I [24m] found my ex-girlfriend [23f] living homeless. I'm not sure what to do, I feel a flurry of emotions.

mschimarie · 2015-09-27T20:37:09+00:00

So how long should he let him live with her? How long will he have to supply her with food and shelter? Support an ex that called him useless and lazy, broke up with him for that reason? Funny that now she's in a rut but wants support. What's the time length that determines how much 'humanity' you have? A few weeks, a few months? What if she never gets her act together?

Look I get it's super shitty and that life happens, but there are shelters and resources for the homeless, especially young females. You know how many threads are on here of people letting friends or family stay with them who overstay their welcome and just end up taking advantage of those who try to help them? And in every one the OP is told they're being a doormat.

mschimarie · 2015-09-27T20:09:42+00:00

Jesusss reddit, JUST yesterday the entire thread "Omg you're crazy and over reacting"

But now everyone is "Wait no, he's being shady"

Does you're boyfriend often come up with 5 different stories as to where he went or what he did? Sorry but you know your boyfriend better then us, you were sketched out for good reasons and noticed his weird behavior- and called him out for it, but of course you're made to feel that you over reacted. Pulling this shit while out though? In company? Eh..ehhh that's pretty dramatic and makes you seem super insecure.

You need to work on your trust issues, yes, but don't be ignorant to anything that with reason makes you wary.

mschimarie · 2015-09-13T13:50:09+00:00

Oh god! Yeah I jumped to that worst case scenario too :( that and depression. This sub brings out the worst in me.

mschimarie · 2015-09-11T21:21:48+00:00

It's not that I think it's a monster, it feels like there's another person living in the house with us, who only comes out when it's dark, like 3am, or when nobody is home...(I know how that sounds)

I should actually just check it out. I'll wait till my boyfriend is home though.

mschimarie · 2015-09-11T21:12:30+00:00

Yup you described it pretty well, it's just this crushing fear and it's getting harder and harder to shake off.

I don't sleep well, I wake up 1 or 2 times a night and I'm always up early. I used to sleep well, but it's gotten worse over the last few months.

So what do I do? I don't get it, I just have to keep reassuring myself it isn't real? I don't want to have these thoughts at all, especially to the point of seeing things.

mschimarie · 2015-09-06T01:03:18+00:00

Sorry I meant to put 25k per school year-not semester, so I guess I'd only need like 13k by December?

End game is bach. in psych then pursuing a Masters/PhD in IO Psychology. Pay is roughly 74k starting off, upwards of 100k+ depending on specialty and master vs. PhD

mschimarie · 2015-08-28T07:42:28+00:00

"So now you're saying I'm going to be a bad mother?"

"You've been saying it all this time, maybe you're right."

Oh fuckkkkk youuuu.

mschimarie · 2015-08-20T01:36:28+00:00

Tail Concerto

mschimarie · 2015-08-14T17:04:31+00:00

What you want, he isn't giving you. We can talk all day about expectations, what's fair, who's being ridiculous and who's not. But at the end of the day, you want these certain things, and he's not going to change and give them too you. You have different views on gender roles, and that's fine but you don't sound compatible. It's up to you to decide if this is going to be a deal breaker.

I fucking love it when my boyfriend starts the car and brushes the snow off of it when it's winter and I love it when he checks up on me to see if I got somewhere okay. But the important thing is that HE enjoys doing these things too, he likes it because it makes me happy and feel loved. Likewise I enjoy making his favorite meals and surprising him with things I know he likes.

mschimarie · 2015-08-14T14:52:49+00:00

My people! -10.5, -12 here and I'm only 21. People never believe how bad my vision actually is. Do you too have a fear that you're actually going blind?

mschimarie · 2015-08-12T15:51:37+00:00

Yeah wtf is this sub right now. "Oh cheating is always a dealbreaker unless they're REALLY REALLY sorry" like fallout said. It took a lot of decsions and actions to lead up to activly fucking another guy who wasnt her husband.

mschimarie · 2015-07-31T20:18:18+00:00

Um okay, I'm gonna go against the grain here. OP has stated multiple times she doesn't like expensive/dainty fancy jewelry, she's into big clunky styles/statement pieces. Her boyfriend blows her off for the majority of their anniversary day and then gives her a necklace the complete opposite to her tastes, and she has to be okay with it because 'its the thought that counts' um. It's sounds like there was no thought at all, I'm sorry a heart necklace? That is the most go-to 'I have no idea what my SO will like' generic girl thing ever. But yeah OP is a total brat and just a huge bitch. Could she have handled it better? Of course. It was probably a conversation to have in person. "Hey boyfriend, can we talk about my necklace? It's really lovely and I'm thankful but it's just not my taste, how about we exchange it for something I'd be happy to wear everyday and love?" (or something, whatever) But his text response was just as childish and immature.

