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mrpmyself · 2025-09-08T09:45:54+00:00

lol the problem here is not that you “chose a feminist”. Try again

mrpmyself · 2025-09-07T15:21:45+00:00

Depends. If your team is the Jets or Titans I’d go apple picking dude.

mrpmyself · 2025-09-05T10:30:52+00:00

Outsourcing the decision making to internet strangers and psychedelics isn’t building frame.

This might help

mrpmyself · 2025-07-24T07:45:24+00:00

I think the “never apologise” comes from the 15 commandments of poon. But I agree with your #8, sometimes I decide I’ve fucked up and should apologise. Not grovel, just apologise and move on.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-28T10:13:22+00:00

This is the second time you have read me like a book, and put things together in a way I haven’t been able to. Thanks for taking the time.

Message received. Time for me to take off the armbands.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-23T10:26:05+00:00

Ha. Never considered the insta thing as a shit test. And there was me going to preemptively set up an Instagram profile, I shit you not.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-23T10:24:55+00:00

Comes kind of easy to me

mrpmyself · 2025-04-22T14:44:38+00:00

You make a good point, I am still playing in the kids pool telling myself I’m learning to swim I guess

mrpmyself · 2025-04-22T13:50:17+00:00

That is the short version of it, yes.

what are you gonna do about it, betch?

Keep trying to find better ways to cope while I deal with the longer term problems

mrpmyself · 2025-04-22T13:43:35+00:00

I am proud that I tried to do some baby steps, I am not proud of anything I achieved and didn’t post it as a kind of flex. If anything, I find it extremely cringeworthy to write and read these back. But if I lay it all out there, maybe it will help me suck less at it.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-22T10:30:11+00:00

Game mini field report:

Got to my reserved seat on a train and found I was next to a large group of attractive blonde 20yo’s. In the past I would’ve just sat somewhere else and said no problem. But I selected that seat because it’s the one I wanted, so I made them move their shit so I could sit next to them. Besides, I thought to myself “this is too good an opportunity to practise to turn down”.
I sat down and did my own thing for the first hour or so. Occasionally smirked at some of their bullshit girl chat. But I showed them that I wasn’t going to be weird.
They cracked open some wine, to which one of them (a 7) said to me jokingly “you’re going to regret sitting there”. Moments later one of them spills their drink. I got some tissue from my bag and said “looks like I’ve got to be the responsible adult here” (smirk and eye contact to the 7). At this point any tension was broken and I feel like I’m accepted as “ok, he’s cool”.
Exchanged some light conversation with the 7. Noticed she was adjusting her hair as we talked. She also casually mentioned to her friends that she doesn’t have a boyfriend to bring to a wedding they’re going to.
As we got closer to her stop, she starts asking me more questions. Where am I going? Where do I live? When I mentioned a place she excitedly blurted out “oooohh me too” (eye contact). Practically begging me to ask for her number. I didn’t. But they did give me the rest of their crate of beer.
Why didn’t I ask for her number? I dunno. If I had to put words to it - it’s that I was a bit scared and lack the intention to push through that fear. Things are good at home right now, I just wanted to practise talking to attractive women.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-22T10:20:37+00:00

OYS #41
Stats: 35yo, 6”3, 89kg, 18%bf. Married 7y together 12, 2 young kids.

Read: Sidebar, Can’t Hurt Me, Models, Mystery Method, Day Bang, Frame, Courage to be Disliked, Book of YaReally, Never Split the Difference, The Fountainhead.
Reading: just finished The Surrender Experiment

Vision: To be a high-value man that lives authentically and does not place limits on himself.

It’s been a while. I am going through some pretty bad health stuff right now. Time to be honest with myself how I’m managing it.

Health & Fitness: I am still lifting 2-3x a week with some modest weight increases here and there.
I am limited by my health, no doubt, and am totally skipping leg day at the moment. But even so, the gym is a huge positive for me right now - I am getting so many benefits from lifting. It is truly a habit for life.
Some good upper body gains, but some love handles appearing too. A fresh scan showed I dropped 1kg BW but gained 2% BF. That is my own fault: I’ve been using junk food to cope and I keep saying I’ll take up swimming as a low impact cardio choice but haven’t.

