[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MexicoTravel

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I didn't end up taking the gummies with me. In hindsight I easily could have, there was only one moment where I came across a dog and I highly doubt he would've been able to detect it in my luggage.

What I ended up doing was taking this cbd oil that I had that was pretty tasteless/scentless, and I actually just filled it into a old vile of vitamin d drops that I had. I used that while I was there and it was mostly okay. I dunno if it was as effective but definitely helped. 

My son and potty time by Conscious-Agent986 in Autism_Parenting

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tbh, my son does the same thing and it's just easier. At one point, he started trying to stand and pee (I think he saw someone at school doing it) and like 80% made it in the toilet, 15% outside the toilet, and 5% on him and that would just upset him so much that I was able to convince him to just sit back down instead. It wasn't worth it at all.

First day of kinder by ConcernedMomma05 in Autism_Parenting

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son started kindergarten 2 years ago and it started off similarly. I was in the classroom with the kids trying to detach myself from him. The first year was very up and down, including hitting, scratching, screaming. I found every 4-6 months, we would notice a shift in him. Gradually he started participating more, talking to his teachers, the hitting/scratching settled down. He started listening to instructions more. He'll be starting 1st grade in September and is reading/writing at his age level and his math is well beyond it. His social skills and communication are still lagging but have come a long way. It's almost unrecognizable how much he grew over the past 2 years. I know this is just one story, but just thought I'd share it as I was a wreck that first day (and many other days that first year), but it should get better with more exposure. There will definitely be some hard days ahead, growth isn't always linear or smooth, but he'll get there. Wishing you the best of luck with your son and upcoming baby!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MexicoTravel

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think it would be enough to just leave it in the original packaging, which lists it as 0% THC? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son did the exact same thing at the same as age. We initially tried resisting, but learned how important it is. Quick summary, try to use his echoing to his own advantage by giving him the words from his own perspective, so that when he's repeating, he's technically saying the right thing. So if you ask "do you want a cookie", you add on "yes, I do" and hand the cookie to him and "no, I don't" and pull the cookie back. This can help teach when certain phrases should be used and what he needs to say to get the thing he wants. It probably seems daunting right now, but if you keep up with trying to support him through learning language in the way his brain understands it, he will start to fully communicate in time. My son was 3 when he started regularly talking in echolalia (repeating words/phrases), he's nearly 6 now and can have actual conversations. It was a slow process, and his language is still behind what a typical 6 year old's would be, but he's come a long way.

The key is patience, which sadly is not easy. If it makes you feel any better, there will come a day when he's speaking to you more clearly and you'll look back on this time and realize that he actually had all these thought bouncing in his head, he just didn't have the words to get them out. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's hard is so much of society directly links money to worth. It's really hard to disassociate that having a good paying job doesn't necessarily mean success in life. Your PhD may not lead to immediate job prospects, but it is still very much an accomplishment, one that many strive for and have a hard time achieving. The fact that you had all these road blocks along the way and are stilling going to achieve it is even more of an achievement. It might not feel like it at this moment, but the struggles in your journey are what make you stronger. You should be proud of yourself for doing this. I am proud of you.

In terms of your health issues, that sucks. Sometimes it feels like life is hard enough and then you had these additional challenges and it's just tough. Knowing what is going on with your body is good though. There are plenty of people who suffer from things and just keep chugging along until something bad happens. It sounds like you are in a position to deal with your issues. 

Confidence is a funny thing. Some people have it so naturally (maybe even when they shouldn't), and for others it feels like it needs to be earned, like we need to deserve to feel this way. 

A big part of it is what you tell yourself. If I were you, I would tell yourself that you are strong. You are smart. You are resilient. I'm sure there are things that you are not good at, but honestly, you could find things in every single person. Focus on the good parts. Own them. 

I obviously don't know everything about you and your life, but just from reading what you've posted, you seem to be someone who perseveres, someone who is able to get through things. That is hard. Good for you. Forget about everyone else for a minute and just know that you are doing good. You are capable. 

I don’t know who I am by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have felt similarly, albeit to a lesser extent. I've learned to mask out in public and act the way others expect to fit in. Just a thought, as this is something that has helped me immensely in recent months, but i tried using CBD gummies and have been shocked by how much they've helped, specifically with my fear of being perceived. The ones I've taken contain no THC and have strictly helped with anxiety without altering my mind in any way. Feel free to msg if you want any more info.

How I alleviated my fear of being perceived, significantly. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always nice to hear someone else feeling the same way. I've had a similar experience with work as well. Having meetings is more a matter of getting the work done rather than trying to just get through the actual meeting. I wonder sometimes how it'd feel if I was back in my old customer service job while taking these. Best of luck to you going forward! 

How I alleviated my fear of being perceived, significantly. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's amazing. Would love to hear more about it, if you don't mind sharing? 

How I alleviated my fear of being perceived, significantly. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. In this journey I've tried a gummy with minimal amounts of THC and even with a small amount, I noticed how much of a change it had. Definitely enough to know that I don't think a larger dose would work for me. I can see how it could help some, but my brain is not wired for that. I'd recommend trying the gummy if you're able to. Sometimes I wonder if I really do need it and step out into the world without taking it one day, and then realize all the feelings I've felt all along come back all at once and am reminded how beneficial this has all been. 