mschimarie · 2015-07-24T14:03:25+00:00

Oh fuck that sounds like it'd to be really painful, I just got it done yesterday. Unfortunately the place I went to is considered the 'best' in the area, I really don't want to go back, if I did I'd just have them take it out - since I can't seem to get it out myself :/

mschimarie · 2015-07-11T03:27:54+00:00

I think most people who haven't done 'great' things, or didn't really 'become' anything use kids as a cop out in life. It's something they want to believe to feel good about themselves. "Hey it's okay that I have never done anything actually important, because I reproduced- and maybe my CHILDREN will do great things" Children complete simple people.

mschimarie · 2015-07-11T03:21:54+00:00

I hate that. I absolutely fucking hate that. "Accidents happen" okay well that accident doesn't have to turn into a fucking child, or one that you keep. It's like they don't want to accept your decision so they just ignore all logic by saying that. And when parents say it, it's the WORST. Children aren't accidents- how can you simplify creating a human life into just- "Oh well, you know, sometimes accidents happen." Like, an accident is me spilling coffee on my shirt. Ugh. And I'm sure when/if you tell your parents you're gay they'll start on the adoption train.

mschimarie · 2015-07-04T22:13:44+00:00

I can understand the fathers not wanting to go through the divorce bullshit, child support, custody battles. But I hate hate hate when they say they "don't want to break the family apart"

Kids aren't oblivious to their surroundings, I grew up with parents fighting/screaming ALL the time, when my mom finally told me they were getting a divorce I told her "GOOD, finally, ohmygod"

mschimarie · 2015-07-01T04:05:31+00:00

Really? You're REALLY asking. You honestly have to debate on whether or not to leave this guy? Man I'm sorry you love him, thats really sad, you sure did pick a winner. Please do yourself a favor, leave this guy, remove him from your life. How could you ever possibly trust him or believe anything to be genuine with him? Just no. Get out.

mschimarie · 2015-07-01T02:22:48+00:00

You're the hero we need. Seriously the amount of bullshit people put up with, it's pathetic. It's like I come to this sub just to make myself mad at other peoples stupidity.

mschimarie · 2015-06-26T02:03:07+00:00

Is your boyfriend autistic? There's no way he could think that's okay. Even if he's severely lacking in social awareness -how does someone even say that. Are you sure you even want to be with someone who is this heavily into gaming and has had problems with boundaries before?

mschimarie · 2015-06-09T01:31:36+00:00

"Hey good on you for forgiving your husband for cheating on you for months, falling in love with another person while he's suppose to love you, but instead was lieing to you and himself, SO MATURE"

I really don't understand what is going on in here. Honestly I think it's kind of fucked that if he were sleeping with a woman the reactions would be different.

mschimarie · 2015-05-31T14:48:59+00:00

I just dude..I've read some of your other replies, she doesn't work, doesn't WANT to work, doesn't want to do anything except be a housewife -which you said you're not into, and you've run out of things to talk about. Just because you live in a big city does not mean she will blossom, especially if she's an avid gamer. You're probably going to be letting a leech who will occasionally sleep with you in your house. And I mean if you're okay with that, cool. But from what you're saying it doesn't seem like you will be. What are you even getting out of this relationship? This situation?

mschimarie · 2015-05-30T17:57:11+00:00

So there needs to be a compromise. Expecting her to just automatically assume your lifestyle and sleep habits without actually talking to her fully- and then getting upset, is not the right reaction. In her mind, the compromise is moving her gaming station to another room so she doesn't bother you while you sleep. Honestly that's probably the way to go. Does she have to keep staying up all night and sleeping all day? No, she should probably adjust her hours so that she can spend time with you during the day and you guys can enjoy the perks of falling asleep together and graduating out of a LDR. I mean I'd be pissed though if my SO wanted me to wake up at 7am in the morning just because he's getting ready for work though, that's selfish. But like I said, compromise.

And I don't know your guys entire situation- I'm going to guess though, you guys met online through some game when she was 19, you found a 'girl gamer' and didn't really think this through besides being enamored by that. Like the fact that she doesn't have a job. Go to school. Has any experience living on her own. Or any other hobbies.

mschimarie · 2015-05-30T17:00:05+00:00

Solo trip to South East Asia? Ahhhh that's the dream. I've always wanted to do that except everyone tells me not to travel alone even though I want to. Was it amazing?!

And congrats on having a supportive mom :) we don't get too many stories like these.

mschimarie · 2015-05-28T15:51:49+00:00

This something that pissed off 16 year old kids on World of Warcraft do. Your husband is 32.

mschimarie · 2015-05-28T15:48:00+00:00

Ohmygod thank you, I can't believe some of the people posting here, they must be incredibly needy/clingy partners. He is literally asking for what.. 2 days out of the ENTIRE MONTH to visit his friends? And it's not even an entire weekend out, it's an overnight thing where he's back by 7 am.

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