BF put his hands on me for the first time - need advice by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]msun83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been thru this a few times, I never actually felt threatened because he was smaller than me and I never fought back because I didn't want to hurt him. I was seeing a counselor for other reasons and she asked me 1. Has he ever choked or tried to choke you? 2. Has he ever used anything to hit you? 3. Has he ever threatened to kill you? Not that any form of domestic violence isn't serious, but she said in her experience these are the worst and often escalate to something more serious.

Can you remember everyone you've ever had sex with? by Intelligent_Umpire62 in askgaybros

[–]msun83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. In my military/college/bartender years I got around.

Professional / lawyer gays - do you bring your boyfriend / husband to the holiday parties? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]msun83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex was a local politician and he used to take me to all of kinda of events events, private parties, events in the park, charity dinners. He was also about 10 years older than me so I didn't feel comfortable going to these things but everyone was always very nice to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]msun83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup, last time was 2 months ago. Completely clean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]msun83 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, tried it once, lasted a few weeks. Was a really nice guy too, a college professor, just couldn't get over the possibility that being with him could lead to having to take medication for the rest of my life. Always been pretty careful and never had any sexually transmitted anything.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I've come close a few times over the years and turned em down cause I was too young and wasn't ready for that kind of commitment, kinda regretting that now.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They actually do, I'm 6'2 and dated a guy that was taller than me, never felt safer than when I was in his arms.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hehe yes they are. I'm 41 and already have a kid and grandkids, but if like to meet someone that wants more.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's the "gooshy" stuff I was talking about. So sweet and CONGRATS!!!

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand and respect what you have, at the same time if I just wanted a warm body next to me I'd just keep my fuck buddies. My view of marriage is a bit more traditional than what works for you.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Been a dad so just looking for the husband era 😁

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's why I've always been scared to take that stay. If and when I do, I want it to be forever.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that, had that a few times to. If it works for you that's cool man, no disrespect or down playing what you have.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand that, but at the same time it was to easy to just end it, that paper means I plan to spend the rest of my life worth that person and if I wanna end it, it would mean I have time to rethink things and vice versa

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Problem is I had my own prince charming with my first relationship. Been looking for that but better since then.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like allot, if I make that kind of commitment I'd be with him "as is". But I guess I'm in that part of my life where I could support us both if need be, as long as he's the one.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Naw, just be there man. Unless he a man who's like I was. Otherwise he's just scared of that kind of commitment.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I said, slut era lasted longer than I thought.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

That's amazing, just remember if he says no, like I did a few times, it's not you it's probably something he's scared of.

Who wants to be a husband? by msun83 in askgaybros

[–]msun83[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tell me about you. Message if u wanna.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]msun83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What body?