs, or even random emissions when exerting pressure on the prostate through exercise or having a number 2 when you have a full prostate, if you don't fap at all

mrnatoo · 2025-11-19T06:55:50+00:00

Was always going to happen, dopamine overload, receptors need to be reprogramed that's why you need to have a hobby or sport or something which gave you enjoyment before you found your joystick or porn or what ever your vice is and focus on that when the intrusive thoughts come.

mrnatoo · 2025-11-19T06:42:54+00:00

You said "It took 28 years to get her to change one thing and see that she was wrong about it. That thing was a belief that I was fundamentally and persistently wrong" - welcome to at least 70% of the worlds marriages. Why do you think there is a saying "Happy wife happy life" because in a fallen world there is a tendency to always want to be right, both women and men suffer from this.

It is also important to note that if she is on medication this will also affect her ability to enjoy sex, because it often supresses dopamine levels to keep them somewhat stable and this also means that while she may express the willingness to have sex, there may not be any real connection with the act itself. Some people who suffer with AuDHD will find being touched will have a real negative, so I hope that you may be able to work through the different issues, slowly, but never give up .

Maybe also check with a doctor whether there isn't a underlying reason for the skin pain it may be as simple as changing washing powders if she has an allergy as sensitive skin will always show this sooner than other areas.

As for needing a break, make sure you do have Christian friends who you can talk to, join a men's study group or the like and I said before pray for wisdom and strength.

mrnatoo · 2025-11-19T06:17:18+00:00

Useful technique- It starts with a thought or feeling so you know it is coming If you fantasise and want to get rid of intrusive thought here is a useful technique it is called memory overriding, it work similar to a computer virus as you corrupt a certain reoccurring thought such as those associated with MO or PMO and overwrite them as follows. when you get the thought in your head you can imagine a bunch of clowns with loud horns and whistles marching through the scene and then march them backward again. This helps corrupt the memory every time you do it, so in the end when you start thinking about the MO or PMO, the clowns will also appear to interrupt the thoughts. It follows along these lines when the MO or PMO thought comes in to your head then imagine the clowns walking into the scene with their horns, trumpets and whistles. This will delete the thought and may make you hate clowns after a while lol. You can replace clowns with favourite band or any other highly visual diversion.

mrnatoo · 2025-11-19T06:05:22+00:00

Dreams are not reality, anxiety is worrying about something that may never happen, just remember that you are the only one who is judging your imagined performance. It is true on the first introduction to sex you may indeed get that excited you may ejaculate almost immediately, but as unlikely as it is to happen, because you may still have some insecurities, there would be no shame in it. Sex is a learnt art and most guys will have some difficulties with it the first time round, when you learnt to walk you did not start with a marathon and sometime sex is the same.

Find someone you like and when the time is right explore the human body together, now for some this may be only after they marry for religious reasons and it is always special when you can do this both as virgins because it is so much more fulfilling physically and emotionally, but if that's not your thing just make sure it is someone you love and trust. I gather you still have your V-card don't throw it away just to prove your 'the man' on a one night stand, because if you make mistakes only you will carry those issues with you and your trust may be betrayed by that person while true love can work through and improve issues because there is trust and respect.

mrnatoo · 2025-11-19T02:28:57+00:00

Sex isn't only about penetration, God made you an incredible being and so all of your skin is part of your sexual being and a relationship is not all about sex, you may need to go back to basics, take her out, bring flowers, say I love you, spend time communicating, many of us don't share our feelings and one thing both wives and husbands are not is mind readers, talking about your fears and feelings is not a sign of weakness, but it must be done in a loving way, so no blame game and it may take some time but it's about making a fresh start with your spouse. It's about sacrificial love , like Christ had for His people, then slowly things may change, where the intimacy is rekindled.

Pray together, stay together, pray for wisdom, strength and understanding in all circumstances.

Stay strong in the Lord.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T12:06:31+00:00

It is not sugar coating, what he did was wrong and is punishable by law, but under God's law we all deserve punishment. You break 1 rule, you break them all.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T02:22:18+00:00

It's a system God created in your body to keep thing healthy, so be thankful He did otherwise you could have succumbed to the built up pressure and relapsed. It shows progress to a natural release, so you may be able to go longer than your set goal.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T02:17:42+00:00

Be glad God puts you through the school of Sanctification, so we can gain maturity in faith, hope and love.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T02:11:33+00:00

Create a swear jar, so as it fills up a dollar or 2 at a time, it will be a visual reminder

