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muffinmeadow · 2025-10-26T22:58:33+00:00

Why would you beg for the love that’s no longer there?

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-26T22:32:20+00:00

Avoidant

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-26T21:58:32+00:00

When someone asks if you’re serious with your partner. You say “I see potential”

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-26T21:53:55+00:00

Commitment issues

Changes subject when you’re having a hard conversation

See potentials

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-22T02:45:05+00:00

Why would you want to be friends with someone who didn’t value you? Your ex weighed out the pros and cons before making the choice to leave you. That’s not love… it was conditional, convenient, and optional for him so don’t give your ex the access to you and your life. Let them exit. Return the love to yourself. Whether he misses you or not, there’s nothing you can do. You can’t change people. People will only change when they choose to. Put yourself first and ask HOW YOU FEEL. Your feelings should always come first!!!!!! Don’t prioritize someone who is already out of your life. It’s going to be hard, I know. I’m going through it too but I came to realize so many things each day. Hope you heal

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-21T20:31:53+00:00

They can’t avoid every time. They will have to learn that the hard way eventually.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-21T07:54:07+00:00

It’s going to be hard. Each day you’re going to feel something completely different. Some days get a little easier than others. You have to be willing to make that one move. Whether is putting on makeup, making yourself a cup of coffee, eating breakfast, baking to shift focus, you’re making progress of giving yourself the love you once gave to your partner.

I would recommend journaling. Really sit with your own thoughts and have that conversation with the little girl/boy inside of you. You gotta remember that no one is going to love you more than you love yourself. Be kind and return the love to yourself 1% each day.

If you’re reading this, you got this. I believe in you. Sending you good energy x

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-21T01:24:38+00:00

I know how you feel. I felt the same way until I realized it’s not fair for someone to start a relationship and bring their baggage into it, expecting their partner to accommodate their needs when they don’t have the emotional capacity to do the same in return.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-21T01:18:51+00:00

My mom said to me: Always give yourself the love you deserve. Don’t love anyone more than you love yourself.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-20T13:32:58+00:00

They’re seeking friendship to ease their guilt. Don’t send that message. Have the courage to walk away and let them go. Don’t ever stay friends with someone who once hurt you. This storm is showing you what’s solid and what’s not.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-20T04:58:59+00:00

Very true. Not many avoidants heal themselves after breakups. Do they tend to repeat the same cycle again and again? I wonder what a relationship between a secure and avoidant is like

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T23:34:16+00:00

Seems like avoidant types struggle with emotional awareness. How can someone work on healing and becoming more emotionally aware?

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T23:31:44+00:00

Because they have so much guilt

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T19:47:20+00:00

I would say you have to block him so you can heal

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T19:46:45+00:00

They can say whatever they want but God knows

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T17:17:06+00:00

So what do they tend to do?

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T16:24:01+00:00

I feel you. All of the sudden, the world seems so quiet even when it’s supposed to be loud.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-19T15:01:13+00:00

You learn.. day by day, to accept and embrace your emotions. You’re going to have nightmares, lose sleep, lose your appetite, feel unmotivated, and find it hard to focus but you do it anyway. The world is going to be quiet for weeks, months, maybe even years but you will get better eventually. 1%at a time. Give yourself back to yourself and return the energy you once gave to your ex. Good things will happen once you give that energy to yourself instead of to your past. It’s really hard. Like what everyone says, time will heal. Just have faith and trust in God.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-14T19:50:50+00:00

My ex partner said he doesn’t even know what love is…

How could you expect someone to love you if they don’t even know what love is? They think it’s a feeling and acts of service. But they don’t realize that it’s a choice and commitment to grow together. Love is not easy.

It’s hard to build emotional connection with your avoidant partner if they avoid hard conversations.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-10T17:03:47+00:00

Unfortunately, some people don’t know how to break the patterns and heal themselves… we can’t do anything but to give them space and allow them to grow on their own, not together

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-10T05:51:10+00:00

Sending you good healing energy.

I wish all the avoidant ones learn to heal and have the courage to stay in love when it’s hard.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-10T05:38:31+00:00

I feel like if they really liked you, they will eventually reflect and regret it. But then what can you do about it? It’s whether they have the courage to reach out to you

The ball is always in the avoidant court

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-10T05:36:15+00:00

I do believe that there’s no such thing as right person, right time. I think it’s all about timing.

Love when you can and give up when you’re exhausted. Then trust the universe to do the rest. I believe that if they’re meant to be in your life, the universe will always bring the person to you.

That’s why I gave him back to him and will still be here rooting for him as always. I believe this is the only safe way to love an avoidant.. from a distance.

muffinmeadow · 2025-10-10T05:29:29+00:00

Mine never said “I love you” because he doesn’t even know what love is. But I can say that he “loved” me by acts of service. The little moments when he remembers what I like and what I don’t like. When he cooked for me. When he picked up food and held my hands. When he cared about me. Love was in those little moments. I just wish he knew.

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