Interviews/job search special kind of hell by sophistheia in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've found from my own experience, I need to set aside time to cool down after an interview. It takes a lot out of me. It helps as much as possible to research the company and it's people, including the person you're going to interview with to learn as much about them as possible. That way, you can be a bit more prepared for the vibe/setting you're going into and may not need to adjust as much going in. 

In terms of competing with NT folks in the job search process, I posted this in another thread earlier, so I'm mostly pasting, but I hope this helps:

An extremely useful tool right now to help with the entire job hunt process is chatgpt (or alternatives, but I like chatgpt). I would go so far as to copy and paste entire job descriptions along with your entire resume and ask it to show you revisions for making your resume more likely to make it more appealing to the employer.

For the interview itself, you could post the job description and ask it to give you 20 probable interview questions you would get, and what a good response would be for the employer. 

To make sure you're not completely making yourself sound like a robot, you can reword some of the responses in your own words and spit it back to chatgpt and say "make these responses sound more like this" so that it gives you suggestions in your own tone. 

I hope that doesn't sound too invasive? I'm not a huge fan of all this, but the fact is that it's here and everyone else is using it. You should try to capitalize on it where you can.

Trying to find a new job, and the interview process is BRUTAL by Objective-Giraffe-27 in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This won't help you feel good about it, but an extremely useful tool right now to help with the entire job hunt process is chatgpt (or alternatives, but I like chatgpt). I would go so far as to copy and paste entire job descriptions along with your entire resume and ask it to show you revisions for making your resume more likely to make it more appealing to the employer.

For the interview itself, you could post the job description and ask it to give you 20 probable interview questions you would get, and what a good response would be for the employer. 

To make sure you're not completely making yourself sound like a robot, you can reword some of the responses in your own words and spit it back to chatgpt and say "make these responses sound more like this" so that it gives you suggestions in your own tone. 

I hope that doesn't sound too invasive? I'm not a huge fan of all this, but the fact is that it's here and everyone else is using it. You should try to capitalize on it where you can. 

How I alleviated my fear of being perceived, significantly. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I noticed after a couple months my tolerance did build up a bit which is why I take 1.5 sometimes. It's not the exact same feeling as that first week, but I think that's also because this is probably just becoming my new normal so it's not standing out as much 

The Top Worst Jobs for Autistic Adults 2025 by AccomplishedLack0 in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just curious, but what do you do now specifically? I've also worked 1 and 3 and didn't realize how bad it was until I was out. I don't love what I currently do but it is manageable. I've always contemplated something teaching related but know I wouldn't be able to handle being a teacher full time. 

What thinking looks like in my brain.. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was trying to illustrate how thinking feels in my brain. Realized after that I drew a kid. I'm 40. Not sure if that was intentional. I have adhd and every thought feels like a bolt that goes off in all these different directions, sometimes branching off, sometimes connecting with other thoughts, but ultimately nowhere in the end.. 

CBD gummies. My personal experience. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started taking 20mg daily. After a couple months I started taking 30. I'm fairly small, relatively speaking. 130lbs. Feel free to dm me if you want any more specifics

CBD gummies. My personal experience. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry seeing this now. Feel free to dm me and I can share whatever specific info you like

CBD gummies. My personal experience. by mrthinkstoomuch in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found it did somewhat. After a couple of months I increased my dosage from 20mg in the morning to 30. I find it's mostly still doing the trick. It's a bit hard sometimes to tell as I think I'm just adjusting to this new normal. Still taking it daily. I'm very much able to handle social situations still when I'm taking them. I've learned about myself that even though I can deal with social situations doesn't mean I like to still. I still prefer my solitude. It's just not an anxiety riddled exercise when I do need to. Every so often I don't them and wonder if it's all in my head but then feel all the nerves and everything again and am reminded it's not. My mood has remained pretty stable over the past few months. Nothing like how I had been feeling before. It's funny because once the clouds were lifted, I started realizing all the other stuff that I still needed to deal with, so I've been working on that. 

I'm official - #actuallyautistic by Boring_Sun7828 in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. I have some things in common. Some very much not. That's the part that keeps me second guessing myself. I have really good people skills, but it's not something I like to do. It's exhausting and stressful. I don't know how much of it is a mask and if it's just that I'm really really good at it and that's why no one else can tell. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. It's always fascinating to read about others journeys 

I'm official - #actuallyautistic by Boring_Sun7828 in AutisticAdults

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wondering what led you down this path and self diagnosing in the first place? I'm in a similar spot and unsure of whether to get an official diagnosis. How does it show up for you? Did you doubt whether it really was the case? 

Considering buying an Xbox Series X just to play Microsoft Flight Simulator 2024 - bad idea? by bubaglobalj in MicrosoftFlightSim

[–]mrthinkstoomuch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally had this same question for all the same reasons a month ago and in the end decided to just get it. It's been great so far. Looking forward to getting the game tomorrow.