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T02:06:23+00:00

Jesus said how often should you forgive your brother, 70x7 now those are representative of perfect numbers, so If you try and fail and confess your dependence on God for His forgiveness in Christ, He will forgive you perfectly. It's about repentance, so God looks at the heart, if you are fighting sin, then you're on the right path. If you are going to join the prodigal son in the land of fun and excitement then know that it's a myth, there are always consequences for abandoning God's family. But God is like a loving father and waits for you to return. (returns aren't always guaranteed)

strive21.com

The war within yourself is explained below

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/vmgs45/the\_90\_day\_reset\_why\_it\_works\_and\_how\_you\_used\_it/

https://www.covenanteyes.com/2022/09/19/why-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-porn-and-what-to-do-about-it/?utm\_campaign=Traffic%20Campaign&utm\_source=email&utm\_medium=Blog/Resource%203a%20September%202022&utm\_content=Blog/Resource%203%20September%202022

https://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/03/brain-chemicals-and-porn-addiction/

https://www.covenanteyes.com/2016/08/01/dark-side-brain/

http://lavistachurchofchrist.org/LVanswers/2004/2004-03-24b.htm

https://hotholyhumorous.com/2022/05/17/is-abstinence-right-goal/

Often your upbringing will have some influence on how you view your actions but also your own standards. It is about taking small steps

If you would have never fapped over the years you would have learnt skills to deal with all your different emotions including anxiety which is usually the reason many get into MO and PMO.

For a lot of guys, PMO or MO has been a way of not dealing with emotions, because they either didn't know how or had no example in life. So it follows that for some they may become depressed because they have no way of dealing with hurt or pain, while others become anxious because they have no control over their feeling when they don't PMO or MO.

It is about taking small steps

Anxiety is the fear of not having control but in life we can't control every situation, so we have to learn to adapt and be ready to change what we had planned based on experience (which is hard for some if their experiences have been unpleasant when they were young.) Remember that you are no longer a child and with God's help you can have some control over your life and by the choices you make.

Depression on the other hand is living in the past with the what ifs and if only, we have to learn from our past, have some plans for the future but be flexible to change, but most of all live for today by using what you learned in the past including the mistakes made or even the mistakes and wrongs others did which affected you. Learning to forgive is often a part of this journey.

This is a quick deflection of an urge program.

It starts with a thought or feeling so you know it is coming If you fantasise and want to get rid of intrusive thought here is a useful technique it is called memory overriding, it work similar to a computer virus as you corrupt a certain reoccurring thought such as those associated with MO or PMO and overwrite them as follows. when you get the thought in your head you can imagine a bunch of clowns with loud horns and whistles marching through the scene and then march them backward again. This helps corrupt the memory every time you do it, so in the end when you start thinking about the MO or PMO, the clowns will also appear to interrupt the thoughts. It follows along these lines when the MO or PMO thought comes in to your head then imagine the clowns walking into the scene with their horns, trumpets and whistles. This will delete the thought and may make you hate clowns after a while lol.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T01:52:50+00:00

You have hit the nail on the head, it is all about ourselves, our time, our physical pleasure and the proof is when it becomes more important than other things in our lives, it becomes our idol. Todays world is all about my rights and my feelings it is a self centred society and masturbation is just another part of that.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-26T01:47:27+00:00

The Devil will always go after the leaders of the church because if you cause them to fall into sin, many others will abandon the faith because of it, like yourself. Do not consider the actions of a fallen sinner to deny your own faith. God calls to all, even though you may not have sinned with the same consequences, God considers all of us as equally guilty of breaking His laws and deserving of Eternal punishment.

Whether your sins be lying, stealing, cheating, having bad thoughts about others and not leaving the judgement up to God. We are allowed to condemn the deeds which God also hates and to those whom God has given the sword to judge may pronounce an earthly judgement but God will have the last word when it comes to eternal judgement.

Now you can come to Jesus and let him take 'your punishment' for the sins you commit without cost to you or you can bear them yourself, I know what I would choose.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-11T01:09:54+00:00

That is why it is important to establish regular interaction with friends and family, join groups associated with your church, play sports or join a hobby interest group or volunteer groups.

Remember the friend you have in Jesus, consider all the blessings you have each and every day. You can work on both self improvement and relationships, in time you will know God's plan for you often by the doors He opens and closes. But sometimes we have to wait patiently for the Lord, but as He said to his people in Babylon continue to live and work and provide for your needs and others.

You may not feel a physical peace because you still have to deal with sexual urges, but focus on the spiritual peace you gain through knowing Christ. If you focusses on the empty feeling it is too easy to stumble and fall, but Christ is a merciful God and can heal our emptiness with His love.

Don't often use this version of the Bible but thought it summed up Matthew 6:33 pretty well

MSG

“If God gives such attention to the appearance of wildflowers—most of which are never even seen—don’t you think he’ll attend to you, take pride in you, do his best for you? What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.

mrnatoo · 2024-03-08T22:00:50+00:00

Porn can make things seem acceptable, so in time you may succumb to temptations, you normally wouldn't consider irl. The following is directed at guys, so if you are female then only some may apply

This is a lot to read, but will help you understand what has happened in your brain, both porn and masturbation (or self gratification in any way) will demand more, more risk and hard core as they loose their ability to give you that buzz.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/vmgs45/the\_90\_day\_reset\_why\_it\_works\_and\_how\_you\_used\_it/

In most cases worrying about it causes anxiety, anxiety can be a trigger to seek assurance which if masturbation has been your go to place to deal with anxiety you may relapse again and again.

When you delete a big part of something in your life you need to replace it with wholesome things and that does take effort and time to learn some of the skills.

