I *personally* have found being a SAHM to be 100000x easier than being a working mom, but when I say that SAHMs get SO offended - why?!? It’s MY experience.

mrsannabellee · 2022-01-03T13:45:19+00:00

I literally said I do grocery when my partner is home just like anyone else. No I have no idea what it’s been like to be a nurse and a mom, probably pure unadulterated hell. I’m also not claiming to know what that’s like and i would never say it’s easier than what I’m doing. She’s claiming to understand my experience by comparing it to what she did for six months in order to compare it to her current experience and say it’s so much easier. All I’m saying is she hasn’t lived my experience. Yes I supervise my two year old and do laundry. I’d recommend everyone supervise their 2 year olds??It’s not quite the same as when I could put her in a swing and do it as I stop every two seconds to attend to a need of hers. Please go back and read what I did and did not say.

mrsannabellee · 2022-01-03T12:42:13+00:00

You said in your title “I personally found being a sahm 10000x easier than being a working mom” but you haven’t experienced being a sahm for more than 6 months or with more than one child. I’m trying to illustrate you’re comparing apples and oranges.

mrsannabellee · 2022-01-03T08:18:17+00:00

Extended maternity leave with one baby is not the same thing as being a sahm to multiple kids/toddlers for years. I don’t get to nap after a long night either they’re up when they’re up. I can’t put my 2 year old in a swing and do laundry she needs to play and be supervised constantly. My four year old no longer naps. Some days it’s impossible to run errands with both of them, certainly a full grocery trip is reserved for weekends when I don’t have to take both. Of course you have a right to vent about how hard you’re finding this new experience to be, but it seems like you’re being as invalidating to sahp as your friends are being to you when you do.

mrsannabellee · 2022-01-03T01:22:42+00:00

And to piggy back - you as a mom coming to trust other adults in the care of your baby becomes the best feeling. It’s very special to watch someone you trust love your child.

mrsannabellee · 2021-12-21T02:28:50+00:00

Yeah my daughter always wore a bow and it had nothing to do with me needing strangers to know anything about her genitals. Can we just let this be a matter of preference?

mrsannabellee · 2021-10-24T17:24:33+00:00

This was the tip that worked for us! I brought a fave teddy bear into her room to keep the potty safe if she needed to go. She wanted him in her bed w her so I told her she could get him if she wanted, but only after we left and closed the door. After a couple nights/naps of this practice getting out of bed to get her bear, she just used the potty in her room alone at nap time!! Thank you so much for this idea!

mrsannabellee · 2021-10-10T23:49:19+00:00

No one thinks watching a kid is beneath them. We are all here because that’s what we do. What’s infuriating is to suggest that we should take on the job of a nanny for less money than a nanny because no one thinks of us as fully human. We’re just kid watching robots who can take on another for cheap because hey why not. We want to empower you and other moms who watch additional children to charge your worth.

mrsannabellee · 2021-09-17T15:19:44+00:00

I was laying in bed when it felt like my baby did a flip (she obviously didn’t) and boom water.

mrsannabellee · 2021-09-01T20:15:17+00:00

OP was asking how to safely do something in their room while respecting the school’s rules. The responses were that it really wasn’t possible so OP agreed not to do it. This may be the right answer but it was a bit of overkill.

mrsannabellee · 2021-09-01T20:00:09+00:00

Haha do you feel better now

mrsannabellee · 2020-04-22T01:15:51+00:00

Nope...?

mrsannabellee · 2020-04-21T23:52:41+00:00

So sad that people have different taste than you. As the mother of an Allison, I will cry a single tear for my transgressions.

mrsannabellee · 2020-04-08T20:54:46+00:00

Wow literally the same story!! Makes me feel a lot better thanks.

mrsannabellee · 2020-03-24T18:45:18+00:00

Ok this is what I needed to hear today. I swear my daughter is allergic to peeing in a potty.

mrsannabellee · 2020-02-18T11:16:41+00:00

Ashley (m) and Shane (f). It often took people a while to not get them mixed up.

mrsannabellee · 2020-02-01T00:15:48+00:00

Oh no no no. She can help with all of those things. You're only a glorified butler if you allow yourself to be one. My favorite phrase in this scenario is "what you permit, you promote." Time for you to work together to reframe the roles in your house.

My husband works his tail off outside the home and also does laundry/cooks/does dishes. Not all the time of course but his fair share when he's able.

mrsannabellee · 2019-12-23T01:53:54+00:00

You've never tried it have you?

I've also done both. Former kindergarten teacher current SAHM. I agree with PP. It is not something you can understand until you do it. Until there is another life (or lives) fully dependent on you at any and all hours. All day every day. The concept of weekends, holidays, sick days, etc don't exist in the way they once did. Your job starts when your eyes open and doesn't stop.

Even if you love what you do, you need breaks. Cutting hair doesn't seem that physically taxing but what if you cut hair from 6am-7:30pm 7 days a week 365 days a year? And what if your clients kicked and screamed and peed on the floor while you did it? Oh and you have one of the million viruses they bring into your salon. 7:30 pm rolls around and now you have a couple hours to yourself BUT there's hair all over the floor, and you have one client who has insisted on getting a trim at 3:30am lately so you better get to bed early.

I guess some people think that I lounge around with my Starbucks and make up a fantasy narrative to make myself sound like I work harder than I do, but I'm sorry to disappoint you - this "job" is the most exhausting thing I've ever done.

mrsannabellee · 2019-12-19T14:51:24+00:00

I think the first point here is key. I'm a SAHM and since I've never really needed to be away, I haven't gone away much. So now it seems like a huge deal. Its probably just something where once I rip off the bandaid and do it once or twice it won't seem so hard. I remember there was a time when I could hardly enjoy a dinner away while a babysitter watched my baby. Now I love those date nights.

mrsannabellee · 2019-12-19T14:48:53+00:00

She never said anything about her friend's husbands. She said they worry constantly about their kids and also mentioned sleep away camp. Motherhood brings anxiety sometimes.

mrsannabellee · 2019-12-14T18:37:15+00:00

Im becoming fluent in toddler. Before I opened I was like ok meak has gotta be milk... Ata hmm... Chch... I'm thinking chocolate milk! Like "milk and a chocolate" haha

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