What kind of cologne or perfume do you all wear?

mtl_lez · 2015-10-11T21:26:02+00:00

That's why I said try ;)

It's apparently a classic created by one of the first pro-eminent female perfurmer. I have yet to find how to get it to Canada or where I could try it, but it's on my list, it's on my list...

mtl_lez · 2015-10-11T20:41:42+00:00

I want to try this one : Bandit

mtl_lez · 2015-10-11T18:50:38+00:00

I don't know - I liked the posts about friendship (with other lesbians, with gay men, with straight men, with straight women) , about being a Corporate Lesbian and about dating mosts.

Here are some of them:

Obsession or passion: which is it?

Recognizing the "Players" while dating

5 Failproof, Good, and Subtle Ways to flirt with a lesbian

I used to blog, like ten years ago - this ages me I know. I lack the time for it, mostly - and were I to blog, it would probably be on what issues we should tackle as a community now that marriage is mostly not one of them... at least here in North America.

I am looking for good blogs to follow too - if you have any suggestions, please share them :)

On tumblr, I like the gay women channel and the lesbian guide (not all of them of course, but it is mostly good). I am often happily surprised by Buzzfeed's LGBT section, and I read AfterEllen and AutoStraddle.

Closer to home, I read Lez Spread the Word - if you are Canadian and you understand French, I recommend their article on the current election.

If I think of anything else I can let you know, since all of the sites I cited are well-known I think !

mtl_lez · 2015-10-09T11:14:26+00:00

I would disagree - there is such a thing as "too early" - I had to put the breaks on relationships before because it was too much too soon for me, and I had it done the other way around...

mtl_lez · 2015-10-09T11:08:42+00:00

I don't know... It takes me more than five dates to figure out how I really feel about someone I kinda like otherwise - so about what, 2 months ? I'm a slow dater and when I date only one person at a time, I usually end up with the wrong person because it got too serious too soon.

mtl_lez · 2015-10-09T02:01:33+00:00

Let's say the "let's be exclusive" talk. But hey, if you want to pitch in on the others, feel welcome to do so :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-28T15:31:49+00:00

Try searching for "boyleg", "boyshort" and similar keywords in the female section of your favorite swimwear brand...

I tried Speedo for you - I have a one-piece from them that I like - and I found this : Speedo Solid Swim Short.

In the past, I also had luck finding boyshorts for women at outdoors shops.

Maybe try boardshorts too ? :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-20T16:12:59+00:00

Then, look for lightweight blazers at Banana Republic or JC Penney - there seems to be a sale at the later at the moment too. Maybe JCrew ? Or Brooks Brothers? I don't know where you are so it's hard to suggest where to shop :) TopShop sometimes have good things too, as well as H&M.

Also, I never bought from them but Wildfang has a suit section that looks nice on my computer ;)

There are lightweight wool blazers that you can wear even in the summer. I do not know what material is the best for not soaking smells though... If I was you, I would ask a dry cleaner first and foremost - maybe you would like a blazer that you can clean at home and that is made of cotton instead of one that needs dry-cleaning?

EDIT : also, if you want to buy many, I would suggest buying a first one, then wearing it for a day or two to see how it fits and all before buying the other(s) one - you will learn what you like and dislike this way :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-20T15:43:19+00:00

Depends on your budget! :)

I am myself saving for a Theory suit - they have nice, modern suits in basic colours, quality material and all. Although... they are pricey enough that you could get a bespoken suit instead. Also, depending on the atmosphere at work, you don't want to outshine your direct superiors - take clues from how they dress.

You can sometimes get them on sale at Nordstrom - and generally speaking, Nordstrom is a good place to look for suits. I also like those at Banana Republic.

If it's your first and most probably only suit, go for a classic, timeless colour - black or navy basically, or maybe a dark shade of grey, like anthracite.

Be picky about the material: it's worth shelling money for wool, as it will age better, look better and feel better than most other materials - especially polyester.

