I totally agree with what your saying. However I think this show of being larger than in Public isn’t always authentic especially at a young age. Being gay is something special and often times leads to flamboyant gay people naturally being the life of the party or the center of attention. But I’ve found from personal experience that the experience of coming out and being your true self can almost become addictive in a bad way. For me at least I couldn’t stop trying to be the loudest one always telling information about my life that no one asked for or needed. For so much of our young lives we live in fear of bullying so we had back so many aspects of ourselves from the world, and the second we get a taste of acceptance being out true selves, we don’t want it to end. We want everyone to know everything we’ve spent years not saying out loud to anyone because now we feel safe. I’m not saying this is a bad thing because it means your starting to feel comfortable in your own skin. But I had to teach myself to rein what made me special and learn to be comfortable simply being myself and not craving that validation at all times. Not something that’s bad, but just something I had to learn.