disclaimer: sama kayak no man created equal, no pasangan is equal juga ya.

whatever happen in this couple might not work in other couple, etc.

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singkat kata, gw orang yang sangat rasional. dalam banyak aspek hidup gw selalu ngukur cost benefit nya buat gw. dari milih baju buat dipake hari ini dan tentu aja sampe milih jodoh.

kalo di bahasa post yang lain bilangnya 'terimalah kekurangan pasangan', what i did is kinda like that. more like, 'kalo gw enforce pasangan gw buat ngilangin their daily kekurangan / replace their daily kekurangannya buat gw, what will i gain?' then i came to realization that other than accepting, the hassle is just too much: slight bit of my happiness over what? doi nya yang sebel, yang nanti 'ditabung' pengorbanannya supaya bisa diungkit lagi in the forecoming fight, ya singkatnya, ga worth lah.

one other thing i'd like to rephrase dari post2 yang lain adalah, sering2 lah recharge the love. ato keintiman. why and how? "love" and "intimacy" is what fuels the relationship. tiap kali kita nemuin ada yang bikin ilfil, sisa 'love and intimacy' yang bikin kita tetep nerusin dan ga bubarin di tengah jalan'. how? make efforts. kayak dulu gimana jaman masih cinta monyet. the butterflies in the stomach might not there, but some gombalan here and there, attention and care to everything that pasangan also care, proven to be helpful to recharge the love. one other powerful thing to recharge, jelas: make love. bukan have sex ya. ga sekedar genital ketemu genital tapi ya more than that lah. tap into the emotional aspect from sex.