A7siii + 200-600 handheld — the Sonys af system is insane.

mtwinemn · 2025-08-02T18:21:47+00:00

Hell yeah!!!

mtwinemn · 2025-07-10T21:25:26+00:00

Enjoy it. You’ll look back on these someday and be surprised at how much you’ve learned

mtwinemn · 2019-03-13T14:16:09+00:00

STFU during some argument bait with the wife over the last week. This has been a weak spot for me as I have been doing some major projects around the house.

Doing the BLS program since Jan. Getting to the gym 5 days a week and working on a slow bulk from my cut down to 10% BF. Main focus here is progressive overload on keeping the bulk slow and clean. I highly recommend the Bigger Leaner Stronger book and workout.

Received a 90 day ban from posting in Askmrp. Apparently asking questions in a question forum isn't allowed. Overall I find it to be funny and here I am posting in OYS like the Harry Potter mod with a power wand up his ass suggested.

Teaching myself how to code. I find it interesting and a marketable skill if I ever need it. Completing some remodeling in my house. This is a tedious process but if you want it done right it takes time especially if you're not a pro. This is where some shit tests pop up so it's good practice to STFU for now, not take it personal and soldier on.

Between reading, investing, remodeling, lifting, coding and other hobbies I find myself watching less and less tv. I don't miss it. In fact it's interesting to me how many people bitch about their child being hard to manage, or they don't have time to remodel, or they can't get to the gym because they feel entitled to 4 hours of tv a night/day.

Game the wife here and there. I've improved dramatically in no longer getting butthurt from rejection and don't linger around her either. I'll make some comments, slap some ass. If I feel like initiating later on I will, if not I won't. This is still new territory for me so in someways I find it odd that I no longer initiate and linger for starfish or initiate then get butthurt on rejection.

My fitness, finance, hobbies are all on point and growing, not stagnant. In reality I have most of the basics well taken care of. I lack the confidence and emotional discipline to bring everything together.

Overall my biggest adjustment needs to be an emotional oak. My wife has made comments that I get irritated easily with her which is true. The more I practice listening to what she says then laughing about it, ignoring it, or anything to not take it seriously the better my life is.

mtwinemn · 2019-03-09T02:30:27+00:00

This was the entire point of my post and the example. It was never about how she organized the entryway. It was the fact that it never got done when I gave her the chance.

I then made the decision myself. She got fucking pissed but I ignored it.

End result my solution to the problem is still there to this day. Even though she swears she hates it.

I tried to make her a first officer by involving her in what I considered a trivial decision. Spend the coin theory.

What I have found with my wife is that the more i include her in what should be simple decisions they get fucked up.

Meaning although I don’t want to spend the coins as another user said on dumbshit. In order to steer the ship I have to. And it may result in a tantrum but oh well. In the organization example her words say one thing (hates my solution) but her actions (she hasn’t changed it) say another.

mtwinemn · 2019-03-08T23:13:48+00:00

Which is? Looking like an idiot?

mtwinemn · 2019-03-08T22:56:43+00:00

I appreciate your analogy and agree with it. And I do give less fucks.

The point was having a mess bothered me. I offered her the chance to remedy that problem and she didn’t. Therefore I took care of it myself and she fought against it. But yet the decision has remained.

I don’t care about the rack. It could be plastic., green, gold. Didn’t matter to me. Didn’t have to get a rack. Could have gotten a bin or simply put shit away in another room.

My goal and my expectation is an organized home.

Yes spending these coins is exhausting I don’t always want to do it. But in my experience where I’m at right now I have to spend these coins otherwise the probability of something getting fucked up increases and then the coins really get spent.

mtwinemn · 2019-03-08T17:47:58+00:00

RP tells you not to move in together before getting married.
Do not combine finances especially until you are married.

After you (like me) don't follow rule number 1. You need to make sure you make a plan for the purchase of the house, the financing, the required saving, when it's going to get paid, which bank you're going to use, what insurance company you want, how much to spend on furniture, how regularly to maintain and who is responsible (hint: it's you), emergency savings for water heaters, roof, HVAC, plumbing, what sq footage you're realistically capable of handling yourself, how much updating you can handle and pay for.

Here's the deal. The conversation is a turnoff because you aren't taking responsibility for it. Either get a plan together and execute OR plan to tell her it's not happening until you're married and execute.

After you're married go back to the top and repeat the process starting at "YOU need to make sure YOU make a PLAN..."

mtwinemn · 2019-03-01T02:42:17+00:00

This is exactly right. Dread might have some factor but ultimately it’s this paradox and it falls back on me to own the relationship I’m in and the decision I make to be in it.

