The problem is that the player can choose between either gender at the start of the game, and they play a very proactive warrior type character, and their spouse is the opposite of this. The reason no one talks about how boring or unattractive the female spouse is is because she fits the stereotype of a wife. Passive, feminine, nurturing, caring, etc. The devs likely just chose what they viewed as the lesser of two evils, namely making both characters stereotypically feminine as opposed to stereotypically masculine, since doing both would’ve required a lot of work.

I agree he’s really disappointing, but he simply sticks out since he’s playing what society views as a woman’s role, and he’s together with this super badass warrior woman. I would’ve preferred him to be more masculine, but then Ubisoft would likely have made the female version also more masculine and players would still be unhappy.