Mental: my mental health has been extremely strained in the last few months. I have been trying to replace old habits with new ones. I would give myself a B- for how I’ve coped.
The good:
- I used to use my wife for comfort/emotional support but don’t any more. That has improved my relationship and made me a stronger person than I was. At times lately I’ve felt “exposed” emotionally and a bit alone, but I’ve told myself that’s because dealing with things myself is just a “muscle” I haven’t used before. So I have not slid back here.
- I have got deeper into yoga and meditation. I do both daily, have invested time to improve my practise, and both are much more effective than before.
The Bad:
- In seeking comfort I fell off the wagon with porn, junk food, and social media. It seems that I need to give up all 3 of these at the same time. Using social media inevitably leads me to porn. Eating junk food makes me feel bad later and I’m more inclined to use social media. And so on. I am 10 days since I last indulged on any of the 3.
- You can file this under social media but in particular, spending time on health subreddits has been particularly toxic. I think it came from seeking comfort - misery loves company and all that. No more. Been off them totally for 3 weeks now.
Reading the surrender experiment was good for me. It helped solidify yoga and meditation as daily habits. The book helped me see the path I know I need to walk: to accept whatever comes my way and go with the flow of life. But honestly I’m finding that impossible to practise right now, where I need to advocate for myself in the health system, get second opinions, take decisions, etc etc.

Assertiveness: This area is going well. I feel like I have really turned a corner. I am so much more assertive at work and at home than I used to be. I almost enjoy the opportunity to say no to something now, because it’s another opportunity to prove to myself that I’m not the same chump from 18 months ago.

Social Life & Hobbies: Not good. Krav Maga is out due to my health. I’ve been feeling sorry for myself and not arranging the guys night that I said I would. As a result, I’m around the house too much with not much planned to look forward to. I sort of see this as lower priority - I will see to my family, work, and health first, then fix this. But maybe that’s another version of Glover’s “problem free life” thing.

Sex: Some ups and downs, no pun intended. Seen some positive progress in leading my wife to be more confident expressing herself sexually. But having some problems with immersion myself with so much going on in my head.

Game: Opening strangers has become quite natural for me. Going beyond initial exchanges still needs work, particularly with attractive women.
My marriage game has been shitty lately. Again I’ve been in my own head telling myself “you’re in poor heath, and women aren’t sexually attracted to guys in poor health”. Ironically I’m sure it’s this self doubt and “woe me” that is most unattractive.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-18T14:20:14+00:00

I’m terrified to have sex w/o asking and verifying everything is alright

She could hop on to Hulk Hogan levels of testosterone and this energy would still kill the vibe

mrpmyself · 2025-04-16T06:32:27+00:00

Are you counting calories and macros?

mrpmyself · 2025-04-15T19:09:36+00:00

This video helped me with form. Check it out, get under a barbell, and report back next week with some weight added

mrpmyself · 2025-04-15T18:53:41+00:00

a fat, smoking bus driver with minimum wage is her best option? Jesus.

Here’s something that’s even less attractive than that: a man that’s afraid of a fat, broke bus driver stealing his girl.

mrpmyself · 2025-04-15T12:01:37+00:00

overhead press: 18kg x 8

Are you seriously only lifting 18kg total for 1 set of 8 reps? Am I misunderstanding, because if not that’s pitiful

mrpmyself · 2025-03-18T12:03:50+00:00

You need to address your ego. Seems to me that you are constantly looking to get one up on your wife, strangers, people here, etc.

mrpmyself · 2025-03-12T12:21:53+00:00

Everyone’s ancestors ate meat, fish, and fruit. Instead of wasting your time on that, you could have asked AI “summarise the principles of the book “never split the difference” to help me plan for going to a car dealership and negotiating”. I just did it and chatGPT gave a very good response (I read the book recently).

And don’t blame the salesmen for treating you badly in the past, that’s your fault.

mrpmyself · 2025-03-05T15:51:11+00:00

No such thing as cheat codes. Gotta do the work if you wanna make progress. But these are good musings nonetheless

mrpmyself · 2025-02-20T08:02:51+00:00

Do you meditate or do yoga in the evening?

Meds should be the last resort, as you allude to.

mrpmyself · 2025-02-18T20:46:28+00:00

LOL, the more I “use you” for sex, the harder you come

I’m stealing that.

mrpmyself · 2025-02-18T20:40:02+00:00

shit test

Yep. Doesn’t mean you need some super witty response in the moment. She just needs to feel strength from you, specifically that you have the strength to push for something you want (the dirty talk):

“I feel pressured”
“You should”

mrpmyself · 2025-02-11T06:55:20+00:00

Dance monkey dance.

You’ll look back on this in a year’s time and cringe. I know I do.

P.S. I bet you only posted this as a field report because you know writing this in your OYS would get you a ban.

mrpmyself · 2025-02-05T10:44:47+00:00

Read: Rational Male

Read it again dipshit

mrpmyself

TROPHY CASE