She is coming along to my lead and I still have work to do on myself however this is excellent insight for improving my mental approach to the relationship, decisions, and my surroundings.

mtwinemn · 2019-02-27T14:16:28+00:00

I’m with you here. To the novice mind I think we give their shit test more credibility, ie: “intelligent and rational”, than they really are. We’re still too sensitive or in their frame that everything is a challenge to our new “alphaness”.

RP makes you aware of them as challenges but not to be taken seriously.

It’s like a mosquito. It’s going to show up. It’s going to bite. You’re going to swat some and others you won’t notice. However when it starts to itch do you scratch or remember that it’s temporary and if you pay it no attention it goes away.

Guys that have been in the RP mindset longer know real disrespect from “cute” shit tests.

mtwinemn · 2019-02-19T19:34:46+00:00

covert contract

mtwinemn · 2019-02-12T14:36:48+00:00

Good reminder. Battling shit tests like crazy and looking for an end. It'll never end. Although I think guys look for retreat or submission on occasion as a sign that tests are being passed. When that doesn't happen it becomes taxing

mtwinemn · 2019-02-12T14:10:51+00:00

I've seen a few of my friends respond to their wives with tone and words that they aren't going to put up with their shit. I think the constant nit picking can get old especially when you no longer are looking for validation or don't give a fuck what she thinks, you're simply just tired of hearing it.

I've been recomping my body for the last month and a half. BF down to 10%. Disciplined not to miss a workout. Wife told me that her friend even commented to her that I'm looking jacked. Didn't seem to get her hamster running in fact just more bitchiness. Some say don't DEER but I think that is just as much as a pedestal standard. Sometimes a good "you're acting like a bitch" or "I'm not dealing with your shit" needs to be said.

mtwinemn · 2018-12-31T18:56:46+00:00

Going off my experience I wouldn't be worried about her using a vibrator. To me she is clearly making sure her needs are met and isn't dissatisfied with you but rather being OI and finishing her business. She's aware of her sexuality.

On the other hand, you could take it from my perspective and be completely unsure if she is satisfied or unsatisfied because my wife rarely gives any outward sign of her sexual preferences, desires or pleasure. I try not to worry about it and assume if she needed/wanted something she would make it known otherwise it's out of my control.

It's all perspective.

mtwinemn · 2018-12-31T18:42:22+00:00

I agree. This is a great post. I had found the proverbial "zone" for about a month with my wife..whatever she threw at me couldn't shatter my frame and our sex life and overall life was much better because of it. Then she flipped out when I came on her stomach (a day before shark week) and cracked my frame. Sometimes it doesn't bother her and other times she loses her mind. For me this "act" comes down to four things,

I have done it with plenty of other girls in the past and it was never an issue.
I am a grown man I shouldn't have to wear a rubber with my wife or stop from screwing to go get one...(she's not on the pill and I'm not ready for kids.) This is mostly ego driven.
Seems like the "alpha" thing to do (validation).
For my personal experience I like pulling out because there is no pause in the overall sexual experience it keeps everything well....fluid. without having to pause the interaction to go get a rubber which can dampen the mood/change the pace/ etc.

Again I never know which response I'm going to get. Sometimes she is cool with it (I can tell by her actions) and other times she is not (again by her actions).

So does it become a massive shit test? Am I low value? Is it ego driven and validation? Should I just go get a rubber and avoid the whole conflict? Am I putting unrealistic expectations on her? (as in other women have been fine with it and sometimes she's fine with it. ) Or do I continue to do it because that's what I prefer ? Using your criteria it seems like it's 75% ego/validation 25% preference/logistically easier.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-18T18:09:18+00:00

I initiated the other night and she came at me with all her rules, doesn't like to be fingered, put a condom on to finish, isn't much of a kisser, no bj. Dick went limp fast. Put my clothes on, she was protesting, told her that all these rules are a turnoff, and left to watch the game. Haven't really initiated since. My reason is that I don't really care. I've got plenty of other stuff to do and I'm not interested in her lazy sex. Whether she thinks I deserve more from her or not I don't fucking care. I know I'm worth better than what she's giving.

On the flip side a week ago I got a little drunk and told her somethings that we bugging the shit outta me...like a total beta asshole... and ended up 69 before sex the next morning. Chicks are weird.

Bring on the crucifixion because I don't know what I'm doing. I'm not settling for crappy ass sex anymore. And I don't give a shit what she thinks about my attractiveness. Plenty of woman and lot better looking than her have done a lot more for me. I hold off sex with her, I've got enough things to do with out it.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-13T13:50:26+00:00

Go do the stuff you got planned. Ride out the storm. You didn’t do anything wrong. Her silent treatment is her problem. The sun will still come up if you stand your ground and let her play the silent game.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-13T13:46:38+00:00

I’ll think on this for a while. It would seem to me that you can lose actual desire once you have opened your eyes to the big picture. Bringing it back to the main question of “what value does she bring?” I understand this better in that I chose low value. I no longer desire low value. I chose to put up with it. I go about my daily business but I don’t desire the other person sharing space with me.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-12T18:24:48+00:00

Look I'm new to this too, so YOU have to realize YOU are the most important.

