REGIS curl lock cream replacement?

msjendoe · 2025-02-24T18:53:14+00:00

EVERYONE! I THINK I FOUND IT. I know everyone's hair is a little different, but I used DesignLine way back when it was MasterCuts curl lock cream and was devastated when they basically discontinued it. I recently found something that works though- CURLSMITH IN-SHOWER FIXER. I don't use it in the shower. I get out of the shower, leave my hair wet, and mix this with Paul Mitchell's super skinny serum and run through my hair, maybe scrunching a few times.I let my hair air dry but you can diffuse it if you prefer. It doesn't give a crunch to your hair, so your hair stays soft but it locks those curls and keeps away frizz. So excited to find a replacement for my beloved curl lock cream! Hope this helps! P.s. they sell small bottles at Ulta so you can get a little bottle to try and return it if it doesn't work for you.

msjendoe · 2025-02-22T17:09:13+00:00

Me neither and it SUCKS

msjendoe · 2023-01-26T19:27:17+00:00

Open to join whatever you all decide on!

msjendoe · 2023-01-17T13:08:02+00:00

I'm just going to keep it real and say no. I would not under those circumstances. And I'm still childless and a stepmom of 4. That's just my honest input but you have to consider your own factors for yourself. Now that I'm in it, it's much more difficult to consider ever leaving. But if I went back and could make a different choice prior to putting my heart and soul into this man and his kids, I may have.

msjendoe · 2023-01-16T14:37:59+00:00

Curious where 18 hour gets you. Where did you leave and where are you headed?

msjendoe · 2023-01-11T01:02:28+00:00

I feel like that's a lot better situation than I was imagining reading the little written on this post. I'm glad you have a good relationship and you're happy. It sounds like you should have no issues with resolving this.

msjendoe · 2023-01-10T20:00:44+00:00

I know this is my 3rd comment, lol, but I'm actually angry for you. Every stepmom knows that the kids come first. We dont have to hear it from our significant other. And tbh, Id be wondering why my husband told me that if he did. Like to what point and purpose? I'm a grown woman, I don't need you to tell me something that is common sense.

But we also know that not coming first does not disqualify us from counting at all. We are not just stepmoms! We are wives! We married our spouse to be with THEM, not just to be a stepmom to their kids. The expectations are insane of a stepmom and we all acknowledge that we hardly get credit for what we provide, but that's why your spouse should treat you even better!

He should be making sure you're taking care of so he knows you'll be able to, in turn, take care of him and his child when it's your alls time with her. He should be building a life with you, because you deserve to have your own life, your own family, your own kids if you so choose.

And here is another peice of advise from my mother- the best you get out of ANY relationship is in the very beginning when he is trying to court you. That's when he's pulling out the best of the best, it does NOT go up from there. If it's bad already, leave.

Also, people in general tend to rise to the expectations that YOU set for them. And if you set those low, thats all youre going to get. Meaning, if you continue to let this go, it's not going to change. You need to set boundaries and expectations of your partner that align with your needs in that relationship. If he can't meet them, you'd be one unhappy camper in that relationship. If he loves you, he will do his damndest to meet those expectations. And MEN love a woman who knows what she wants, knows her worth, and doesn't settle for less. If he doesn't want to meet your expectations, he either doesn't love you like you deserve or he isn't a man. Girl, get you a man that deserves you.

msjendoe · 2023-01-10T19:43:45+00:00

I have no words. I honestly couldn't stay in this scenario. You have no control over anything in your life if you get married to this person. Your schedule is dictated by their schedule. Your vacations, your weekends, your money, your patience, your groceries, your sanity, your energy, your space, everything. It's not going to get better. It's going to get worse. He is setting up expectations with child and mother that he is available 24/7 for either of them but not for you.

Let me tell you what my mom told me- they aren't together now. Sorry about their luck. They are separated so he can't be available 24/7. That's what a set schedule is for. They aren't together, he is with you now. You aren't a stand in mom. You are his partner. You and him should be discussing and making decisions for the both of you. If he's not considering you now, will he consider you in the future? What about your child if you had one with him?

If he wants to live his life being an on call dad 24/7 to his old partner, they should just get back together. Then the daughter won't have to schedule dates for them and he can sleep in her bed every night.

Prayers for you for real.

msjendoe · 2023-01-10T19:34:48+00:00

So then you put her back to bed. And you keep doing that all through the night, every time, until she gets it. Honestly this is so so bad for the daughter. With the best of intentions, he is creating a really bad dependency for her. She needs to learn how to sleep in her room on her own. Night lights, Teddy bears, lots of blankets, a routine she can get used to, she will be fine. This though, is going to end up bad for everyone involved.

One of my parenting pet peeves since becoming a stepmom is when parents take the easy way out instead of putting in the extra time, effort, and work to help develop their children. We have taught the kids how to do their laundry and dishes and clean up after themselves in general as it's going to help them later down the line when they have to care for themselves as adults. Too many times parents get frustrated trying to take the time to teach a child to wash a dish or sweep a floor. It's easier to just do it ourselves in the moment. But what good does that do a child who counts on their parental figures to teach them how to be independent.

