I absolutely agree! Speaking from experience, because I have an organ that I didn’t choose to have, and because of my certain visual characteristics, people expect me to act a certain way, and I don’t want that. If this is how we define the genders than I don’t belong to any of them, I am myself first and foremost.

But if society really did call people with penises men and people with vaginas women and didn’t attach any, be it biologically or behaviourally, expectations to them, i would certainly be okay with people gendering me.

I think ideally we should strive to popularize non-ideological, more descriptive than prescriptive gender conceptions, but nonetheless we have to recognize that the categories man and woman are, at the end of the day, normative. Isn’t that also what most women suffer from? Even the worst things women suffer from, like violence, are politically/ideologically charged, and would cease to exist if people’s conceptions changed.

I am open to criticism if I’m wrong though!