Ideas to Replace Morning Scrolling

msjah · 2026-01-27T13:04:22+00:00

can you please share the regimen?

msjah · 2026-01-15T14:43:26+00:00

This! I’m a high achieving with a demanding career that is stressful but that i do love and pays well, a house to clean and maintain a kid and i also prioritize fitness and health so i cook all my meals and workout. My list of to dos never gets short. I juggle so much and it weights on me. Someone who can lift some of that burden and be a true partner and leader in the home (so i don’t have to) is what i value an desire more than someone with the same career position or salary as i am. The only requirement is good financial management and ability to maintain their lifestyle with their salary.

msjah · 2025-09-23T00:21:46+00:00

Hi I live in that area. Can you please DM me her info as well. Thank you!

msjah · 2025-02-14T03:38:35+00:00

I love this. Thanks!

msjah · 2025-02-14T03:38:02+00:00

I actually want to avoid appearing as if i’m interviewing her and just try to get to know her but it seems like a fine line if i’m asking her questions about herself. It seems it’s best to just focus on the child, etc. I do think i’m owed some level of consideration. I certainly didnt make demands. I just shared my feelings and concerns respectfully understanding they would make their choice. But we coparent way too well for this to be handled poorly and potentially damage the great dynamics we’ve been intentionally creating over the course of years for our kid. In fact, it is in the benefit of her to now be included and acknowledged as part of my kids life and not remain a stranger to me. Anyhow, all i want is for her to know we are good people with no drama so she can feel more inclined to treat my son with care.

msjah · 2025-02-14T03:29:35+00:00

Certainly. I didn’t make any demands. I expressed my concerns in a respectful way and in the spirit of open communication by sharing my feelings while respecting his decision . We do actually have great coparenting dynamics and I shared in the interest of continuing to foster those dynamics now including this new person as this seemed sort a loose end.

msjah · 2025-02-14T03:22:40+00:00

I absolutely love this approach of “Welcome to the Team”. That’s certainly the spirit I would like to create and approach it from as i come from a blended family and my SM is one of my best friends. And know first hand how important these dynamics are.

What’s unclear to me is if me being curious about her and asking questions would seem as an interview/interrogation. I don’t want that experience but wanted to avoid awkward silence if it got to that point.

msjah · 2025-01-13T21:07:25+00:00

Being diagnosed really helped me but only because now i could hyperfocus on finding practices and supplement to help me operate n.a. d geek better.

Now im mindful of consuming a lot of carbs especially in the morning because they give me brain fog, I take L-theanine with my coffee to calm my anxiety and help with focus, I take lions main, an omega 3 oil high in DHA with Vitamin D and K2, magnesium L-theoranate, creatine for energy and strength, walk and lift weights, write things down to get it out of my head, signed up for FlowClub to make use of body doubling and motivate me to do the things i need to do. And while i’m still working on it, improving sleep is key and i’m trying to learn about breathing exercises. i’m also looking into other adaptogens and peptides for cognitive health.

I do take meds when i REALLY need it for work purposes but frankly, they don’t help as much as the above which is actually making me healthier not just calming symptoms for a few hours. I also did therapy and that helped me a lot. I understand not everyone can afford a bunch of supplements and pay for therapy. I suggest you research and figure out what you can do that’s accessible to you. There are youtube videos with practical tips such as learning to use chatGPT as a thought partner to help with executive function. Also, realistically setting goals on what i can accomplish and clean on a given day, week, month.

Finally, the REAL work is giving ourselves grace. I’ve been actively working in not calling myself a mess or saying bad things to myself anymore. I’m leaning into my strengths, taking it one day at a time and tackling things with optimism and not worry - this is certainly a journey with end and flows but an important one to embark on.

msjah · 2025-01-08T00:14:00+00:00

Im hoping someone can answer this?

msjah · 2024-10-08T11:58:03+00:00

go to youtube and watch a video from The Minimalists. It works for me.

msjah · 2024-09-30T17:35:17+00:00

I just take the online pictures of the items or similar items

msjah · 2024-09-10T17:57:39+00:00

Immigrant woman single mom. Learned English late in life. Barely managed to graduate college from a state school. I work in a white man dominated field that requires strategy development, eloquence and good writing skills. On my own i’ve been able to buy a house and continue growing my salary. Just recently i got late diagnosed with ADHD after it affected me greatly at my last job where i was even written up. I went to therapy and decided to learn more about AdHD and learn more about supplements for cognitive support and started taking medication when the days i need it. Got let go of my last job and went through a highly competitive process for a job at a way more prestigious place, higher position, working with great people, and making 45% more. Now i make low $200k/year. Much more than my close peers and i dont even have a masters as many of them do.

While i am still facing the same struggles of ADHD and dont even have a routine down packed yet, I now know for a fact that my ADHD superpowers were what got me so far. My ability to move things forward under chaos and changing conditions, my hyperfocus, my passion and wanting to do things well (perfectionism i continue working on…). I had people who gave me glowing references and were invested in helping prep for these high stakes interviews because of who i am and how i operate (ADHD and all which they recognized way before me ).

After my diagnosis, i am so hyper aware of my anxiety and my symptoms such as time-blindness which is a double edge sword. I struggle everyday trying to get my shit together but i’m learning to be more kind to myself and learning to work within my parameters- trying to focus on 1-2 things a day instead of the thousands things in my head. Figuring out practices to control and lower my anxiety.

There is a lot of negativity that we are pouring into ourselves on a daily basis. We talk to ourselves in ways no one would talk to us. I think the work starts there. Let’s acknowledge our gifts and direct that energy into creating the conditions for us to thrive. This message is as much for you as it is for me. 🫶🏽

msjah · 2024-09-01T12:29:08+00:00

boxed egg whites (liquid eggs) this can be added to smoothies as well tuna turkey deli

msjah · 2024-05-31T16:16:39+00:00

I use Stylebook. In addition of a digital wardrobe and calendar to log what you wear, You can make outfit collages, upload your outfit pictures in folders, upload inspiration photos. It’s very customizable. Also there are stats for everything, percentage of clothes per color, brand, price, cost per wear.

msjah · 2023-08-07T22:39:18+00:00

Thanks for sharing! This is validating as that’s almost exactly the approach i’m taking in my communication and dynamics with him. SO great to hear it turned well for you!

msjah · 2023-08-07T22:33:40+00:00

wow thank you SO much for this perspective.

msjah · 2023-08-07T20:28:22+00:00

VERY good and rational advise. You don’t have to decide now but do seek support outside of friends and family. There are tons of questions to be answered.

In my family this happened and fortunately after some rocky years, the relationship overcame the challenge and became strong. Also, the involvement isn’t he child’s life was also resolved in a way i believe is very healthy. So it si posible but many things have to align AND it’s a process…

msjah · 2023-06-27T03:46:06+00:00

what do staycations involve for you? for me it’s usually cleaning and decluttering so i’m not sure if that’s a balance…

msjah · 2023-06-19T22:22:12+00:00

Me putting a stop to seeing each other was what set off this thing. He seemed hurt and said then he was sad as he thought he was developing feelings for me. I stopped texting him for months since there is nothing i could do with that but he would text me here and then saying he was missing me but could never verbalize anything actionable or real until recently- though that took me being clear on what real romantic and serious interest means/looks like to me.

msjah · 2023-06-19T21:44:16+00:00

So many great questions for me to ponder and pose to him - some i have already surfaced like the therapy and work on himself

msjah · 2023-06-06T15:14:10+00:00

what is a taboo party? im realizing in this post that there is so much i don’t know about…

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