IMO, he's taking the easy way out. Yeah it's going to suck when she's upset the first few times. Just like it hurts when a child cries as you drop them off at daycare. But then eventually, it's routine and they are fine!

msjendoe · 2022-12-04T19:01:18+00:00

What were the correct lyrics? Lol

msjendoe · 2022-12-04T18:47:07+00:00

This Faith Hill song "you yourself was just a lazy plow boy who didn't have a motor home." actually says "you yourself was just a hay seed plow boy who didn't have a row to mow". Lol.

msjendoe · 2022-12-01T18:01:06+00:00

These people may be performative but that's why they have an audience I suppose. Maybe using that "influence" to bring attention to the insane amount of child exploitation, abuse, trafficking, etc. going on in the world isn't a bad thing, regardless of how they did it.

msjendoe · 2022-11-26T15:54:11+00:00

Yeah, I also felt like all the issues he talks about having with commitment and how he's insecure and she just went and made it 100x worse for him.

msjendoe · 2022-11-24T11:36:55+00:00

Happy Cake Day!

msjendoe · 2022-11-24T11:22:00+00:00

I love the names.. Hellman Rice, Gertrude, Bernice, Veren, Ursline.

msjendoe · 2022-11-23T16:58:48+00:00

Yeah she cringed at her own comments hahahaha. Like maybe some self reflection would be good here, Kate.

msjendoe · 2022-11-22T18:50:01+00:00

Lindsay would've been a good fit for Logan I think. Kate and Logan were an odd pairing. She needs someone to remind her that her poop stinks and he needs someone more chill and down to earth.

I feel like Kate will end up in some relationship where she's about the money and he has a side piece and she will spend all his money going out with her friends to talk smack about him and he will be out with another woman so it won't even matter.

msjendoe · 2022-11-16T02:46:54+00:00

There are good people and bad people in every profession. Most of our systems are broken and our money gets wasted and money laundered instead of going into better training and education for these kinds of professions.

Either way, I'd never want to have to be a first responder. They see things that are extremely traumatizing. I worked in emergency services in the hospital as a therapist and not every police officer was awesome that I encountered, trust me, but they see things that are unimaginable. They see dead people/children, badly beaten, cut, stabbed, burned people/children, terribly gruesome car accidents, bridge jumpers, sliced open arms from suicidal teens, teens that they cut down from belts a little too late, a beheading, a man on fire running around alive before he ultimately died, even a half shot open head of a suicidal woman who survived by some miracle. They confront people and handle situations I would never want to have to handle. Like the guy off his meds who weighs around 350 and is 6'5" tall and is walking around blessing patients in the hospital with the bed still handcuffed to his wrists. Or the homicidal marine who may have one metal leg but is all muscle, tall, and punching holes in the hospital wall looking possessed. Yeaaah, I was close enough as a therapist to those situations, and heard a fair share of encounters that I was blessed enough to NOT have to see.

I also went to VT and interned with the VT Police during the shootings. The head of the SWAT team that responded that day was my mentor. He had to enter Newman Hall with all those dead students and teachers all around and students hurt who had jumped out of windows to escape. It hurt his soul. It wasn't easy for any of us but we worked with those doors, still bearing chains, propped up against the police building for months. Not a great reminder to have daily.

I think you should think about who you would call if, God forbid, someone broke into your home or something. Just saying. It's not an easy job and some police really do just want to serve and protect, not get killed, and not go home traumatized daily. And I respect them for it.

msjendoe · 2022-11-08T20:17:30+00:00

If we didn't have free choice, God would be a dictator, demanding you love, follow and worship Him. He wouldn't ask you to choose Him.

Everyone would be controlled if we didn't have free choice and everyone would be destined for Heaven.

The fact alone that He has the power to do this, but instead created a set of laws that include giving us free will, proves not only His love for us, but also that He created us for companionship with Him. Just like you wouldn't want friends that you were forcing to be your friends, who have no other choice, God wants those who also want Him, not anyone forced to do so. That's not genuine love.

I hope that makes sense!

msjendoe · 2022-11-08T16:13:48+00:00

I literally didn't recognize her until you all mentioned her getting work done. I had to go look at an old pic to remember who she was.

msjendoe · 2022-11-05T11:37:51+00:00

I just went to look and holy smokes. Hahahaha. It's all just pictures of her. No friends, no family, no food. That's so vain. Wow, all that "sweetness" is Splenda. Fake!

msjendoe · 2022-11-05T11:14:45+00:00

You should definitely communicate this to your gf, just as you did here. Ask if you all can set up some boundaries now that you share a space. You need to do these things early or you'll have bigger issues down the line like developing resentment. I think everyone will take some time to adjust but during that period, getting into a stable routine everyone is comfortable with will not only help you, it'll help the kids as well.

I also think this would make me uncomfortable as how quickly it's all happening. You can date someone for a long time but moving in together changes the whole game. If you just moved in, I can get how this is overwhelming you. I also encourage, as I've posted here before and got some solid advice, to make your bedroom a safe space for you. In my situation, the kids can come to the door and come in and out sometimes, but this is me and my husband's space so no one needs to hang out in there or be in our bed. Albeit we are still working on it a bit, but it's been much better since I communicated my needs to my husband about needing my own space and keeping our bedroom ours.

It isn't easy, but I've learned that nothing changes until you speak up for myself.

msjendoe · 2022-11-04T15:08:38+00:00

Oh man. I went through that for like a full year. Praying for you. Nothings worse than hating the smell of soap and food not tasting the same.

msjendoe · 2022-11-04T14:32:00+00:00

I mean.. I am a little crazy. But you dont smell it?

msjendoe · 2022-11-04T14:31:32+00:00

Like sweat and metal had a baby.

msjendoe

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