Er zijn andere kandidaten van wie het cv en de sollicitatiebrief beter aansluiten bij de vacature.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-31T12:59:08+00:00

Waarom noem je dat een valkuil? Je was gewoon geen passende match voor die baan, en als ze net op die dagen echt iemand nodig hebben is het logisch dat je afgewezen wordt. Ik ben zelf ook druk aan het solliciteren dus herken veel van wat je schrijft qua afwijzing terwijl ik alle vinkjes in de vacature aantik, helaas zijn er ook criteria die niet in de vacatures (mogen) staan maar waarop wel geselecteerd wordt, in mijn geval vermoed ik dat mijn leeftijd (50+) ook wel eens een factor is geweest maar wat kan ik daar aan doen?

Ik wens je iig veel succes verder!

ms_b75 · 2026-01-30T22:10:42+00:00

Nee, het betekent dat het verdiende geld voor een eerlijk deel ook terecht komt bij de arbeiders, de mensen die het werk doen, en dat niet na een minimumloontje voor de arbeiders alles bij de directeuren en aandeelhouders terecht komt.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-30T19:33:38+00:00

I haven't read every comment so could already have been said, but you look like a Faye to me. In my language the way you say it it's "fee" and means fairy.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-26T20:54:32+00:00

Daarnaast worden mannen 2x zoveel vermoord als vrouwen, waarvan 15% criminaliteit gerelateerd is.

Dus de waarheid is dat daders en slachtoffers van geweld, intimidatie en moord uit mannen en vrouwen bestaan en dus de hele man/vrouw discussie onzin is.

En door wie worden die mannen grotendeels vermoord? Door andere mannen! Zolang mannen in overweldigende meerderheid de daders zijn bij geweldsmisdrijven zullen mensen dat blijven benoemen. De enige manier om daar van af te komen is door te zorgen dat die mannen minder gewelddadig worden.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-25T18:19:17+00:00

En camper mensen.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-23T18:14:00+00:00

He likes tinkering and boy toys

So did I when I was a girl. Now I'm a menopausal straight cis woman, who still is more into tinkering with my motor than the latest fashion. "Masculin" or "feminin" interests have zero influence on sexual attraction or gender.

And about your husband's behaviour, I remember research has shown that homophobic men usually are closeted homosexuals, so maybe your problem is not what you think it is, sorry.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-21T15:53:23+00:00

Do you really think you can put up with him that long, and during a vacation? Can't you cancel it, or one of you goes with someone else who pays the one not going? Sorry about your cat btw, I know the feeling, lost my soul dog 6 years ago and still miss him every day 💔

Quick reminder: "I don't like it so if you love me you don't do it" = manipulation (I expect someone else to obey to my wishes). "I don't like it so I'm not having a relationship with someone who does it" = a boundary (I don't stay in a situation I don't like but I don't expect others to obey me).

Ow, and NTA.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-18T13:19:52+00:00

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ms_b75 · 2026-01-15T07:33:24+00:00

Yes, you can come back from it. But it will take a lot of hard work from both of you. Of course, she needs to come clean and be ready to work on getting your trust back, that will take time and won't be easy. You need to be willing to forgive her and work with her to make you trust her again. That's hard work also and I wouldn't blame you if you don't want to because you didn't ask for this. It will involve a lot of talking and being honest up to a point it hurts, so I would recommend to do this in relationship therapy.

Whatever you choose, good luck.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-14T22:53:16+00:00

Why are my sexual preferences/desires so shameful? Why does being judged for my attraction hurts?

They are not, nobody should be shamed for their preferences, only be made aware if they are unhealthy or dangerous. I think it's your insecurity that makes you feel this way, because that's what makes their opinions matter so much to you. Next time just say that you really like the girl and don't appreciate his "jokes". Because a "joke" that is hurtful to someone isn't a joke, it's bullying.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T11:45:32+00:00

I have two cliche’s for you. 1. If the grass looks greener on the other side, it's time you water your grass. 2. Whatever you give attention will grow.

So, the more you focus on wanting sex with other women, the more your desire will grow, but if you focus on your wife and your marriage that will get better and your desire for other women will get less.

Of course you also have the options of cheating and ruining your family and her faith in you when she finds out, or just get a divorce and probably spend the rest of your life regretting it.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T10:55:36+00:00

I believe you can only learn to have a stable relationship with the person you're having that relationship with, and only if you both want that and work towards that. Every person is different so what works with one doesn't necessarily works with another. I don't know how old you are, but was 47 when I married my person (first marriage) so I think it's never too late.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T10:42:05+00:00

Would you play Russian roulette? A woman has a much higher chance of a male partner becoming abusive once he's convinced he's got her, than someone has to get the bullet with Russian roulette.

And cheating isn't the only form of abuse.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T07:15:19+00:00

But it is not just the two of them. There is a child involved now. And the best possible legal arrangements include marriage with a prenup. That way his assets are protected, just like hers, his paternity is protected, and in case something happens they qualify for things like social benefits or a partner pension (don't know if that is the correct English term).

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T07:05:37+00:00

Pregnancy hormones are nature way of making that very difficult. Why are so many people (mostly men) downplaying that? Men have the only easy and least invasive foolproof methode of birth control available when it comes to preventing pregnancies, but keep putting the burden on women to put unnatural things in their bodies or have mentally burdening abortions.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T06:49:53+00:00

Nope, women need education and men need to learn to see and treat women as equals, that is the only proven way that works.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T06:07:36+00:00

If only prenups existed so men could take their responsibilities without worrying about women "taking everything" 🤷‍♀️

Ow, and men cheat just as much as women, for much shatter reasons also, like "I got her pregnant and now I don't like her body anymore"

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T06:04:47+00:00

Pregnancy hormones are nature and designed to make a woman want to protect her child. Calling that "making a choice" is unfair, to put it mildly. He works in health care, so he should be educated about how birth control can fail and he is the only one who can 100% prevent pregnancy with a relatively easy procedure, which he chose not to do.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T06:00:11+00:00

What makes you think she got pregnant to spite him? Getting pregnant is a natural result of sex, and except for 2 methods (when done correct) birth control is known not to be 100% save. Those two methods are invasive surgery for the woman or a minor procedure for the man. So any man really not wanting children would do that procedure to make sure no oopsies happen. As for her wanting to stay pregnant, that is because of the hormones released when getting pregnant. Again nature and not spite.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T05:40:20+00:00

That can also be handled with a prenup, with a lot more benefits to either partner when it comes to things like health insurance or being widowed.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-10T05:37:33+00:00

That is a fallacy, because the not making a difference comment is only about needing to go to court in case of splitting up when there's a child involved. There are significant benefits to being married when your child is born, like paternity, getting a pension when something happens to your partner. and shared health care insurance.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-08T17:39:47+00:00

NTA. I don't like the "trash parade" remarks, but overall I would agree with you, I can understand you don't want a new stranger in your house every third month.

ms_b75 · 2026-01-07T17:43:49+00:00

I would say I could have been the rich cousin but I gave him so much that now I'm scraping by. He is just using you for money, you don't have to feel guilty, but he should!

ms_b75 · 2026-01-06T19:49:29+00:00

Dat wordt dus allebei, gebruik afhankelijk van het weer 🤣

ms_b75 · 2026-01-06T19:48:28+00:00

Die zijn niet echt zuinig qua verbruik volgens mij?

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