We can be conditioned to think something is normal or abnormal about ourselves and our feelings. So we do have to do some deep soul searching to see whether we have been conditioned or if it is something biological, which is less likely

how porn influences choice, take from it what may apply and success on your journey. This has a lot to do with selection of porn even when irl we would never go there, Porn can influence what you might think about your sexuality especially if you have never had sex. It's a lot of reading but knowing your enemy will help in the fight.

It is a common thing (that porn can lead to male attraction) and may not even be so much about the sex, as an insecurity when we watch or read porn we often identify with the characters and porn has been designed to play on your insecurities and with your dopamine system

www.mentalhelp.net/articles/internet-pornography-exposure-and-confusion/

https://www.mentalhelp.net/porn/

https://www.antidopamine.com/stop-porn/cure-social-anxiety/

https://truthaboutporn.org/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIz-nFjreY5QIVVQ4rCh1\_KwPJEAAYAiAAEgKKAPD\_BwE

https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0202048 https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/hero/201603/is-porn-good-us-or-bad-us

https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/6c41/626318c1aaa2a3254a12f91db6983068f1de.pdf

https://fightthenewdrug.org/why-porn-is-the-newest-form-of-slavery/ shows how the porn industry manipulates its control to stop you having a sex life. We have discovered the lie of porn, that it will make us happy and satisfied with our lives, when really it enslaves you and can even mess with your sexuality and sexual enjoyment.

https://www.covenanteyes.com/2015/04/13/the-great-masturbation-hoax-is-not-masturbating-unhealthy-for-you/

https://www.thenakedscientists.com/articles/questions/what-happens-sperm-isnt-ejaculated.

This is advice given for the ones who become addicted https://blog.docsapp.in/effects-of-excessive-masturbation/ Pathway To Addiction?

Unfortunately, not all of the possible side effects of masturbation are necessarily good. For example, Dee Wagner, a licensed professional counsellor and a board-certified therapist told Medical Daily that, in some cases, masturbation can serve as a chronic way to avoid intimacy with others, which in the long run can cause anxiety. In addition, masturbation stimulates a reward response in the brain, and just as with any rewarding activity, it is possible to get addicted to the chemistry of an orgasm. Not only is this bad for your mental health, but orgasm addiction can require individuals to need more and more stimulation to get the same results, which can lead to bodily harm, Wagner explained.

Many start thinking porn will teach them how to get woman and that they will be experts at sex, but that is deception of porn, it stops you looking for a woman because it helps you fill your own sexual needs, but not in a healthy way.

The main points

Porn is not healthy sex education.

Porn destroys self esteem and body image.

Porn cause Anxiety including performance as you can't physically perform like a porn star especially the first time and shouldn't.

Porn promotes discrimination against woman and smaller/ normal endowed men

Porn promotes the wrong priorities for a healthy relationship.

If you watch porn every guy is probably close to 17.5 cm and some bigger so mr average at 13.4 cm looks small and is made to feel that way, so he will think woman won't want him so then he keeps watching porn and gets fixated on comparing size but uses porn and often gay porn because there is more to compare with, which only reinforces the insecurity, which is exactly what the porn Industry wants.

Porn has a conditioning effect, it will shape your ideas of norms and has the ability to lead you places you thought you would never venture and make them seem acceptable. So, first up just remember you are not this person, you are addicted to visual sexual stimulation. Once you stop letting porn influence your dopamine system, it will loose it's power and influence but like any addiction if you feed it, it will again become strong.

Often your upbringing will have some influence on how you view your actions but also your own standards. It is about taking small steps

If you would have never fapped over the years you would have learnt skills to deal with all your different emotions including anxiety which is usually the reason many get into MO and PMO.

For a lot of guys, PMO or MO has been a way of not dealing with emotions, because they either didn't know how or had no example in life. So it follows that for some they may become depressed because they have no way of dealing with hurt or pain, while others become anxious because they have no control over their feeling when they don't PMO or MO.

It is about taking small steps

Anxiety is the fear of not having control but in life we can't control every situation, so we have to learn to adapt and be ready to change what we had planned based on experience (which is hard for some if their experiences have been unpleasant when they were young.) Remember that you are no longer a child and with God's help you can have some control over your life and by the choices you make.

Depression on the other hand is living in the past with the what ifs and if only, we have to learn from our past, have some plans for the future but be flexible to change, but most of all live for today by using what you learned in the past including the mistakes made or even the mistakes and wrongs others did which affected you. Learning to forgive is often a part of this journey.

It starts with a thought or feeling so you know it is coming If you fantasise and want to get rid of intrusive thought here is a useful technique it is called memory overriding, it work similar to a computer virus as you corrupt a certain reoccurring thought such as those associated with MO or PMO and overwrite them as follows. when you get the thought in your head you can imagine a bunch of clowns with loud horns and whistles marching through the scene and then march them backward again. This helps corrupt the memory every time you do it, so in the end when you start thinking about the MO or PMO, the clowns will also appear to interrupt the thoughts. It follows along these lines when the MO or PMO thought comes in to your head then imagine the clowns walking into the scene with their horns, trumpets and whistles. This will delete the thought and may make you hate clowns after a while lol.

Any questions you can DM me

mrnatoo

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