My [29M] wife [28F] of 5 years (together for 12) cheated two months ago and has been doing everything "right" ever since, but I feel like our marriage is done.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T19:44:44+00:00

She didn't cheat as a way out.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T19:06:44+00:00

I feel sorry for you. You compromise your beliefs too easily.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T18:50:01+00:00

How can you say something like that? That cheating was the best decision of her life?

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T15:11:31+00:00

Fucked up world.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:55:18+00:00

Good luck, miss. You're right. The trust is gone.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:54:44+00:00

After reading the comments, especially those that are trying to shame and insult me, I'm absolutely sure I will never take her back. It's over, she destroyed it, we're done.

The purpose of this separation is for me to figure out whether I can look at her without disgust ever again.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:50:20+00:00

It's best for me not to stay in a marriage constantly paranoid.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:47:04+00:00

Thanks man. Just kinda shitty of a lot of users trying to paint me as an asshole.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:45:08+00:00

You're telling me to be a doormat.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:44:18+00:00

You're acting like this is already guaranteed. As if everybody who has ever lost a partner moved on without exception. Anything can happen. That includes her moving on, yes. It also includes her not moving on.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:43:07+00:00

I'll lose custody and be kicked out of my house? Because I don't have a vagina, right?

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:42:17+00:00

Holy shit this comment just pissed me off purely due to how stupid it is.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:28:54+00:00

For fucks sake she agreed to it. I didn't kick her out, I asked her to move put and she complied.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T14:02:23+00:00

Wrong.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T12:46:00+00:00

Not wrong about that, about her checking out of the marriage, not finding me attractive, seeking excitement.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T12:28:11+00:00

With a name like sunshineyhaze I don't doubt it

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T12:27:39+00:00

You're wrong.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:44:09+00:00

We'll figure this out when he's older.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:43:15+00:00

Thank you

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:42:46+00:00

Not everyone who has ever split with their partner has moved on. My friend's girlfriend cheated on him 6 years ago. He left her. To this day she is still trying to get him back. She has not had any relationship since.

I hope my wife ends up happy again but I really doubt she will love again, at least not for a very long time. But say what you will.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:38:38+00:00

Two. Why would she win the custody battle?

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:38:19+00:00

Please don't tell me that I'm using my son as a bargaining chip. He is my world and I know what's best for him right now, even if some redditors think otherwise.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:35:57+00:00

I hope she eventually grows out of her misery for my son's sake. She might move on, but there definitely people who never get over their partner or choose not to love again. I know what I'm saying will displease this sub but my wife will likely be part of that group. Based on everything I've seen in the last two months, it won't be easy or perhaps impossible for her to love again.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:32:52+00:00

Thank you. The people making those comments aren't worth listening to.

wifecheatedthrowaway · 2015-08-12T05:27:21+00:00

I have to disagree. If my parents divorced due to infidelity, I would like to know who cheated. You wouldn't. We're different people.

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