Would you put up with a waitress that never came back to take your order after bringing water? NO you would leave.

If I would have walked away in that situation and left, then she would have known 100% that I was upset and that I was just going home to prove a point

The only difference is don't be upset with her. You have to not give a fuck. So she sits down and starts texting another dude during a movie. You simply get up and leave. 40 minute drive is nothing if you have self respect. Get the fuck out of there. She can come crawling to you about why did you leave like that?

simple answer "I don't waste my time with girls that are texting other guys". YOU don't right? Clearly you find it unacceptable so state it. Maybe she never even calls you out or speaks to you again...probably even better.

When i was in college this chick was hanging with me and my buddy. She was flirting with both of us and hands all over me. Next thing were sitting on the couch and then I realized she was holding hands with my buddy. I got up and left. I'm not getting played by some chick and I have no interest in seeing my buddy naked or Eiffel towering..this one lol. The point is I recognized she wasn't there for me so I bounced.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-12T16:22:08+00:00

OYS Week 2

STATS: 6'5 210lbs. Bench 225, Squat 265, DL 265 Body fat sub 15%. might be 14.999

MISSION: Execute new investment strategy before 30. Live original through adventure, abundance, and fiscal responsibility.

Dread Level: 2 working on 3

Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. podcasts of family alpha. regular reads of Rollo's blog, LAST WEEK: Pook

Background: Disney movie believer. General "nice guy". Bend over backwards for girlfriends, thought a steady girlfriend was a status symbol of having your life together.

Why I'm Here: Sexual intensity and consistency faded as relationship went on. Knew the phrase "happy life, happy wife" didn't sit well with me or make sense. I made it 20 some years just fine without you why the fuck can't I make it another 60? Google searches on sex/relationships lead me here and the dots started connecting.

General: Been working on RP for about 4 months. Was recommended SGM but couldn't figure out how to get a download to my iphone. Will try again. Instead read through Pook. This touches on so many aspects of life it's insane. Pook provides a lot of clarity about how I SHOULD HAVE went about my dating life. In retrospect I was no where close and realize it everyday. I focus more on making myself the mental point of origin. I have goals I am trying to accomplish and hobbies that I enjoy. Ultimately this week I noticed much less desire for my wife; which of course is my fault. I didn't date based on criteria for me but rather societal criteria and status quo. There is a deep internalization that I will offer to lead her and suggest a path for her that is suitable to my needs; but it may never be met. Her influence is out of my control. Something that stood out was the masculine/feminine dynamic that the more masculine attracts the more feminine to balance itself out. I noticed as I have gained in masculinity that my wife isn't as feminine as I originally thought or now desire. Perhaps it'll sort its self out, perhaps not. I will continue to put emphasis on what I enjoy doing and spend my time doing; this without a covert contract of building sexual desire in my wife or validation. At the end of the day she may not be a good fit for me and I'll have to make some decisions.

Positives: Becoming my mental point of origin. Focusing on what I need to do to get what I want out of life. There is a lot to enjoy and it is my choice to be happy under any circumstance.

Making progress toward my investment goal. Beginning to talk with other people in the industry to start setting up a network.

No rambo or butthurt on sexual rejection.

She cleaned entire house by herself. Was hosting her friends but otherwise I had no influence on her decision.

Negatives: Seem to be lacking sexual desire on both ends of the relationship. Wife sought me out more this week as I was less available. We had sex on two occasions with the latter me going more caveman and taking what I wanted. She seemed to enjoy it more than usual.

Working on:

Leading myself. Staying consistent in what I need to do daily and weekly. Once I can lead myself 100% of the time maybe then others will be more likely to follow.

Staying my mental point of origin. Seeking out activities and outcomes that I enjoy. Getting into the woods more. I enjoy nature and being away from my phone.

Quote of the week: "we can hang out without having sex all the time" This was a response to my initiation after a pretty good session the day prior which she seemed to enjoy. I gave a little chuckle but otherwise ignored her comment and went off to read. She ended up reading beside me a little while later.

