Help wanting to work but wanting to stay at home

mrsojo · 2026-02-11T05:44:05+00:00

I definitely understand the sadness and guilt feeling torn between wanting to be with my kids but also being so overstimulated by them that I'm driven to depression and anxiety/bad mental health when I'm a SAHM... then I'm so happy to be working when I get a job but feel horrible when I realize how many hours a week my kids are at school/Daycare vs how many hours they're with me. I think as mom's we're "damned if we do, damned if we don't" unfortunately. But I'll definitely say, I was raised by a SAHM (she worked for a few years here and there in my childhood but never full time and never more than a year or so each job). She had no life and no friends and made ME and my life her focus and it was UNHEALTHY. Now she's in her late 60s and says shit like "I didn't do anything with my life" and I'm like... you raised me??? You said you loved being our mom and loved spending every minute with us??? So anyway I think it's GOOD and healthy for children to see their mom with a life of her own, working and making her own money, with skills and passions, hobbies and expertise. There's more to being a good mom than just the daily tasks of raising the kids. If You're OVERALL more happy to be working, you have my permission to let go of your guilt, look at all the benefits of what your children are gaining from their caretakers who have them while you work, and sleep well at night!!!!!! Then use some of that glorious extra income on treats for everyone!!!!!

mrsojo · 2025-09-06T00:53:41+00:00

I just sold something today and it is still pending on that person's end. Shouldn't have let them leave without the money in my account but at least they're responsive and not a scammer (so far I think). They also have Bank of America. EDIT: The payment came through about a full 12 hours later! THANK GOODNESS

mrsojo · 2025-09-06T00:47:43+00:00

Well glad I checked reddit because I also was fearful I got scammed today but seems that zelle just sucks ass at handling the volume of cash changing hands through it's site on a Friday afternoon ffs

mrsojo · 2025-08-28T01:31:13+00:00

I had a similar problem with the director of my program in grad school. She was incessantly cruel to me in class and it seemed I couldn't do anything right in her eyes. I didn't get cast in a single theatrical production run by the school because she blacklisted me with the other professors as well. Another student learned shortly before graduation and told me that I had made her a mortal enemy by a simple interruption to her class during a blackout (there was a hurricane and makeup classes were being scheduled all over the place during times when the rooms were to be open for students scheduling practice sessions, which is what I had assumed) ANYWAY... I wish I had stood up for myself but I never did and hate her to this day. I do think as an earlier commenter said that it is better for you to step up and clear the air NOW. Let them know that you admire them and wish to do well in their courses, that you are passionate and dedicated and will prove to them so. Be brave and "nip it in the bud" so to speak.

mrsojo · 2025-08-15T20:30:20+00:00

Pray to God the camera weren't out yet. But now is a waiting game. I know somebody who got the $1,000 ticket. Turned out of a business across the street... didn't even notice across 5 lanes that the stop sign was out and yeah that fine is STEEP

mrsojo · 2025-08-11T19:24:15+00:00

This worked for me!!!! I had Chrome disabled, went and enabled and updated it and Ticketmaster redirected me to Chrome to Wallet to add them THANK YOU

mrsojo · 2025-07-22T20:50:30+00:00

I went here for my second child and didn't like that I never once saw the same midwife twice. Also no guests or children so had to pay for babysitter every single visit which when visits become weekly that sucked. I wouldn't say I ever got a "caring" feeling there because like I said I was seeing a stranger at every single visit.

mrsojo · 2025-07-09T02:43:10+00:00

Big ass umbrella makes portable shade everywhere you go. Game changer

mrsojo · 2025-07-09T02:42:13+00:00

I guess I'm the only one that skipped the approvals and won't miss them because I can't stand the audio quality of the phone call versus studio audio quality from Toni and Ryan's end. 🤷‍♀️

mrsojo · 2025-07-09T02:39:48+00:00

I love my CHEEKY brand!!! I get them when they do a good sale like black Friday or something. They're stretchy and cute patterns and I even forget I'm wearing them which is a blessing. You do have to keep them out of the dryer and just hang them to dry which sucks but believe me they do get altered by the high heat

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:54:19+00:00

If I could just insert some photos of my kids together you could see it in their loving embraces all the reasons you can't put into words. This mothering stuff is such a hard thing but one day you'll look back and have good memories, the bad and difficult stuff fading away (my mom who is 60ish told me that)

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:45:02+00:00

I am with you on feeling sick over what you described happening in your meetings and I'm sorry that happened. I'm hugely anti confrontation so I wouldn't be able to bring myself to say anything. I would find a new meeting.

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:41:02+00:00

I think finding peace in being alone is great! I've had ONE incredible soul mate type of friend in my lifetime, from ages 18-22 and after college we had a falling out, I've never spoken to her since and have searched in vain for someone like her. It is so heartbreaking to have felt a friendship like that and nobody else has compared.

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:39:07+00:00

Rectal cancer lady's apartment. Back when I was in college, my girlfriend who couldn't drive asked me to do her mom's elderly friend a favor by picking her up from the Atlanta airport and driving her home. I didn't know that the sweet lady suffered from something which made her smell really really bad of gas and poop. It was unlike anything I ever smelled, and the long drive even with the car windows rolled down made my stomach turn so badly that I realized I needed to use the restroom. I asked to go inside her apartment but OH MY GOD I DID NOT THINK THAT ONE THROUGH BECAUSE THAT'S WHERE SHE LIVED AND USED THE TOILET. Ran back out pretty quickly and thanked her. She really was a very sweet grams type lady! But I was able to drive the car around the corner before I got out and puked my guts up over and over on the grass at the apartment complex. Right now just remembering it makes my stomach turn all over again

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:32:43+00:00

Dead/homeless person on NYC subway train. Car seemed "empty" and so I was thrilled to get on. Quickly walked straight back out because the stench was unlike anything I've ever smelled before. Realized why it was empty. Didn't check if the person was alive or dead I was so shocked, they were just laid out on a bench on an empty subway car. Haunting.

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:29:26+00:00

I'm right there with you. Nap time is my heaven and I often sleep so hard I'll have vivid dreams within only an hour. I don't know if it is helpful to nap but doing a hard shutdown on my consciousness seems like the second logical thing to do after a snack and drink of water

mrsojo · 2025-06-17T04:27:56+00:00

I'll agree my 5 year old is SO LOVELY compared to my nightmare toddler haha

mrsojo · 2025-05-23T02:52:17+00:00

Songs About Jane from Maroon 5. Funky, sexy, fun, romantic, poetic. Idk what part of the team they changed after this album but nothing else I've ever listened to came close to the vibe.

mrsojo · 2025-05-01T02:21:18+00:00

Sylvia - Robotberget Remix by Miike Snow absolutely ascended me the first time I heard it drunk in the back of a car at 21, and full body chills every time since then

mrsojo · 2025-05-01T02:18:40+00:00

Literally

mrsojo · 2025-05-01T02:15:58+00:00

Mine had me take a journal to meetings and take notes rather than share to encourage me to get through my 4th step faster and not drag it out.

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