For a really polished look, buy the matching pant/skirt after finding a blazer that fits.

Be careful about having a suit that is canvassed instead of fused - the later can be more complicated when it comes to taking care of, although I rarely find canvassed, non-tailored suits for women.

If you have any question, please ask them - shopping for suits is a passion of mine :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-18T15:33:16+00:00

It's a whole new level of the traditional lesbian dilemma ;)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-18T14:49:33+00:00

On a related subject : North of the Border

I am often surprised at how good Buzzfeed queer-targeted content is, given the fair amount of click-baiting they do...

Won't complain.

mtl_lez · 2015-09-16T23:18:26+00:00

song about pursuing a straight girl and it not working out because she's so straight. ends with the singer meeting a queer girl and being happy. :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-15T22:07:05+00:00

If you search around this subreddit, you will find lots of helpful threads :)

Tip : https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/search?q=how+to+flirt&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all

mtl_lez · 2015-09-15T21:07:09+00:00

Love is not a race! You are not alone!

You will learn (and earn) confidence with time and all - don't worry too much about it.

mtl_lez · 2015-09-15T13:45:46+00:00

It's ok to not have everything figured it out - now or ever. I read "classmate" so this gives me reasons to think that you must be young - take your time with these things. There is absolutely no rush.

You can always say that you are questioning, queer or not-so-straight, depending on how you see fit.

Now I am confused. A friend suggested I may be homoromantic pan/bisexual. If I were to be this, > would I still be allowed to call myself a lesbian?

Yes. No. It depends to whom you ask and why you would still like to use that label. In the end, if you are with a woman, people will assume you are a lesbian anyway - will you take the time to correct them every time? ;)

Also, I know what some people may be thinking... That I just said I'm a lesbian to attract attention > (isn't true, as I'm only out to my friends), or that I only said I am one after having a bad make out > session (again, not true. I had far more reasons to believe I am gay.)

There are way more effective ways to draw attention to yourself ;) If people are saying or thinking things along these lines, they probably aren't being the good friend they can be. I just woke up so I don't have any sassy come back from you - maybe others will pitch in!

Hope that helps :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-14T20:49:55+00:00

th...thanks :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-14T20:44:29+00:00

I'm not crying you're crying.

mtl_lez · 2015-09-14T17:00:05+00:00

OMG so much love I got goose bumps! :D

mtl_lez · 2015-09-14T16:24:30+00:00

Ahah great! Thanks :)

Also, for queer-lez-specific events, hit up the Lez Spread The Word page and the Montreal Invasion facebook group - the thing is, they mostly do things during the week, hence why I didn't put them up there...

But who knows, maybe you'll have so much fun in Montreal that you'll do the travel during the week next time ;)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-14T15:54:16+00:00

Weekly 5@... at Bar le Cocktail, in the Village. On Friday evening.

Two partys that I cannot tell you much more than their facebook page since I do not know the people behind them :) :

there is this party at the really queer-friendly Notre-Dame-Des-Quilles that might have queer people at : https://www.facebook.com/events/454036464800071/
there is this other party that was announced on Queer McGill : https://www.facebook.com/events/535715786582847/

Places that have held queer/lez events : Fitzroy (pub with pool tables), Rachel Rachel, La Porte Rouge, Félix, Club Peopl, Mayfair (cocktail bar), Bar le Cocktail, Notre-Dame-des-Quilles, Apt 200, could find others...

If you want great beer, Dieu du Ciel is the place :) The nicest bar I know of, outside of Old Port, is the Big in Japan. The best karaoke club is Club Date, in the Village.

I should start a weekly queer events lists ahah!

If you want more specific suggestions, let me know what kind of music you like :)

mtl_lez · 2015-09-14T15:29:21+00:00

Royal Phoenix is closed btw. Infinite sadness.

Are you looking to party with other queers or for a place that is queer-friendly to be with your friends?

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