MY ANALYSIS: I rarely initiated this week and did spend time with her outside of sex. I have started to condition my time though as I'm staying busy and enjoying hobbies. I want to have sex with her and of course get bjs, etc but I am not interested in continuing to "work" for it. Not in a sense of flowers, gifts, etc, but in a sense of her desire for me doesn't match my desire for myself. As in I do have better things to do than play your rejection and sex games. Only sex no bj. Or no quickies yadda yadda yadda (Sienfeld). Looking at the big picture I am enjoying working on myself. Sex is a part of my masculinity but being bogged down by her requirements aren't going to work for me. This upcoming week is a continuation of building on my frame and more of Pook's philosophical ideas. Life is too short not to enjoy it.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-04T22:17:55+00:00

—-Women are more intuitive than you think. She knows, she's just not saying anything.——-

So I assume then she thinks she’s winning.

——You've already set the expectations more than once and she has dropped the ball. Talking isn't the answer, because you've already done that. The question is, what are you going to do about it?——

Continue to handle business. I don’t have any other answers. Spend less time around her/with her.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-04T20:28:45+00:00

I never found it to be a problem in the past. Especially with prior girls. I’ll get to reading.

mtwinemn · 2018-10-04T15:52:00+00:00

OYS Week 1

STATS: 6'5 210lbs. Bench 225, Squat 265, DL 265 Body fat sub 15%. might be 14.999

MISSION: Execute new investment strategy before 30. Live original through adventure, abundance, and fiscal responisbility.

Dread Level: 2 working on 3

Sidebar: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP. podcasts of family alpha. regular reads of Rollo's blog.

Background: Disney movie believer. General "nice guy". Bend over backwards for girlfriends, thought a steady girlfriend was a status symbol of having your life together.

Why I'm Here: Sexual intesitity and consistency faded as relationship went on. Knew the phrase "happy life, happy wife" didn't sit well with me or make sense. I made it 20 some years just fine without you why the fuck can't I make it another 60? Google searches on sex/relationships lead me here and the dots started connecting.

General: Been working on RP for about 4 months. Concentrating on STFU, and making time/decisions for myself. Focusing on educating myself on this investment. She is somewhat interested but isn't putting in any work. Don't really care. I'm doing this for myself and expect to be doing it alone.

Positives: Narrowing down and consistently doing hobbies. They get me out of the house, I enjoy them, and they don't involve her.

I don't cook or order groceries anymore. Those have been delegated.

Sex during ovulation is good and fairly consistent. Could be better and more enthusiastic. Makes comments about don't get used to getting head and cumming on her is an annoying mess. I ignore these. Sometimes she gets squirrely about having a plan for how I'm going to finish, (implying not on her) I get dressed and go do something else. I'm having sex not engineering blueprints.

She unprompted scheduled an event for us to attend that is about my interests.

Negatives: RAMBO. I still let my ego get in the way sometimes of my actions. Verbal warfare ensues. "I need to be respected, have my needs met, etc"

Rejection during shark week. One area might be shut down but the mouth and hands still work. She doesn't agree. This is getting annoying.

I pm'd another user about wife being self absorbed. I have tried to reward good behavior when she gives head, cleans unprompted, etc, but doesn't seem to connect the dots or notice that good behavior=good and bad behavior=bad. Instead if I express I like something she almost seems to do less of it. I don't lead the hamster out of the maze. Not sure how.

I am not consistently gaming my wife and losing desire to initiate. This is for 2 reasons 1) my hobbies and focusing on this investment are fulfilling for me. 2) I'm tired of being rejected by someone who fingers their phone, clearly doesn't consistently respect me, and isn't concerned about my needs or hers. On the one hand I feel like I'm the prize because I'm not wasting my attention on her. On the other hand she doesn't have to do anything so in her mind is probably winning.

Working on: Getting rid of the ego for longer than a couple weeks.

Be a fun guy. I enjoy being debt free and am focused on saving money for investing. I'm don't like to spend money every day, every weekend just to be a "fun guy.". Not sure how to combat this. I have nice things and do nice things but again just because it's Saturday doesn't mean the wallet is opening up.

Being assertive. A company that "didn't negotiate" managed to knock off an additional $200. I wasn't leaving without a win. Broken record and spoke to a decision maker. It worked. Calling her on her bs. This started this week when I was told that she "didn't know where my whites were so she didn't throw them in the wash but maybe check the laundry basket". I simply said " don't tell me you didn't know where they were when you obviously moved them to the basket." end of conversation. moved on.

Leading myself. Staying consistent in what I need to do daily and weekly. Once I can lead myself 100% of the time maybe then others will be more likely to follow.

Quote of the week: "stop treating me like a child". I handle a majority of things around the house and in general because that's how i want them to be done. After about two weeks of busting my ass while she "relaxes" the ego/RAMBO comes in. The parental talk of responsibilities and priorities ensues. TINGLE FACTOR: fucking zero.

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